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AIBU to take ds out of school

55 replies

Sadoldbag · 05/02/2014 22:35

We're going away for the weekend and I plan to pick up ds early he will miss double PE which is his last lesson hes in year nine

he has had 100% attendance since year 7 and I really don't want to pull a sickie and take the whole day off

He has not seen his grandparents in 2 years(we finally managed to scrape the £400 together to go) they live in In Ireland and were hoping to to go Friday in a come back Sunday night

AIBU i am prepared to I get flamed

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Sadoldbag · 05/02/2014 22:39

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maddy68 · 06/02/2014 00:49

Doctors appointment :)

Dromedary · 06/02/2014 00:57

Double PE is very missable. Go for it.

yolothankgod · 06/02/2014 01:05

I would , just make him do some star jumps and a few laps when you get their Grin

OldBagWantsNewBag · 06/02/2014 01:06

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PansOnFire · 06/02/2014 02:42

YANBU, but be careful about the dr/dentist app as they might require proof. I'd just milk the 'we haven't seen them' and add some elderly health issues in there too. They might allow you to take him. Otherwise, unless he takes the whole day as sick he might not be able to go. Some schools just don't send kids home if they are feeling ill, it has to be very obvious that they cannot stay in school so it might not be worth the risk.

kreecherlivespstairs · 06/02/2014 06:21

Absolutely no doubt in my mind he should go. Double PE is not an academic subject that he will be taking an exam in - unless my DD is lying to me which is highly likely.
In minikreech world, you get an exam mark for rock climbing. We live in the flattest county in England.

SuburbanRhonda · 06/02/2014 06:27

If you are taking him out for the last lesson of the day, he will have been marked in for the afternoon, so this will not be recorded as an absence. There is absolutely no issue here.

Just please ignore all the posts that recommend lying to the school and asking your DS to collude in the lie.

SuburbanRhonda · 06/02/2014 06:29

kreecher, you can do a BTEch or GCSE in PE.

Bunbaker · 06/02/2014 06:54

And the GCSE in PE is an academic subject and involves a lot of essay writing.

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:04

I can't see the issue. I wouldn't lie or take the whole day off sick! Just tell them you are collecting early to go to Ireland. As SuburbanRhonda says, he already has a mark. Just make sure he is signed out. At the worst, one hour's unauthorised absence, in a year, isn't going to blight his record!

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:05

I can't see where a GCSE or other exam comes into it- he is year 7.

AuntieStella · 06/02/2014 07:06

I wouldn't pull a sickie for him (I think I is wrong to haverhe child lie to classmates and school) and widespread lying by the healthy is making it horribly hard for the genuinely ill.

Ask for permission for him to leave early. It won't affect their absence stats as he'll be there for registration.

If you think they'll be difficult about releasing him, ask him to leave at lunchtime and have half a day unauthorised.

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:14

I think it better to have the unauthorised than teach a child that it is OK to lie. It makes it sound as if there is something wrong with your request,when it is perfectly reasonable. Go with AuntieStella's suggestion.

vestandknickers · 06/02/2014 07:15

Not unreasonable. I'd tell the school the truth though. I'm sure they'll be fine about it.
Have fun.

mysteryfairy · 06/02/2014 07:28

OP says he's in year nine so not sure where the year seven comment comes from.

PE is a part of the national curriculum. I always raged when my DC's first school used missing pe as a punishment as it was withdrawing their entitlement to part of the curriculum. Therefore I think as a parent I would treat it was the same respect as any other lesson.

It's half term in a couple of weeks - why not go then?

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 06/02/2014 07:31

Tell them you are picking him up early. You may get an unauthorised absence mark and a fine but it's unlikely.

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:32

Sorry - I saw the year 7 in bold. In that case of course he can go. One hour off in 2 and a half years is hardly problem attendance!!

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:33

I wouldn't give it the same respect as other lessons. He can catch up on some exercise over the weekend.

MrsKCastle · 06/02/2014 07:37

I agree that you should tell the school the truth.

I think the fact that it's PE is irrelevant though. PE is important, and is part of the curriculum. My answer would be the same if it were maths or English. Missing one lesson is not the end of the world, and you have a good reason.

TamerB · 06/02/2014 07:39

I would take them out whatever the lesson but then they need to catch up with what they missed- PE has the advantage of not needing to.

ButterflyJenn14 · 06/02/2014 07:47

I am an education welfare assistant and deal with attendance at school, I think if he has 100% attendance then just tell the school that you are going away on Friday afternoon. I wouldn't lie to them, we are not as stupid as we look! Just pick him up as late as possible. If he gets his afternoon mark he will still have 100% attendance anyway picking him up an hr/2 hrs early won't change that.

Next time just try and book it so that no school is missed at all.

Hope you have a lovely time.

SuburbanRhonda · 06/02/2014 08:17

Tamer, I would like to be there when you tell your DCs PE teacher that you don't have the same respect for their subject as for other subjects Hmm

LEMmingaround · 06/02/2014 08:26

Just take him out early

wonderingsoul · 06/02/2014 08:27

i really dont see the problem...

just tell them your be picking him up early as your going away.. they cant stop you.. it wont affect anything as he'll have been marked in at lunch

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