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To be really annoyed with dh?

51 replies

cleoowen · 01/02/2014 21:40

Went out at 5 to watch the rugby and have a few drinks with friends. I was invited but didn't fancy it. Rolls in a 9 after texting to say he would be back at 8

I know it's only a hour later but I am really annoyed. Was thinking we would spend Saturday night together with a nice bottle of wine, watching a box set. Instead I was bored and watching crap tv alone. I know 9 is not late but to me the evening is over and I just thought we would spend Saturday together. Would have been fine if he'd said he'd be out for the night but was expecting him home. When he was late began to get worried too.

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cleoowen · 01/02/2014 22:13

It's not that he was late it's more that he was out until 9 when it was I am going to watch the rugby. I would have gone too if I'd known he would have been making a night of it. But would have come home as had to put ds to bed. Wouldn't even have minded him staying out in that situation. It was just me thinking we would spend it together which I am annoyed about. If I'd been pre warned fine.

I was being nice and not putting on the box set as was expecting him home and didn't want to watch the next episode so he was behind.

He knew my expectation as asked him if he'd be back by ds bedtime to which he said no but was expecting him shortly after. He was saying about having an early night and some nookie so again thought he'd be home.

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tinytalker · 01/02/2014 22:16

YABU
I wish he was my DH! Mine goes out for lunch and stumbles in at 2am the next day!! And switches the phone off!

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 01/02/2014 22:16

9 o'clock is hardly "making a night of it"!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 01/02/2014 22:17

When you assume you make an ass out of you and me

YABU because you assumed he knew that you wanted him home early enough to have an evening together. You assumed he understood that 8pm was 8 sharp and not 8 or 8ish or 8-9ish.

Don't assume. Just talk to him. Men are not mind readers.

Coumarin · 01/02/2014 22:17

9pm is an early night.

Did you tell him what your plans were?

ilovesooty · 01/02/2014 22:18

Is 9 o' clock too late to watch an episode or 2 of a boxed set?

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 01/02/2014 22:18

That is supposed to u and me. Sigh. Can't even get my clever saying right.

Ass-u-me

Oh I give up Grin

BigMonstersSmashCities · 01/02/2014 22:19

You know what? I'd feel miffed about this too. But you'll be eaten alive for saying that you're miffed to the point of an AIBU.

Suelford · 01/02/2014 22:21

"He knew my expectation as asked him if he'd be back by ds bedtime to which he said no but was expecting him shortly after."

This does not mean he knew your expectation. This means that he told you he would not be back by DS's bedtime, that is all.

ilovesooty · 01/02/2014 22:26

Did you tell him that he needed to be back for a certain time so that you could commence the boxed set watching?

BigMonstersSmashCities · 01/02/2014 22:31

Is it a good box set?

TalisaMaegyr · 01/02/2014 22:36

LOL @ 9pm 'making a night of it' Grin Fuck, I thought I was old!

NorksAreMessy · 01/02/2014 22:43

People still have 'nookie'?!?
Well, I'll go to the foot of our stair!

Oh, and OP, YABU, I'm afraid

moldingsunbeams · 01/02/2014 22:44

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WorraLiberty · 01/02/2014 22:48

Making a night of it is going out at 9 and rolling home in the early hours.

How long does it take to watch an episode of your programme and have a shag?

He came home at 9 and you were posting here at 9.40.

You could easily have stuck it on then and opened the wine.

FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2014 22:50

Good OP you sound frighteningly uptight and needy. You were 'left' watching tv 'alone' and you are pissed off your other half 'rolled in' at 9pm hence interfering with your box set watching itinerary...are you Mary off Coronation Street

K999 · 01/02/2014 22:53

I suspect Mary from Coronation Street would have gone to the pub to watch the rugby Grin

FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2014 22:54

Yes you're probably right. Roy Cropper then?

LightsPlease · 01/02/2014 22:56

Lol. Is this a joke?

K999 · 01/02/2014 22:56

Yes, Roy Cropper - he seems more the "itinerary' type......and I bet he has a few box sets too. Grin

FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2014 22:59

Sounds a bit like my mates husband. He would be jealous feel 'left alone' and would sulk as he insists on going to bed at 10pm even on weekends. I couldn't live in such a rigid way

StopSquabbling · 01/02/2014 23:14

Blimey. Really?

Poor bloke.

Jinsei · 01/02/2014 23:29

How on earth is 9pm "making a night of it"? Confused

He didn't even go out until 5pm so he wasn't out for that long. Why didn't you just stick on a DVD when he came back? YABU

Bloodyteenagers · 02/02/2014 00:27

Omg, 9pm too late for an early night and a shag. Are you the Waltons?

Feel sorry for the bloke. He thinks he is in an adult relationship, but he is being treated like a child..

DragonMamma · 02/02/2014 00:41

I'm a stickler for times and get pissed off if DH is massively late but fgs, it was an hour and he was home at 9pm.

Grip. Get one.

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