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Original poster

to tell my neighbour I don't want his 2nd hand clothes?

29 replies

AndThatsWhatIThinkOfYou · 28/01/2014 11:28

so my neighbour has a 7 year old son, I have a 2 year old.....yesterday he came round with bags of clothes and trainers aged 5-6, then very ballsy asked for some money for them!!??

I was in shock because obviously my son won't fit into them for another 5 years atleast.

I never asked for these and my son is never dressed scruffy, so why would I want to buy his 2nd hand clothes???

Anyone else got really cheeky neighbours???

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Quinteszilla · 28/01/2014 11:30

I hope you said "sorry, these clothes are too big" and did not pay him?

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AndThatsWhatIThinkOfYou · 28/01/2014 11:32

I said erm ok il pop by next week....

was so shocked, I am preparing to grow some balls walk back over and give them back, honestly the cheek

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bodygoingsouth · 28/01/2014 11:32

good grief, day no thanks politely and shut the door. don't give him money you daft thing. he's being v cheeky.

bodygoingsouth · 28/01/2014 11:33

yes drop it all back and say sorry the clothes are far too big so not suitable.

maybefaraway · 28/01/2014 11:34

I give my good hand me downs to friends who have kids a year or six months younger, or a wee bit shorter than my kids. I don't charge them for them!! Extraordinary behaviour. Give them back to your neighbour, and explain that you simple don't need them, and won't need others he comes across either.

squoosh · 28/01/2014 11:38

Cheeky tosser. I'd send them back.

Do not pay this man!

Quinteszilla · 28/01/2014 11:39

Go back straight away, before he accuses you of having taken something and demanding payment.

Just say, sorry, quick look at these tells me they are way too big. But thanks for offering me first dibs.

Weelady77 · 28/01/2014 11:41

My neighbour used to ask for my dd clothes when she had outgrown them which is fine but then the cheeky bastard got picky and only wanted certain items!

hollyhunter · 28/01/2014 11:41

i dont mind the passing on of clothes, in fact, some years my dd would have gone naked without them.

the cheek is that he has asked for payment.

id just be upfront and say that you can only buy clothes that he is big enough to wear, and you have been through the bag and nothing will fit your boy. thank him for thinking of you and hope he can sell them soon.

that should do it

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 28/01/2014 11:42

So you took the clothes????

EmmaFreudsGivingMeJip · 28/01/2014 11:45

Sounds like he just wanted to get rid of stuff so he dumped it with you. If you don't want it just give it back!

SoonToBeSix · 28/01/2014 11:47

Your maths isn't the best , they would fit him in 3-4 years Grin

helenthemadex · 28/01/2014 11:55

take them back quickly as others have suggested

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AndThatsWhatIThinkOfYou · 28/01/2014 13:25

just took them back it was awkward he was very shocked,Shock I said thank you but way too big and no where to store them

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 28/01/2014 13:28

What a cheeky sod.

My neighbour once very kindly offered me a size 16 M&S dress as it was too big for her. Hmm I don't know how big she thought I bloody was!

HeadfirstThroughTheTimeVortex · 28/01/2014 13:46

Well done! Cheeky so and so!

How much did he want?

whitepuddingsupper · 28/01/2014 13:46

How much did he ask for?

MissMilbanke · 28/01/2014 13:48

Well done you !

At least you will be aware next time.

How much did he want

TaraLott · 28/01/2014 13:49

When I was about 17 my Aunt used to give me all her cast offs, they were very Lady of a certain age clothes, pleated skirts and blouses and once a fake fur (I hope) collared coat.
Needless to say I said thank you then gave them away to the bin or my Mum would take them to a charity shop.

StuntBottom · 28/01/2014 13:55

Your neighbour is very cheeky but I'm a bit Shock at your comment my son is never dressed scruffy so why would I want his second hand clothes. My DCs wear a lot of second hand clothes, very kindly given to us by family and friends, and they always look smart. Kids grow out of things so quickly that clothes rarely wear out and often look new. There is no shame in wearing second hand.

mumofthemonsters808 · 28/01/2014 13:57

You did the right thing, don't let him try this one again.I had a neighbour Grandma knock on my door and ask if I wanted to buy some of her Granddaughter's old clothes. I declined and explained that DD had a wardrobe full of clothes. She then proceeded to list all the so called expensive designer brands that she had available. I still showed no interest and after listening to her for far too long I told her to either ebay them or take them to the charity shop.

Caitlin17 · 28/01/2014 14:04

Nothing wrong in wearing second hand clothes and nothing wrong in giving or receiving them but if you want money for them then eBay or a dealer.

It would be ok to sell privately but has to be approached on the basis of the seller asking upfront would you be interested? And taking a no as answer.

Viviennemary · 28/01/2014 14:08

It's cheeky asking for payment. Just say you haven't the room to store them.

squoosh · 28/01/2014 14:15

Good for you for bringing them back. Certainly nothing wrong with wearing second hand clothes but a lot wrong with your neighbour asking for money from you for the privilege of them dumping their crap on your doorstep.

Oriunda · 28/01/2014 14:21

I've given bags of DS old clothes away to a couple of friends. All really nice brands too. Equally I was grateful to receive some second hand clothes when DS was little, especially when he was peeing over everything! Nothing to do with being scruffy, to me it's just practical. No shame in second hand. DS's godfather has handed us some boots, jumpers and a barbour that his son no longer needs. Will be a couple of years before they fit, but they're great quality and timeless.