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To feel like my car is 2nd best?

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GhostsInSnow · 04/02/2014 13:23

Apologies, this might be long.

I drive a 14 year old clio, it's relatively low mileage and so far has been reasonably problem free, however, it's getting on now and little niggles have appeared most notably the central locking has stopped working, it goes through phases of refusing to start and it's developed a judder. Now I know the basics of car mechanics but my experience is mostly with classics, I'm a bit lost with more modern cars so narrowing down the problems is now beyond me.

In the time I've owned the Clio DH has owned about 4 new cars. Now thats fair enough, I don't do many miles and don't need to replace the Clio (couldn't afford to anyway) but I'm starting to get annoyed. He bought another car in November and while he was waiting for it to be finalised he'd borrowed mine for his motorway commute. When he handed it back it was with a chipped windscreen, empty of petrol and filthy, he's promised to get it washed and still hasn't done it.

Every weekend since he's played with his car. He's fitted a huge double din stereo, reversing cameras, permanent recording cameras in the front, his private plate has gone on it, every sunday it gets taken to the hand carwash etc. In the meantime mine is sat in the garage, still filthy and still having problems.

I'm afraid the straw that broke the camels back just came when he called at lunch telling me how some bloke on his car forum has offered him something else he doesn't need for £100 and what do I think. I got a bit annoyed and told him that he wasn't being at all fair and I needed my car sorted please and no more money was to be thrown at his. His excuses ranged from 'I know nothing about central locking on a clio' (he knew nothing about his car either but happily sits hours researching it when it's got issues) to 'you don't remind me at the weekend' (yet some weekends he'll shift mine onto the road to play about with his!)

Frankly I'm utterly fed up, I'm driving a filthy, juddering shed. To lock the car I have to press the door lock button within the car then manually lock the doors so if I need anything out of the boot I then have to get back in the car, press the button then lock the drivers door from the outside. It's a pain in the arse.
I've set an alarm on my phone for 11am on Saturday morning to remind me to tell him to fix my car.
I'm not BU here am I?

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LessMissAbs · 04/02/2014 17:13

£2000 for a 14 yo Renault Clio?! Surely you mean £200!

TheDoctorsNewKidneys · 04/02/2014 17:24

No way will you get £2000 for a 14 year old car, OP. Sorry, it won't happen. You'll get £500 at the very most.

GhostsInSnow · 04/02/2014 17:26

Ummmm the £2k was for the TR7....

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Inertia · 04/02/2014 17:29

Leave first, drive DH's car.

GhostsInSnow · 04/02/2014 17:34

Inertia, had considered that but he leaves for work at 6am Shock

He has faithfully promised to have a look this weekend AND to wash it. We shall see.

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cannotfuckingbelievethis · 04/02/2014 17:36

LTB.....and take the car of course.

GhostsInSnow · 10/02/2014 16:59

Well, my car is clean, running less like a bag of spanners and still not locking properly. Hmm
Apparently when he'd charged the battery last time he hadn't tightened one of the connections properly, which was possibly causing the juddering. He's cleaned the plugs etc and I concede it is running a lot smoother.
He is in agreement though that it's probably the electrics on their way out all round. This weekend he plans to strip down the little box which receives the central locking signal as he's read that can rust and cause issues.

In the meantime I was having a moan to my Mum (I'm an only child, Mum is nearly 80 so I take her shopping, hospital appointments etc), she's told me to save what I can until summer, sell the TR7 for a deposit, plod on with the Clio which will hopefully keep going and she'll give me £120 a month towards finance on a new car. Grin

For the first time in my life I might not be driving a shed Grin

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HauntedNoddyCar · 10/02/2014 20:36

Ah that's better news all round then :) Apart from selling the TR7. Nice of your mum too.

GhostsInSnow · 14/02/2014 08:16

it was all going so well when last night he asked me to make a PayPal payment to someone on his bloody forums for more tat he's bought for the car... not only has he paid £23 for a set of "sun blinds" (they are bloody baby blinds, our eldest is 16 ffs) but he's insisted it sent as a gift payment so should they not arrive or be knackered I'm not even PayPal covered. I was not a happy bunny last night it's safe to say. He'd promised me no more crap. when I complained he had the nerve to moan about something he'd bought me for Christmas!

I was even more annoyed because I'd said nothing for Valentine's as we can't really afford it. woke up to a twee poem he's sent via text from work, still annoyed so fired this back....

Roses are red
I was trying to show thrift
That's why I said
Do not bother with gift
Violets are blue
There is nothing for me
But a set of baby blinds
For the car I do see.
Easter is coming
I expect not a treat
But perhaps match your blinds
With a new baby seat?

Love you too.

I am so buying myself a box of chocolates. Grin

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