To tell my sil to shove it

[Sadoldbag]

After years of my sil looking down on me

Example are

*Telling me my wedding most likely would be tacky and that she was happy to be my bridesmaid but be would be getting her own hair and make up done.
*not Turing up to a pre arranged dress fitting thus making me wait outside her home for 2 hours she lives really far away.

• telling anyone who would listen that our home is a awful and broadcasting we live in a council home.

Just to name a few lovely things she has done

We have recently adopted a lovely little baby and on the day we were approved sent out announcement cards that was about 8 weeks ago now

She has only now sent us a text asking if we will bring the baby to see her I have told oh NO and if he wants to take baby then fine but I am not going round there.or better still she should get her butt round here

When she had her 3 children of whom the last she didn't even tell Us when he was born we found out 3 weeks after from some else each time we visited done the thing your meant to brought flowers and a card ECt.

So now we have had/adopted a baby I expect at the very least an acknowledgement of her arrival at the time not nearly 8-9 weeks later also for her to come her not to be summoned up there like she is the queens is Sheba and I really don't give a rats bum she feels awkward coming here because we live in a council home she needs to get over it ffs

AIBU

I will ad apart from my oh brother and dear wife none of his family including his parents have even called to ask anything about the baby

My family on the other had have been fab which makes it worse on the day everyone received the an noumena cards I got calls, texts and congrats cards.

Not a peep from the other side bar brother and his wife oh has 3 siblings

Sorry but Im not seeing your AIBU? At the moment its projection on your part.

Is he your husband?

My AIBU is I think sil should blinking well come here if she wants to see the baby.

I don't like being summoned especially because she hates being in our "council house"

No you would not be unreasonable to tell her to shove it.

Congratulations on your new baby

But you told OH to take the baby to her?

Thanks Its been a bit stressful and we could have really done with some support.

Just text her 'dear sil, your welcome here at any time but we're currently not travelling due to our new arrival '

Job done

Tell her to shove it.

Congratulations on your baby.

Aspire no oh didn't no what to say to here when she demanded we bring the baby to her so I told him if he's happy to be summoned he's more than welcome to go up there with the baby which he won't of course

Because he's not happy just being a wuss

Aspielass the OP is upset that the good wishes and interest she gave her sil hasn't been reciprocated. that and the fact that sil is sniffy about the OPs home.

So you don't want to go and visit her? Don't go then. I bet you're busy with the new baby anyway. No need to labour the point though, just say you're too busy at the moment and she's free to come to your house.

Honestly don't give her the head space, you've far more important things to focus on. Like enjoying your lovely new baby! Congratulations!

Is her behaviour really surprising though? Given that she didn't think to let you know about her last baby, and you found out only 3 weeks later, do you think that she doesn't make such a fuss over your child because she didn't make a fuss over hers either?

I got lost at the Queen of Sheba reference, who was a bit of strumpet and stole some water

YANBU!

She should come and visit you, just like did for her when her DC arrived. She sounds completely vile, what does your OH think about her behaviour?

Congratulations by the way!

Congratulations op on your new addition! Not so much on the sil

Y are Nbu to tell her she can pop by or fuck off do not make the trip to her. Stay home and snuggle

Congrats on the baby!!!! The good news is that you won't be having much time to worry about SIL and her ridiculous capers soon, she sounds diabolical. Of course she comes to you, you are too busy otherwise and that's an end to it. Focus on the good, this is a huuuuge deal and you should be celebrating!

Capsium

Thanks she gets me in a right state I know I shouldn't let her up set me

I will just send a text saying

I free next weekend if you want to come see xxxxx look forward to seeing you all love sad old bag

Perfect.

I'm normally one that sees the other side of the coin, and can generally look at OP and see imagined slights, over dramatisation and lots of he said she said therefore everyone but me is a bitch isms.

But in this case I would say she is a clear cut wank badger and you should give her no more thought. They come to you or get te fuck.

Congratulations btw enjoy your baby, revel in the attention of your side, ignore the rest of the bollocks.

aspie I have to give you kudos for being a historical reference pedant that is a step up!

Coldteagain

he finds her rude but doesn't want to cause a issue and like most men burys his head in the sad and leaves it to me

His parents aren't much better he must feel very torn in his defence they are very well to do and see any one who is not on the same level pretty much as a staff to be ordered about and looked down on

Congratulations on your new baby!

I would let her know she is welcome to come to you but how rude of her to expect you to go to her!

I have 3 sils, 2 has been to visit us 2 times, one one time and the other never, ds is 13 months old. We live 5 minuits from them. Some people are just crap!