To tell my sil to shove it

[Sadoldbag]

After years of my sil looking down on me

Example are

*Telling me my wedding most likely would be tacky and that she was happy to be my bridesmaid but be would be getting her own hair and make up done.
*not Turing up to a pre arranged dress fitting thus making me wait outside her home for 2 hours she lives really far away.

• telling anyone who would listen that our home is a awful and broadcasting we live in a council home.

Just to name a few lovely things she has done

We have recently adopted a lovely little baby and on the day we were approved sent out announcement cards that was about 8 weeks ago now

She has only now sent us a text asking if we will bring the baby to see her I have told oh NO and if he wants to take baby then fine but I am not going round there.or better still she should get her butt round here

When she had her 3 children of whom the last she didn't even tell Us when he was born we found out 3 weeks after from some else each time we visited done the thing your meant to brought flowers and a card ECt.

So now we have had/adopted a baby I expect at the very least an acknowledgement of her arrival at the time not nearly 8-9 weeks later also for her to come her not to be summoned up there like she is the queens is Sheba and I really don't give a rats bum she feels awkward coming here because we live in a council home she needs to get over it ffs

AIBU

Hey sadoldbag! I always begin phonecalls text etc to my best friend with "hello you old bag" so have to compliment you on your nn

Anyway, I digress. What you have there is an unrequited relationship. You'd like it if your SIL did something, aaaanything, to show she cares, but not a dicky-bird. All she does is criticise and make you feel 2 inches high. How very nice of her. Who cares where you live? Ffs what does it matter? So if she's that precious, offer to send her a balaclava she can put over her head so no-one recognises her.

Being serious, YADDNBU to spin on your heals, disengage and not use up more your energy wondering when she will decide to treat you decently probably never

Its so nice your family are being supportive, look at it positively - from your perspective, its probably better your side of the family are lovely to you. It would be more painful if it were the other way round.

Congrats on your lovely addition to your family, you have plenty to look forward to!

I would definitely tell her to shove it

Well sod her and sod his parents! All that really matters your new little family :) Just be polite but don't put yourself out for them. The text message is just right, puts the ball in her court and she can take it or leave it. Unless she has very good reasons that she can't come and see her new neice/nephew then the length of time it takes her to come and visit you is very telling tbh.

Congratulations
Sil should come to you
Stuck up cow she sounds

i am finding it hard to read also, however, for instance my pils and that side are hideous and whats made it worse is that I dont have any of my own family if i did i dont think i would have cared too much about them, its just them was all we had when baby was born.

Thus, forget and be glad and grateful for your own nice family.

btw SOMETIMES boats need to be rocked there is nothing wrong with rocking boats, sometimes boats need to be rocked and ropes SEVERED so boats can break free and be themselves and live their own lives...

SIL should come to you. There's no "projection" on your part.