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AIBU to not invite the entire nursery class?

44 replies

Slightlyneuroricnat · 27/01/2014 00:03

My daughter will start at the school nursery in April and she will turn 4 end of may.
We want to have a joint party for her and our younger daughter who will have just turned 3.
They have about 10 toddlers that would already be coming including family but as she will have just started nursery she won't have friendships formed I'm assuming by the time I would need to give out invites, so thinking it would be best to invite all the children, which would be 25.
Is this the done thing?

OP posts:
stealthsquiggle · 27/01/2014 00:08

Will they all be full time? Otherwise I would wait and invite the ones who do the same sessions as your DD, IYSWIM

Original poster
Slightlyneuroricnat · 27/01/2014 00:10

It will be Monday - Friday but 3 hours a day.
It's a school nursery so she will be with them
For over a year before reception next September

OP posts:
magesticmallow · 27/01/2014 00:11

Invite none of them, why would you? They aren't friends, there are other kids already going and you won't know any other parents well enough yet for them to be offended

Mrswellyboot · 27/01/2014 00:15

I wouldn't to be honest. Maybe when she starts school but no need just yet. She would only be there for a matter of weeks anyway. Just say its family only.

AwfulMaureen · 27/01/2014 00:16

Another one who says don't do it. I never did it until reception when they've actually made friends.

BackforGood · 27/01/2014 00:20

What magic said - why would you invite any of them?
You've already got 10 little people coming - more than enough for a party, why on earth would you want to invite any more, let alone families you don't even know.
Wait until Reception to start worrying and still don't do whole class parties if you have any sense.

Amy106 · 27/01/2014 00:22

It sounds like you have enough people invited already. Maybe next year.

MidniteScribbler · 27/01/2014 00:35

I wouldn't worry about inviting any of them, although you could always ask the staff if there is one or two little friends she has a particular friendship with.

MerryMarigold · 27/01/2014 00:37

No way! A month is enough time to see if she hits it off with anyone in particular. If not, don't invite anyone! If there are 3 or 4 kids she regularly plays with, invite them.

Foxy800 · 27/01/2014 07:42

I would wait till she starts and after the first month ask the staff if there is one or two children she has hit it off with and invite them, if not i wouldnt worry as there will be other children there already.x

CoffeeTea103 · 27/01/2014 07:48

Why would you? You don't have to, you can decided for yourself.

ilovepowerhoop · 27/01/2014 07:53

When ds had a party at nursery I just invited his group (around 8children) rather than everyone

CombineBananaFister · 27/01/2014 08:12

It depends, we had a similar situation as DS started in Sept. and birthday in Oct. so he didn't have a friendship group by then - we invited the whole class.
It was hard work but it was a good icebreaker to meet the other parents and kids and everyone seemed to enjoy it and everyone actually ended up helping out. I
You're in a slightly different situation though, as it may overwhelm your other DD if it's her party too.
I think seperate party and whole class invite or joint party and just family cousins etc for your littlest one unless they have a couple of friends by then and just invite them but that might not be the case yet.

CombineBananaFister · 27/01/2014 08:14

arghh, got the DDs ages mixed up! Blush

diddl · 27/01/2014 08:30

If appropriate, invite a couple to add to the 10(!!) that are already invited.

Full class party?

Never have & never will.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 27/01/2014 08:42

Don't see why you'd invite the whole class- at this stage, just stick to the ones you know (the 10) incidentally, how many in the class? About 25 maybe? Plus 10? Recipe for one hellish party!! And yes agree it'd overwhelm the younger dd.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 27/01/2014 08:45

Haha- sorry you said 25 in your op!

DetentionExtension · 27/01/2014 08:47

We have never invited nursery friends - just family/nct type friends. Time enough for whole class stuff at school!

Stokey · 27/01/2014 09:42

We had similar situation for dd1 whne she was 3. She started in September and birthday was in Novemeber, I didn't invite any of them as she didn't seem to have bonded with anyone particulalrly. This year for her fourth birthday I still didn't invite them all (35 kids from 6mths to 4). I asked the nuresery staff to give me a list of her friends and invited those - about 15 I think, 3 and 4 year olds.

bridgetsmum · 27/01/2014 09:47

I have NEVER invited the whole clas to any party, why would you? It's ridiculous.
10 kids is plenty for a party

BrianTheMole · 27/01/2014 09:51

I did for dc 1 when she was at the school nursery. It was a brilliant ice breaker, lovely for the kids to meet up out of school, and lovely for the parents to have a chance to chat and get to know each other.

mrsjay · 27/01/2014 09:52

if you want to invite any nursery kids then wait until she starts and see who she plays with and they always have their own little groups anyway so you might want to invite the group there is never loads of kids in them , but no you dont need to invite them all if you dont want

ilovepowerhoop · 27/01/2014 09:52

I must be ridiculous then because I have hosted several full class parties for my dc's! I hired a hall at the sports centre, hired a big bouncy castle and blow up slide and the sports centre provided bats, balls, space hoppers, etc and the kids just ran about and played.

BrianTheMole · 27/01/2014 09:53

Although if you're having a joint party with the youngest I might not bother, as it might be a bit much for her.

BrianTheMole · 27/01/2014 09:54

I must be ridiculous then because I have hosted several full class parties for my dc's!

Yes I have too. I quite enjoy doing them. Smile

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