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A friend has just cancelled on me. we had planned to go out for lunch today but has just said she can't manage. I am really fuming with her, she is not the most reliable person. I really want to give her a witty reply but can't think of any, i know this sounds really bad but can you give me any?
The reason she cancelled was because her sister sprained her wrist and I really don't see how this can stop her from coming to lunch with me. AIBU to do this?

I have a friend like this and in the end I decided to reclassify the friendship and perhaps this is something you need to do also.

I do think it's very rude of her but it's the way some people are, also that this type of behaviour became more common, sadly, since we all got into texts.

Agree that staying silent is the best option.

Op I am with you on this one as I get annoyed when friends cancel plans too! My reason though is just because I don't have much of a social life so really look forward to the get togethers and value them more than my friends who all have very full and hectic social lives!!

I would of texted 'friend's' sister and say " so sorry to hear you have sprained your wrist hope you get better soon" but I dont have her number.

And also Lunch would of only been a couple of hours, I'm sure her sister could of let my friend go out for that long. .

Good news is that I have arranged to go out for dinner tommorow with another friend.

Thanks everyone for your opinions

Hope other friend doesn't cancel on you :-)

I would reply with "Oh dont worry, I assumed you would bail again and made other plans!"

If she has firm, I wouldn't contact her again, wait for her to get on touch with you and then decide if its a friendship you want to continue

YANBU! And if she cancelled by text that's so rude - a phone call is definitely called for when cancelling at the last minute!
I dealt with my unreliable friend by checking with her when making plans that she wasn't planning on being ill and cancelling - that seemed to do the trick. It might not be a big deal to some people, but a child-free lunch with a friend is a real treat to me, and I'd be really disappointed if my friend cancelled.

It sucks when people do this. You can usually tell when it's a genuine reason for backing out and when the person just can't be bothered and makes up a lame excuse. If someone does this to me more than once, I don't bother making future plans with them. It's better to focus on genuine friends who don't let you down. Hope you have a lovely dinner with your REAL friend OP, and a great half term.

but she has no kids and neither does her sister and mine are on a school trip for half term

So only people with children not at home have lives and commitments of any importance then?

I think some people enjoy being deliberately obtuse.

OP, ditch her, you don't need 'friends' like that.

UptheChimney, I was replying to a question another poster had asked

I wouldn't bother replying to her text and don't make any further contact until she contacts you.

I have no patience with flaky people. They get the benefit of the doubt a handful of times but after that I don't make any further effort. One friend of mine is very flaky and often cancels or is very, very late to meet me so she knows now that if she wants to see me she has to a) contact me and instigate the meet up and b) travel to my house to see me. I refuse to make any effort for her now and certainly refuse to stand around for hours waiting.

I'm really unreliable, I'm very flaky and I often cancel or try to avoid plans at the last minute (I'm getting better though)... It's all because of anxiety with me... Not to make excuses for her but any chance that's what's going on here?

I was about to suggest you make a date with a more reliable friend instead but you're way ahead of me. Hope its enjoyable!