To wonder if it's too big an age gap...

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25 years...

25 and 50... Too big?

I don't think it's the gap per se but the gap in experience.
50 and 75 is more likely to work, but if the 50 yr old has done a lot more than the 25 yr old and doesn't want to do it all again, I think that can cause problems.

Yeah I can see what you mean with that.

Are you thinking about the big things like marriage/kids? Or the smaller things?

I would like to point out I'm not in a relationship with this guy. A date has been suggested and I am very tempted. However don't want to waste the guys time so trying to think in the longer term would it ever work or is it just a bit pointless to start going down that road.

35 and 60. Hmmmm......

Having done slightly less (and a bit more) I would say yes, too big.

Hmm yes when you increase the ages like that it seems bigger actually.

He's said he isn't interested in "flings" which is why I'm asking. He's laid on the table what he is looking for so maybe it isn't the best idea... Although sorely tempting.

A "fling" would be ok (IMO). A life-partner, not so much.

What is he looking for though?

I don't think you need to approach every date with 'could this be my life partner?', that's a bit intense. You're 25, if you like him and if you fancy him go for it. Nothing wrong with a fun interlude.

In terms of a long term relationship I think 25 would definitely be too much for me. 15 years older would be my upper limit.

50 and 75 is more likely to work
What?!
As I creep towards 49, with parents in their mid 70s to care for, I would really dispute that!

OP - My cousin married a man 18 years her senior. She was always worried that she would end up as his nursemaid.
But when she hit 45 he left her for a younger woman.

He said he isn't interested in flings as he has got past that point in his life. If he dates someone it is with the view of it turning into a relationship.

I would never ever have thought this way other than that he has basically said what he has said which makes me think that if long term I couldn't see it working, it would be unfair to go on the date...

Maybe I'll just go and see how it goes.

But you can hardly promise him a long term relationship before you've even had a first date! First dates are all about sounding people out.

Is he hot?

Is he at the Roy Cropper end of the scale of the George Clooney?

'or' the George Clooney I meant.

@ Harticus
What I mean is, if 2 people who have already had children and got to the stage where they were 'free' from family commitments, then, as long as fit and healthy, it wouldn't really matter what age they were, but if one had done all that and didn't want to start again, but the other hadn't yet started a family, that's a huge issue for the future

Kind of what I think squoosh. It was a while ago he said this so presumably it was "in an ideal world" kind of thing. And most importantly prior to the offer of the date, maybe he's changed his mind about a fling

There is definitely something about him but we get on amazing. On the same wave length with most things and I enjoy spending time with him, can pretty much talk about anything and have a good laugh together.

OK so a follow on question for OP. To go on the date or to not go on the date?

Haha yes, no first date. I'm just bloody terrified of going on the first date and wham bam he wants a full blown relationship. I am an easier going person who just waits and see's what happens without a plan, I like it that way.

backforgood - you are right, it really is all about life experiences and expectations.
Personally I would be too knackered to keep up with a 25 year old now.

OP - GO ON THE DATE!!!

Go on the date!

Ok I didn't need much persuasion I think I might just say yes to the date...

I thought you meant babies :)

I want to find out how it goes!

Oh and Squoosh His chat is a hell of a lot better than Roy Croppers and looks a lot better too but lets face it if it was George Clooney I would not be posting on MN. I'd be there with bells on. Would probably even wax my legs too haha.

Pannalash Haha nooo hell no. I have one beautiful DD but no more. Certainly not 25 years apart.

squoosh it won't be for at least another week but look out for the 25 & 50 date update thread.