To ask if you didn't get anything for Valentines?

[Valdeeves]

Make me feel better that I'm not the only one - hubby doesn't do romance these days.

we discussed it but we're always doing slavery things for each other.. cuddling, love yous and being connected..we don't need a special day for that.

he did make absolutely sure though in case it was one of those trick 'oh dont bother with me things but don't mean it' Just on the safe side

I never 'do' V day. It's the week before my birthday so I would much rather DP saved his money and imagination for that.
Not that he would do anything for it anyway.

We don't bother with it either. Dh and I are soulmates. Spending £20 in Clintons/M&S on overpriced crap wont alter that.
Made a card with Ds for the bunny though.

Nothing here! No Valentines present/card for 20 years!

Don't need anything - don't want anything. I don't need a commercialised day to tell me how I should be acting romantically eg cards / flowers etc.

Took a good few years for the penny to drop for me on this subject.

What annoys me the most is the way restaurants put on a limited and reduced 'romantic' menu on VD for way more than the usual price. Then they have the cheek to chuck you out after 2 hours to get the table turned around for more customers.

Come to think of it, no Birthday/Christmas presents either!! He doesn't 'know what to buy' !

Oh Blather that's so terrible, I've got the flu and my MIL has been taking the kids to school and looking after the baby, how could he expect you to cope, you do need to give him a short sharp shock

I did pick some bits up for the teenager who cornered me in the kitchen earlier on in the week then asked what girls like for valentines day. Then double checked with his stepdad that i was telling the truth.

To be 14 again..

MsLT "Come to think of it, no Birthday/Christmas presents either!!"

Same here. Again, I'm perfectly happy about that.

Am feeling slightly better that other people think it's awful. I texted my Mum and she told me to "adjust my attitiude" and get on with it because poor DH was a hard working man who would help if he could.

I would have a hard time feeling ok towards my partner if he left me to struggle with the kids when I should be in bed with an awful illness.

I'll hazard a guess that if you returned the favour if/when he gets it and not let him go to bed that he would bugger off to his mothers to rest there no doubt.

Oh dear god, I said to my DH if it wasn't for his mum he would have had to take time off, the flu is not a cold, you can't just soldier on and just because someone is psychically there doesn't mean they are capable to deal with the kids and safe to drive them to school

Blather your mum may not be the best person to advise you. Too close. Family patterns etc.

Your dh needs a kick up the arse.

Totally agree with the commercial love day statement! We don't do valentines day, we both object to being told that we have to do something, give something, say 'I love you" on a specific day - where's the spontaneity or the romance in that??! To me, valentines day is for teens (and even then I object to the commercial side but appreciate that shy teens might want something to give them a little push )

We went out for a nice meal last night instead of tonight as have kids over tonight. Ended up in a huge row after some particularly tactless comments from him and came home where I decided to sleep in the DSCs room and he tipped the water from the roses he'd bought me for today down the sink and threw them on the hall floor. So in theory yes I did get flowers 'a waste of £25' and I did probably get the end of my 3 year relationship! I definitely didn't get a warm, loving feeling

We don't do hearts and flowers here, but a small card and a token pressie (otherwise dd complains about us ).

DP got a couple of small books, one on Victorian Asylums, and one on old cinemas. I got Skyfall on DVD so I can drool over Daniel Craig at my leisure!

Im single, so got a text then asked out for dinner with wine and flowers but I cba

We went out for a meal last night and then swapped cards this morning but no gifts. We have got too many other things that need our money spent on them. It will probably be the same for our Wedding Anniversaries too.

Nope haven't done it since teenagers, not really bothered.

I did give him a large hug and told him I hoped he got through the day, he has a fully booked restaurant of couples awaiting a meal of true love

So far nothing from dh. I'm not sure he even realises its Valentine's Day.

I'm relieved though - I didn't get him anything either!

I certainly didn't feel particularly safe driving them to school this morning.

There is a mean part of me hoping he catches this so I can fuck off out and leave him with the kids to look after single handedly while he feels like his lungs are on fire

Nothing yet from DP. If I'm honest, I am a bit upset, as usually he is totally over the top sloppy. I did tell him not to make a big fuss (as I know he doesn't have much money and I do know he loves me anyway), but said a card would be nice.

I got him a card and really nice smellies, but I didn't do that because I wanted something back. I know he will probably go into town on his way home today and get a card and flowers, but if I'm honest I would have preferred just a card that he had thought about beforehand, and not a panic tit-for-tat present.

But I am aware that I probably sound about 12 :(

I did not get anything either and we dint usually bother
But
My six year old has made a girl in his class a card, done beautiful handwriting and then went into to class today and sneaked it into her drawer...
I
Felt
A
Tinge
Of
Jealousy

nothing but I am expecting some homemade cards from the DCs later as its my birthday today as well. Not expecting anything Valentines or Birthday related from DH

Yes I did. Got flowers and chocolates. He knows I am on a diet so why buy chocolates! And these horrible cheap red roses which have no scent and very dark in colour. But a nice card. I know I should be grateful but!!!