Based on another thread here. My mother is lovely but she's interfering. -she won't have it though
all through my brother's life for example she's bailed him out, helped in various ways etc to the point where he's now married happily a 2nd time but I do wonder what he'll do when she isn't here anymore. he is generally standing on his own feet now though (wife has helped here A LOT!). On the whole I've had some help (advice, monetary etc) but no way as near as my brother and I wouldn't want to have had it that way either.
sometimes we clash (mother and I) and I threaten to go NC on her which always scares the beejayus out of her as she knows I would do this. It would also ruin her. I partly do this as she waited a while to have me (miscarriages) and also she had a difficult relationship with her own mother (sorted out fine in later years).
Is this really unfair and unkind to do this to her? (threaten the NC) I would point out we generally get on see each other once a week, she meets me at work for lunch sometimes etc.
It just seems the only way to get her off my back sometimes and to actually back down. when we argue we rarely DO argue actually.