I will write it in sections so I don't have to back track.
Before I was pregnant I moved out the country with my other half.
Whilst I was pregnant things got bad , he was controlling with money and had a lot of plans about how we would work family income which would have meant I had nothing etc. I had hypermesis and was admitted to hospital it took him 2 days to get there andkicked of at his ffamily's house saying he would never marry me as I would be entitled to his money etc
After a huge row at 19 weeks I left and went home to england to stay with my mum for a few weeks to give us space.
At my 20 week scan in england it was discovered that my baby had certain conditions but wasn't 100 percent it was best for me to stay in London with specialists... We then found out baby would have lil chance of surviving.
I kept him informed all the way he never came over though but was saying he was different now and we could make it work and I should move bk over to him when or if baby was well. He started sending me money and stuff to help and agreed he would come to my mums for the birth and stay a few months as she was going to be in intensive care which he did.
My daughter was born 4 weeks ago and after a huge fight and an op she is thankfully doing well but still in intensive care. He was up my mums not doing anything to contribute etc watching me do it all as well as sitting by my daughter all hours.. He began to realise I was never going to get back with him and when we found out my dd was due surgery which was a big step and a good thing for her recovery all he went on about was he wanted parental rights and that's all he could talk about and taking her to Portugal. He asked me before he come if he could use my daughters money in a PayPal account to pay for flights when I found out I was being induced I of course said yes so he didn't miss her being born turns out his grandad paid for them. And he had over 900 pound when he got here and didn't pay for a thing yet was skint 1 week later. And her money was gone too. He was pushing to get daughter registered but things got hectic for me at the hospital and I couldn't leave he then turned up to nicu kicking off and got his stuff from mums and booked a hotel telling me if I didn't get her registered the day after he will report me to social services. He wanted her registered for his paternity leave payment. He also said he was booking his flight home as there was no point in staying in London. I rang midwife first thing next morning who advised me to go nicu and not register her with him that day as he was still angry. He left that night got a flight. He left no money or anything for even nappies. For a couple of days he text me nice as pie even had the cheek to ask me to pay for his flights back here to register daughter as he needs it done before he goes back to work for his Pat rnity payment. Then bang I get a knock at the door its a social worker he reported me saying a bunch of lies , my house I'd a state I do drugs etc which is not true I am t total don't even drink but the social services saw right through him and checked and said there was no concern regarding me.
But midwifes friends , HV, and worker have all advice me not to put him on birth certificate , would that be unreasonable.