AIBU to suggest that every month when me period arrives I slightly surprised

[RoseRedder]

I am a women a grown up women

I have never got to grip with my cycle and I'm always taken by surprise and usually have a small pant accident every single month

Do other people have this or I'm I just weird by not knowing my cycle?

I'm not surprised but I'm getting really annoyed. I'm coming up on 49 and every month Flo comes to town. I was a right evil woman to all and sundry on Thursday. I could not figure out why I was so angry, until I looked at calendar and figured my period was due. I am sitting here clutching my iPad and a hot water bottle..

Secret I'm with you. I'm 50 fer chrissakes, I'm now on a bang on 28 day schedule with pmt from day 18-24, carb craving in same period (scuse pun) ready to kill days 20-24. Until I was about 46 periods al over the place - but 30 - 40 day cycle. So now have period for a week and pmt type stuff for a week every 4 weeks, ie 50% of my life! Can't wait for the menopause frankly.

I had my last two children at 40 and 45 so don't know if this has had any impact?

Jayho, I had my last child at 42. Sonewhere around the age of 47 my periods got a tiny but funky and let me to believe I might be starting perimenopause.

This might be tmi(forgive me) it does seem the...erm..quality..of my menstrual blood has changed. I feel as if the lining of uterus could not support another pregnancy.

I have an app on my iphone that is really good. The downside is I panic when I am a day or two late, but it is generally very helpful.

It also helped me realise than the shooting leg pain I was getting every month happened when I was ovulating.

I'm on the pill at the moment so know when I'm due by how many pills are left in my pack. But when I'm not taking the pill I mark which day I've come on in my diary with a little tick, and then count forwards 4 weeks and note I should be due on around then.

I was given a little chart all those years ago at school to track which days you're on and how heavy. Still do that now as I suffer with extremely bad periods and it's useful for doctor/ hospital appointments.

I never used to remember till I downloaded an app to my phone.

BertieBotts..... when I started having periods my mum gave me a pocket diary & drilled into me the importance of marking down the date my period started every month. Every year, even now (Im turning 40), my mum puts a diary in my stocking at Christmas

Although the desperate headache 2 days before hand is also quite handy .

I do record mine on an app but every sodding month it arrives anywhere between 4 days late or 4 days early. I've even recording them on this app for 2 years and it still can't accurately predict when my next period will start because of my stupid cycle.

What app is it?

By 'accidents', do you mean you get blood on your knickers when it starts? Everyone does, surely?

I tend to feel heavier and more achy so I try to remember to carry stuff for it, then I feel it starting at some point, go to the loo, see the blood and sort myself out.

Am I different to normal?

Although I just mentioned this thread to my boyfriend, who paused for a moment to count in his head and told me I'm due on Tuesday. I do feel pre menstral now I think of it.

Strange man.

The app I use is just called Period Tracker

play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.period.tracker.lite&hl=en_GB

CouthyMow I used to use Always until they started to stink due to that awful perfume. Picked up some budget price supermarket ones and to my amazement they are fantastic.

People record their periods? Wow, thirty five and I've never thought of that! I can never remember when it's due,and even when TTC I've never been able to remember the date of my LMP. I'm not a very organised person though, and I do carry tampons with me at all times.

oh I never know, get dh to remind me from his phone.. he tracks if for me.

got a mirena now though so no periods now ha ha and yippee!!

I track teen dds though!

Haha, NotBritta, when DH and I first started dating and I wasn't on the pill, he always knew when I was due before I did - almost to the day, was freaky.

Couthy that's awful, can you see a different GP? I found "Cottons" a good brand of disposables as they don't add any perfumes and they're about the same price as normal Always. Also lil-lets pads are very good and non perfumey.

Thanks squoosh

I fucking hate periods. I am not looking forward to giving birth and dealing with them again..

But I always know, I wake up feeling like shit.

I also have an app which predicts them to the day and it was never wrong. 22 days in between each cycle

Thats the app I use too Squoosh.

I always have pads and tampons stored away in my handbag. It doesn't just help me, it's also useful when my colleagues get caught out.

At the age of forty, I am surprised most times. Although recently I kind of get a feeling that sends me to the loo so less of an accident. I am also just about able to recognise pmt for what it is (everyone is being as annoying as usual only I can't deal with it!) rather than believing the world had become a hostile place peopled with fools hell bent on thwarting all my plans.

My periods have never been regular but in the past few years they've been utterly unpredictable as I have a fibroid and am using two types of contraception. Each period lasts anywhere between 7-26 days as well. I use an Android phone tracker but even that just makes wild guesses at when the next one will start. I wear a menstrual cup every day throughout the month and panty liners, as I never know when my period will start. I find it helpful for collecting discharge between periods as well.

I'm quite lucky as I don't really have cramps or bloating though, my main pms symptom is grumpiness but it's everyone else who has to live with that! And I get grumpy for other reasons so not always a reliable predictor!