What presents/money amount you received for your wedding?

[busylizzy12]

Excatly that, really. If you don't mind?....

A stone pig, a set of glasses, a magnum of champagne, a head (of the sort you put hats on), a fish, a cat ornament, a fertility bell, a silver breakfast set, a japanese saki set, chop sticks, two chinese baby doll ornaments, a japanese blessing, a clock, probably others it was nearly 25 yrs ago...

First wedding, we got a random assortment of towels, two electric carving knives, some casserole dishes, and some glasses.
Second one, we got an iron, and ironing board and an electric tin opener, and a cheque for a tenner made out to xh that we couldn't cash because he didn't have a bank account and was in so much debt no bank qould give us a joint one, and that was literally it - nothing else.
Third one, we got £100 cash from a very dear friend and that was it, nothing else from anyone.

We had a relatively small wedding with just 60 people total. Our gift list was worth about £1,000 and we received it all plus about £100 or so in vouchers. We also got some wonderfully thoughtful off list stuff worth another £250, plus an incredibly generous set of Waterford crystal glasses worth £250 alone from an Irish uncle of my husband's. This is apparently an entirely normal amount to spend on relatives, we were utterly gobsmacked! And finally my inlaws gave us £1000 to spend on a new bed.

On the break even question, we spent around £12,000 in total including honeymoon so it wasn't even close, but that was never the point.

We asked for donations to a charity that meant something to us. We had some incredibly generous donations and raised nearly £4,000 including gift aid. I think the average donation was £50. But they ranged from £10 upwards.

We got about £3k as we asked for honeymoon contributions. We were clear in the invites that gifts weren't necessary, but were really touched by everyone's generosity (and had an awesome honeymoon!)

We had a very small wedding (18 of us). We had been living together for 5 years and didn't need anything. We paid for our own honeymoon. We told everyone not to buy us anything.
But I don't agree with wedding lists anyway, or requests for money.

Hugo that never occurred to me but what a lovely idea.

Sorry Badger not Hugo. its a for Hugo.

We said on the invites we had everything we needed so there was no need to buy a gift, just wanted everyone there to enjoy our day with us.We received £350, some photo frames and my sister in law gave us a lovely book for people to write msgs in on the day. We also got a few bottles of champagne. Were quite shocked!

I know some people on here think honeymoon contributions are grabby, but in real life I've always found people want to buy wedding gifts and prefer a bit of direction rather than having to try and think of something or ask. We were very clear that gifts were optional and all we wanted was to see everyone, but people were very kind and we still seem to be friends with everyone! Plenty of people went off list or got nothing at all and we don't care in the least. It's only on here I've ever heard of wedding lists offending anyone!

I don't understand the offence caused by wedding gift lists either. I was however offended by the one my friend put together for her birthday. But that's a completely different thing IMO.

Got married 25 years ago. We didn't put anything about presents in the invitation but did have a gift list at John Lewis. The items ranged from £2-£50. We had lovely gifts, of course chosen by us, that we still use today; dinner service, Le Cruset, nice glasses.
No money but some rather odd pottery i'm sure it was a pot potty and some very elaborate embroidered towels.
I always choose to buy something from a list now, and have never been asked for cash. I'm old enough to consider asking for money rather poor taste.

Went to gretna, 12 guests, we paid for them all to be with us for the whole weekend. Ended up with approx £6000 in cash and vouchers. Didnt have a list. Got some beautiful gifts from people not invited to the wedding.

I am at these figures.

We've spent so much money on going to weddings and gifts over the last year or so, we didn't want our guests to feel the same financial pressure so have said we just want people's company, and no presents please. Get married in a couple of weeks, and hope we get nothing as requested. We could certainly do with the money though. We're the only couple we know who haven't had money thrown at them to buy a home and are a bit poor (esp now paying for our wedding although very very low key).

Lesson learnt for my next marriage!

Zero. We got married on a beach the day after DH proposed - we told people after the event! It was lovely. Not into the whole big wedding thing. We had a little party with friends when we got back, and a picnic with our family some months later.

Not keen on the whole asking for money thing either and we've never bought from a wedding list. If we buy something, we choose it! I guess that might annoy some people, but the last time I even looked at someone's wedding list, one of the few things left was some teaspoons and we just thought "we're not buying some sodding teaspoons" and we got some lovely artwork of the village where they were getting married instead.

I think that's a great idea too badger.

Has anyone ever read on an invite, 'We have everything we need, so don't have a gift list. But if you must a contribution to our honeymoon would be appreciated." and then NOT given cash?

It's just 'we want cash' in code isn't it?!

hip we've just received a similarly worded wedding invitation and haven't a clue how much to give.

We don't have lots of money - is £30 miserly?

We didn't specify anything whatsoever to do with gifts on our wedding invites - it seems a bit vulgar tbh!

hiphip on Asian wedding invites it normally says 'no boxed gifts' which is code for cash. (I'm half Asian so get loads of these!). It does confuse people who've not experienced it before

i was clear about gifts... people spent money traveling and accommodation and whatnot so we didn't want anything. We just wanted people to come and have a good time.

Most of the guests didn't but some gave a few quid and vouchers... I didn't log who they were off so couldn't thank whoever gave us something which I found a bit cringeworthy.

It's not miserly at all piano. I've given 25 before. We spent over £200 getting to and staying at the wedding and drinks on top.

And yes I didn't want to put anything about gifts on our invite piano but DP insisted - I'd rather have not mentioned it but just said to people personally we didn't really need or want anything.

But with 'no presents please!' his mum keeps mentioning it though! She has very little money but I know she would have loved to make us something.

Around £500 cash, a few sets of champagne glasses, photo frames, a photo album and some 'wedding day' knick knacks (think snow globe, trinket box etc).

We did get married abroad though and had told people that we just wanted their presence rather than gifts.

We're just about to send out our invites, which (on the seperate guest info card) we've said that in lieu of gifts we'd like them to make a donation to a charity of their choice. I'm a bit worried that it sounds a bit wishy washy, but we genuinely don't need gifts or want cash and we couldn't agree on one charity that we were both passionate about.
I hope our guests understand our sentiment.

Yes, hip, it's a way of asking for money, and like all such 'requests', crass and tacky.