To ask if you didn't get anything for Valentines?

[Valdeeves]

Make me feel better that I'm not the only one - hubby doesn't do romance these days.

Nope, we both agree its a waste of money.
I'm tight though, and have been known to get pissed off if DH buys me something too expensive for Christmas.

We only do cards - my choice. Such a relief. I love worldgonecrazy's idea though!

I got a reluctant kiss on the cheek, with no mention of valentines day. We always did Valentines day until 3 years ago when DH decided not to bother anymore but didn't tell me. No doubt this evening there will be an apology, an excuse probably "I bought a card but I can't remember where I've put it" (somewhere in this house there is a stack of forgotten cards which I will find when we have a massive clear out Honest!!) and I will then spend the evening sitting on the sofa watching shit on TV on my own again!

We don't celebrate it either, never have done. I feel a bit about the idea we have to express love on a particular date. I do enjoy the special offers on champagne though and will be taking advantage later on tonight

Nope, not me, no one to give me one

I just said 'Happy Valentines Day' to DS though and he replied 'oh no! I forgot to make a card for ...' (His best friend -a boy).

I told him he doesn't need to make one for his friend, he replied 'I know but I want to, not a slushy one though a War Hammer one!'

Not sure he gets it!

We'd said no gifts, partly because of commercialism and partly costs. I made him a card and tucked it into his lunch box and bought him a £2 heart chocolate, just token stuff. I then find last night he's spent another £23 on crap styling bits he doesn't need for his car (sun blinds apparently, our youngest is 16!!) and he's put in an offer of £40+ for some other car styling bit.
With that in mind I just bought myself a new Sherlock hoodie and text him to thank him, but not before I sent this text this morning...

Roses are red
I was trying to show thrift
Thats why I said
Do not bother with gift
Violets are blue
There is nothing for me
But a set of baby blinds
For the car I do see
Easter is coming
I expect not a treat
But perhaps match your blinds
With a new baby seat.

Dh and I celebrate anniversaries - to us Valentines is for the dating stage and after 9 years of marriage I'm not bothered, hetells me he loves me all the time. He did text me an hour ago to say sorry forgot to say happy Valentines. I actually got a text from my old best friend from school before dh (friend and I always sent cards to each other before boyfriends came along).

I'm really pissed off tbh. When he asked if there was something I'd like, I took him to the shop where there was a ring I wanted, got the assistant to write down the details and size with him standing there. And he's gone and bought a different one. The one I wanted was in the sale and now it's off the website so I can't even get it for myself. I would have been quite happy to buy it myself then and there but he said he was getting it.

I'm doubly cross because for the past 2 years I've gone to quite a lot of effort to organise lovely stuff.

I'm thinking of sending back the merino t shirt I got him and going and buying a hideous purple spotty shite one instead.

We first got together 28 years ago today so it's not just a VDay thing. and

No but I'm single My DD gave me a card and she is my valentine

I'm going to M and S later to buy one of those meal things to eat all too myself!

No we don't bother. I don't agree that DH should feel obliged to show me he loves me just because of the date on the calendar. I know he does and through the many little things he does during the whole year.

We don't give cards to each other really only for birthdays (so not Christmas or anniversaries either). We are both happy with this and there is no expectation from either side. I dont judge those who do the whole thing, just that this works for us

We don't do it either, haven't for years! He'll bring home some spring daffodils for me when the prices go back to normal tomorrow though.

Nothing here. Doesn't really show love any other day so today no different. He might take out the recycling if I'm lucky......

No, nothing here either. DH has always pulled the "it's a load of commercial rubbish, no-one should tell me when to be romantic, etc, etc", tosh, like he's being so original .

I might try that on Father's Day, see how he likes that.

Nothing here but going through a rough patch so didn't expect it! I genuinely haven't had time to get to shops so haven't got dh anything either and won't out of principal

We don't bother with flower-mafia day although this morning I did get a sweet message on my handbag saying "Morning , took 30 Eur from your wallet! thanks! Happy Valentines Day, Love you tons, DH x"

So, a minus 30 Euro present- is that a record yet? It's probably payback as last night I roared with laughter too long and loud at a mean Tourettes joke (I thought my wife had Tourettes, took her to the docs and the good news is she doesn't, the bad news is I'm a f-ing c).

No presents or cards here

Ds1 made a heart out of a paper clip the other day, I asked him if he was going to give it to someone he loved...he said no, so I said are you sure, no one in this room? On this sofa even????

Got it in the end!!!! Not 100%sure what I am going to do with it...

Dd got a card that some of the boys had made in science class, it's got a picture of a heart and brain on it and inside it explains how your brain reacts

Actually I think we might be better off without all that romance.....

No, didn't expect anything, didn't get him anything, we just don't do it. Dd2's boyfriend has just turned up with a dozen red roses though. Sweet!

I have flu. Proper flu not just a really bad cold. (D)H decided that meetings at work were more important and left me to dress the kids and do the school run despite being in tears and vomiting from the pain in my chest.

His only attempt to help was giving them breakfast and making the packed lunches. He knows that I can't get any help anywhere else as I've asked and everyone is busy. DS's teacher looked horrified when she saw me and offered to look after DS so that I could at least go and sit in the warmth of the car (and take my germs away from the kids) while I waited to drop DD off at pre school.

To be honest, I'm considering celebrating Valentines day by dropping a bag of his stuff off at his Mum's and asking him not to come home tonight.

My Dp called me a fucking dog for valentines. I have just dumped him! Go me!

Nothing here. DH is away and is back tonight. Will be amazed if he gets me anything. But I'm not bothered really. I'll buy some flowers when I go to Sainsburys later but I tend to do that fairly regularly anyway. Might treat myself to a mini bottle of fizz!

Might even buy him a card and a packet of wine gums!

PareickStar - your Valentines Day present was your X showing you his true colours. Sorry he was such a pig but you are better off. Onward and upwards! Go and treat yourself to something nice just for you.

and and

Not a sausage, just like the other 14 v days we have been together . If I had got something I would have been a bit scared he was up to something! He's loving and caring all 364 days a year though so can't complain.

Blatherskite - to you too. . Can you go back to bed?

Yes. I've got until 2pm to sleep now that both kids are at school but then I need to do the school runs again. Have called doctor and she's told me that I can double up on paracetamol and ibuprofen and I have another appointment for later for if I'm not feeling better. It's not working so far so I think I'll definitely be there.

You did it Patrick? Go you!!