My dd is 10 and is asking me quite frequently for the likes of msn, facebook, skype and the likes.
I have said no, no, no and no!
Aibu in not allowing her access to these?
I see nothing but stranger danger signs all around it and i dont know if i am just being over cautious or not
Please or to access all these features
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to access all these features
AIBU?
to not allow my dd facebook, msn etc
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wontletmesignin · 09/02/2014 16:58
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Philoslothy ·
09/02/2014 20:41
As a rule I don't trust my children. I check on them constantly. 
chicaguapa ·
09/02/2014 20:45
These threads always go the same way. People say they don't want their DDc on social media. Then those whose DC are on it feel that their parenting skills are being criticised so go on the attack. I'm not quite sure how constructive it is to generalise and say that DC must be allowed on social media if they want to and that restricting that is always going to end in tears. People know their DC and there's enough anecdotal evidence from both sides to show that the DC turn out ok either way. Presumably this is because the tack taken was the best one for the individual DC?
We have an Internet safety evening at DD's school this week. DD's coming with me so she can hear it first hand from her teachers. This is part of her education as IMO better to educate before access is given which is the stage we're at at the moment.
In my case DD is a stickler for rules and I couldn't give a hoot if every single 12 yo in the world was on Facebook, but I'm not teaching my DD that it's ok to pretend she's older just so she can get a profile.
I have explained why she can't have a social media account yet because a) I don't think she's mature enough or b) I don't understand it enough myself yet to be able to teach her to use it safely (in the case of instagram and snap chat etc). But she knows it's up for discussion if that changes.
I've shown her profiles and what identifying and public information is out there. We've even googled her classmates and seen them in the results. I know she's not ready for that and she does too as she's not asked for it. She's still googling pictures of hamsters FFS!
So I'm happy with my choices and rules because I know my DD. I'm also 100% confident that both DC will be fully adjusted and ready for life at college or uni by the time they go, with plenty of common sense and the necessary skills to assess danger. So thankfully I'll be able to sleep tonight. 
TalkinPeace ·
09/02/2014 21:12
why does a 10 year old need an iphone?
if you are not going to activate internet access?
if its on a contract, he will be activating data
so he will be using browsers
and the FB app does not need a browser
TeenageAdvice15 ·
09/02/2014 22:02
I'm a 15 year old girl and my parents have NEVER monitored my internet use. I've used Facebook from the age of 10 and don't recall ever asking for my parents permission to get instagram, snapchat etc 
I'm allowed gadgets in my room and always have done and have a smartphone and laptop with no parental controls. My parents have never talked to me about internet safety yet through common sense and talks at school I make sure that in safe online.
All of you saying your kids will not have Facebook etc until they are 13 are being very naive. 90% of my year had Facebook from year 7. They will just get an account and not tell you it's not exactly hard. I got cyber bullied through Facebook and texts in year 7 which resulted in my moving classes etc but I never stopped using it. While there are dark sides to social media such as cyber bullying it is also a great way to talk to friends and share photos/videos.
Just out of interest, why do some of you take gadgets out of your kids rooms as night? I have my iPhone charging by my bed every night and I make sure I'm off it by 11 and go to sleep. If I stay awake later then the only one who suffers is me because I am tired the next day.
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