AIBU to dislike people putting photos of my baby on Facebook?

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I'm not on Facebook because I don't really like it and have no use for it, but I know it's a big thing for some people. My DH has an account and a few times after we've seen friends or family he has shown me a photo someone has taken of our baby (sometimes I'm in the photo too) and put on their Facebook page. This always makes me uncomfortable and a bit cross. People never ask if they can publish the photos. AIBU to think this is at best bad manners, at worst a damn cheek? I feel very protective of my baby's privacy. I accept it's the age of technology but it still feels wrong. AIBU?

They really should ask first! How rude!
I'm the sort of person who would make a fuss and tell them to take it down. Tell them you're not happy, they really should respect your wishes!

It is wrong, and people are complete twats for doing this without your consent. What I have taken to doing is saying 'Yes you can take a photo, but please dont put pictures on FB because I want to keep photos off the internet.' I really cant be bothered being challenged on this, because I am of the opinion live and let live. I dont judge other people if they choose to put photos online of their kids, but likewise they should respect my parental decision not to put photos online of my kid. Im so tired of getting messages that say 'When are you putting pics up' from people who i wouldnt even meet up with for a coffee. I hate that assumption, as in 'when are you' rather than 'are you.' If i were you id have serious words with the culprits. Make them bloody see sense because that is NOT on.

Oh, & YANBU!!

Don't ever have photos of your baby taken then - easy.

People treat Facebook like a photo album so you have to expect them to put the photos they have taken on their camera on it - in the Olde days the photo would have been stuck in a book and hnded around.

That said I hate Facebook.

YANBU. DH and I decided not to put pictures on FB but the assumption amongst friends is to put them up then ask/not ask at all. I ask them to take them down but if they didn't there is very little I can do.

I have no problem with my family putting pics up, as I am the secerity setting are tight ( i know because i check them for them) but would be livid and report pics that I havent been asked before hand

It peeves me off that people are basically handing these photos over to Facebook, so that they actually own them without seeking consent from the parents. This is why im not getting a family portrait done, because you can be sure that the photographer will put it on their business fb as advertising. Nothing is sacred anymore.

How does your DH feel about it?

YANBU. It is perfectly reasonable to not want facebook to own photos of your baby. I'm on fb but never put photos of my nephew on there as I know my DBIL hates it.

YANBU. I've just had to tell Dhs cousin off for putting a picture of DD as her profile picture without asking.

Sirzy - my DH is exceptionally laid back about just about everything (which can be a help or a hindrance depending on the situation) - he doesn't seem to mind which is part of the reason I posted here before making an issue of it - I wondered if it was just me being old fashioned!

I think if he doesn't mind then you need to sit down and talk to him explain your worries and decide how you will approach things together. Its not a right or wrong type situation just people with different views - perhaps ask people who are posting pictures to make sure they have their security so that only friends can view the pictures?

Everlong, does her reasoning actually matter? Its the principle of the thing really. Im sure you can imagine a long list of reasons why someone might not want photos of their kids online, even if you dont agree with it.

In any other circumstances, it would be unlawful to put the picture of someone on a public website such as facebook wo the consent of the person. Adult or child.
It's an issue with privacy (which means that a photographer is in NO WAY allowed to do that wo your agreement!).

The problem is with friends and family who think that because they know you and are close to you, then it doesn't matter. WRONG!
They might not understand why you are so 'careful' but they can NOT put photos of another person wo their consent.

What is it exactly that you are worried about?

everlong whatever the reason for the OP not to want their photo or their baby's photo on FB is their problem and has nothing to do with the issue.

By the way, could you explain why the OP should stop anyone to take a photo of her child 'because they might be putting it on FB'? Is it that you consider that people will not be able to act within the law and stop themselves from doing putting a photo ion FB?
Talk about blaming the victim!

I don't think it matters what anybody else thinks on this particular issue regarding their own kith and kin.

Your baby, your rules.

What exactly is the problem about friends and family putting photo's on Facebook btw?

I'm a bit this^^

I'm no big FB advocate, but for me it (along with Instagram) is primarily a way to share photos with close family and friends and feel connected with their lives. I don't care who owns the images (I say that even as a semi-pro photographer) and I don't care who sees them.

I respect that it does bother others though so wouldn't post photos of them or their DCs unless I was sure they were comfortable with it.

This is why I hate Fakebook & deleted my account. My MIL is always posting photos of DD on hers, makes me really cross. Apparently I'm being precious, even with the ones where she's got nothing on. (she's a baby in those ones.)

What exactly is the problem about friends and family putting photo's on Facebook btw?

For me this is the equivalent of someone standing in the town centre and handing out endless copies a photo of my child to anyone who wants one. Wouldn't you question that?

My family are continually posting photos of my children on facebook without asking first, usually when they are with their own children. In one they were all in their swimming costumes ffs. I had that one removed... Eventually. It's an invasion of privacy.

I also hate posts on other people's facebook. " having a lovely coffee in Costa with Stripy and the kids". Who can be interested in this stuff?