What presents/money amount you received for your wedding?

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Excatly that, really. If you don't mind?....

This sounds like the generation game

This sounds like the generation game

£700 towards a peice of art and a £2k honeymoon

Frog shaped loo roll holder (DH e girlfriend and new partner.) she must have seen it in Elle Decor.

We received about £500 in vouchers/cash, plate set, towels, chinese vases, wedding album.....there were other gifts but I've forgotten what they were

We had a wedding list at a local department store and had to go back a further couple of times to add more as the store called to say the list has been exhausted.

We are off to a wedding next month, the couple have been living together for yonks so are set up. They've asked for money instead of things. She has health issues and so can't work, he's on 0 hours contract and struggle for money. This will help them afford the wedding and possibly even get time away if they have enough. I think it's a great idea to discourage gifts in their case.

About £13000 altogether. Never asked anyone for gifts/money.
We furnished our house with the gifts we received as well. But it wasn't a massive wedding and we already had kids etc.

Very grateful for our generous friends and family.

£8,000 cash, two vases, a personalised cushion, two mugs, a felt apple, five cases of Moët and my favourite present a second hand duallit 6 slice toaster.

We were setting up home from scratch so needed absolutely everything - mostly cheapish things like bedlinen, towels, kitchenware (simple things too like bun-tins and lemon squeezers and ovengloves), contributions of pieces of a fairly standard dinner service - lots of things under £15. Parents and in-laws bought us a fridge and a double bed. An honorary "aunt & uncle" gave us a cheque to buy our first three-piece suite.

We still use most of the things 25 yrs later and I can remember who bought us everything. Other in-laws paid for our first week's honeymoon in a countryside cottage, and a friend from college gave us our second week by letting us stay in their lovely second home on the Welsh borders.

We received lots of kitchen based things, about £500 and some friends and family paid for things on the day including hiring our Wedding car, flowers & champagne for the toast (different people)
When we moved house a year or so later a family friend arrived with a tumble dryer. I was a little bemused but our friend stated it was a belated wedding gift. It comes in very handy!
When attending weddings we try and be as generous as we can. Unfortunately we have not always been able to "repay" the same level of generosity.

We want to hear about the Bridezilla OP...

We got everything from towels to a fridge.

(30 years ago)

No wedding for me yet, but I love telling about my parents'. They made a profit!!

Spent about $1,200 on their wedding in the eighties. (Found a lovely old Italian lady who made a delicious dinner for $6 a head). My mother being Italian, they recieved more money than presents. Over $2000, so a profitable wedding in which everyone had a great time! Stories are still told about it, 30 happily married years later.

thanks for the responses!

The gist of the conversation: friend of a friend joined us for coffee. I knew she'd recently got married (in a very remote and faraway location which incidentily is only served by one flight per week from London) so i asked about it, as you do. "oh lovely, 95% of invited guests made it over, but it's amazing how tight people are". How so, I enquired... "well, you'd think that considering i was having an 'out of the box, exciting wedding (yes she actually said that) that people would give more than 50 quid each. We couldn't believe it". My mate spent over £1,800 to be at that wedding with her 2 DC's & DH and she said that everyone else would have been in that boat. I just couldn't get my head around the sense of entitlement and it strangely played on my mind (i clearly need to get a life).

No, that would play on my mind too! Wow.

So she expected fancier presents because she had a fancy wedding?

We received about £1500 in cash from our guests, plus a very generous £5k honeymoon gift from a family friend. The "normal" range of giving was £20-£200. We also received a smattering of very thoughtful gifts, including things like handmade bowls and interesting art prints. For the record, we didn't specify any gift info (on invitation or otherwise), nor did we make a list to be given on request. It was a completely free choice for our guests.

OP, your friend is a dick. If you place an obligation on your guests to spend far more than they might normally expect to attend a wedding, you should do the right thing and specify "No gifts".

Christ busy what an awful attitude. If i was her i would tell guests to absolutely NOT give me any sort of gift. Its people like that who make others begrudge going to weddings because of cost. It shouldn't be about that although sadly its usually quite expensive to attend a wedding anyway.

When we got married, one of our top considerations was that it cost guests as little as possible to attend. We got married fairly locally, offered our own house to out of town guests so they didn't have to shell out on hotels, laid on transport and paid the bar bill. We managed to do all of this without breaking the bank and still have exactly the day we wanted. I think everyone enjoyed themselves more because it wasn't a strain on them financially.

Plus, getting married abroad isn't exotic or out of the box IMO, its quite run of the mill these days.

Mostly cash. Very generous amounts. We didn't really have it left though as it went on the hotel bill. We didn't get very many gifts that weren't cash.

Does she think its a competition, fancier wedding = fancier gifts?
Tell her despite asking for nothing we received 12k and 8k honeymoon paid for and we had a small (30 guests) in a small hotel function room with a registry office wedding rub her nose in it.
Ungrateful and makes her look shallow and entitled.

Mordirig that did make me laugh. I know, i was absolutely speechless (i've always wound my mate up about her being a bit of a dick!).

We asked for vouchers from Argos for a very specific reason which I've posted before and received more than we needed.
When we moved in together with baby DC we were skint, we'd bought the only house available in our budget at the time and every piece of furniture including a couple of the carpets was second or third hand. Even the damn kettle was DH's grandma's old one.
When we got married we did it on the cheap, called in a few favours and had a big fabulous bash for practically nothing. In return we got nearly £1000 in vouchers and replaced pretty much everything most of which 15 years on and 2 house moves are still going strong.
We also got a bottle of a champagne that got put away in a safe place, forgotten about and drunk on our 10th wedding anniversary

I asked for donations to our local animal shelter. I had to reiterate it a few times, and we still got some ridiculously expensive whiskey and garden stuff. A lot of DH's friends wrote poems actually which makes me chuckle.

£10,000 cash but we had 600 guests as it was a huge wedding, plus jewellery & some household items.

I found a house to buy for exactly £10k not long after we got married but unfortunately couldn't persuade dh to buy it. The area has now been gentrified and the house is now worth £225k and my dh is kicking himself and I want to kick him. That house could have been our pension pot but his shortsightedness has cost us that.

We had a gift list and got everything off of it - hoover, bedding, coffee table, curtains, misc general everyday household items

Family member did our photos and album as a gift

My dad gave us 1k

About 10 towel bales

We had 60 total at our wedding

We also asked that no-one should buy presents. We already had way too much stuff and are still struggling to fit two fully equipped homes into one. I suppose it's different if you are trying to set up home together.