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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not want more children?

52 replies

Esmatilda · 04/02/2014 21:29

We have two adorable little girls - 2 1/2 years and 9 months. I'm 35 and feel our family is complete but DH told me today that we will definitely be having another child. I suspect that he would like a DS to carry on his name but for a number of reasons (including financial, house/car size, no family near by, etc.) I want to stop where we are and enjoy the family. His argument is that if I don't want to give him another child then he will find a woman who will. AIBU to not want more children?

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Joysmum · 04/02/2014 21:32

You know you're not. He's being a selfish twat.

squoosh · 04/02/2014 21:32

Your DH told you that you'd definitely be having a third? And he'll find a woman who will give him a child if you won't?

You know what people are going to tell you don't you?

bigbarns · 04/02/2014 21:33

Speechless, and that rarely happens...

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 04/02/2014 21:33

If that's his attitude I'd ask him to make sure he shut the door on his way out.

verytellytubby · 04/02/2014 21:35

He sounds like a charmer. Is he for real????

CoffeeTea103 · 04/02/2014 21:35

Off course you know what everyone will say!

PansOnFire · 04/02/2014 21:35

Obviously YANBU

Ask him to think about what he's saying, he sounds like an arse.

AdoraBell · 04/02/2014 21:43

YANBU

and if my DH said what your's Did I would book an appointment with a solicitor.

morethanpotatoprints · 04/02/2014 21:44

Kick the bugger out now. What an arse.
Ask him to clarify first?
Sorry, he's more than as arse he's a banker

OTheHugeManatee · 04/02/2014 21:46

He's being a dick.

Sammie101 · 04/02/2014 21:47

If my DP said this to me I'd tell him to buggar off and find her then and stop wasting my time!

What an utterly selfish prick Confused

Only1scoop · 04/02/2014 21:47

Yanbu....
What he has said is disgusting....and very hard to take back Hmm

PleaseNoScar · 04/02/2014 21:47

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Iwannalaylikethisforever · 04/02/2014 21:48

Hold the front door open and chuck his clothes out, with him closely followed. The search for another woman starts now. What a twat!

Mim78 · 04/02/2014 21:48

That is shocking. Can he possibly have meant that the way it came out?

How can he think he can tell you whether or not you are having another child?

Does he usually behave in this way?

akachan · 04/02/2014 21:49

Is this an odd reverse to prove a point?

Women on here who want another baby when their DH doesn't are often told to tell him they'll have to leave to have a baby with someone else.

Anyway YANBU (if this is not bullsbit) but obviously if a third child is very important to him and you don't want one then finding another woman is his only option.

Bearbehind · 04/02/2014 21:50

I can't actually believe the title of your thread isn't 'To kick my twat of a husband out for saying he'll shag someone else if I don't give him another child'

Seriously, having another child with this dick is the least of your worries.

MojitoMadness · 04/02/2014 21:50

Wow! ShockI'd be showing him the door and telling him fuck off and go and find another woman then! Cheeky fucker! Hmm

misskatamari · 04/02/2014 21:50

I wouldn't count on having his name "carried on" if he had a ds either - or it not being carried on by your dd. My husband took my surname as did one of my close friends and I'm sure such things will be even more common when your children grow up and marry.

What an arse!

fancyanotherfez · 04/02/2014 22:00

akachan women who want a first child with an unwilling partner are often told to leave, but those who want a third are hardly ever told to break up an existing family that I have seen. As others have said, he's being an utter moron. Tell him to get lost and never have sex with him again

Fishandjam · 04/02/2014 22:02

If my DH had said that to me he'd have needed an appointment with a dentist, never mind a solicitor.

akachan · 04/02/2014 22:06

fancyanotherfez

Agreed the advice would be a bit more balanced and cautious but there certainly wouldn't be a load of posts calling her an arse, a fucker, a selfish prick and a twat.

Original poster
Esmatilda · 04/02/2014 22:06

Erm thanks all. Now to try and explain once again why we are not having a third. And akachan, had to lol - not bs. He is one of three and i guess this is one of the reasons he wants a big family himself.

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akachan · 04/02/2014 22:09

Fair enough Esma and apologies. It's odd though you have to admit. Did you really think the answer would be "oh yes YABU, have another at once".

PumpkinPie2013 · 04/02/2014 22:10

Shock words fail me!!!