To be really annoyed with dh?

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Went out at 5 to watch the rugby and have a few drinks with friends. I was invited but didn't fancy it. Rolls in a 9 after texting to say he would be back at 8

I know it's only a hour later but I am really annoyed. Was thinking we would spend Saturday night together with a nice bottle of wine, watching a box set. Instead I was bored and watching crap tv alone. I know 9 is not late but to me the evening is over and I just thought we would spend Saturday together. Would have been fine if he'd said he'd be out for the night but was expecting him home. When he was late began to get worried too.

YABU.....you were invited after all.....

Really? I am among the first to wade in when men are ripping the piss with regards to free time while the wee wifey tends the home. But he was an HOUR late!

YaBU

It is only an hour, and you could have done something else instead of watching crap on TV.

yANBU to be a little bit annoyed, but not really annoyed.

Life is too short. Be nice to each other.

Could you not have got out a box set on your own? It isn't compulsory to watch crap TV if you're on your own. It's actually allowed to do something enjoyable.

I quite like an evening to myself, as does DH. Much as we enjoy spending time together.

You were bored and watching crap TV alone because you didn't want to go out.

YABU. The six nations is five matches a year. He came home at 9 on a Saturday night. It's a non-story.

Yabu.

You should've gone out with him, you didn't have to stay in on your own and 9pm on a Saturday night is early!!

Yabvvvvvvvu.

YABU. He was hardly 'out for the night'. He was home by 9!

Omg an hour that's it. If he came in at midnight, threw up and passed out then you would have a right to be annoyed

YABU.

Really? You are pissed off because you didn't want to go and you couldn't be bothered to entertain yourself? Based on what you have posted, you really sound like hard work.

Good lord

LTB

Did you communicate your sat night plan to him or did you expect him to be psychic and know anyway? He was only an hour late and I would imagine assumed you preferred a quiet night on your own given you had refused the invite out.

YABU, you knew he was going out and you were invited but you still planned an evening in together. Did you even communicate your expectations to him? Plans change and it's not a disaster to be one hour late home, especially if he didn't know you had anything planned so didn't think he had to rush back. TBH I would only start to worry when DH was an hour late.

sorry you are feeling pissed off :O( you can wake up smug and non-hung-over tomorrow (unlike your husband though) and crash some pots and pans about tomorrow morning if you feel like it.

Not sure you can 'roll in' at 9pm. Rolling in is reserve for after 1am surely. He went out after a rugby match to drink. Did you really expect him back early enough and sober enough to snuggle up with a film?

An hour is nothing. Have your cosy night in together tomorrow or next week.

Do you have any children?

seriously?!

YABU and a bit odd

I'm in agreement with the previous posters. This all sounds a bit needy and demanding to me.