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Scrooges...

27 replies

OldDaddy · 20/01/2014 12:41

So just before Christmas a party of 8 of us ( old school friends) went out for a catch up and pre-xmas dinner. They let me choose the venue so I went for a mid range London venue that I know well from one of the owners who is a client of mine. End of the night I asked for the bill - we'd agreed to split equally beforehand. The Maitre 'd then pops over and tells me that the owner had been in while we were there and had covered the bill for us - which was really nice of him.

So then I suggested to the party that seeing as we had all saved around £70 each that we should all chuck in a £20 each as a "tip". Half the party were fine with this and the other half looked at me like i'd just suggested a threesome with their mother. One of them even joked "I'll pay 15%.. 15% of nothing is nothing".

Eventually everyone did chip in and we left the sum for the manager to put in the tip kitty. However 2 of the party still think i'm unreasonable to demand that they tip "so much" despite the fact that we all saved a considerable amount of money by the owners kindness. I now feel like I should have politely refused the owners kind gesture and made this scrooges pay full whack.

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Mim78 · 20/01/2014 12:44

Scrooges!

OldDaddy · 20/01/2014 12:46

Oh - I forgot to mention that one of the scrooges upon hearing the bill was covered tried to start ordering a couple more bottles of wine. babarians

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YouTheCat · 20/01/2014 12:46

They are scrooges and I wouldn't be socialising with them again. What miseries!

TwoShakesOfaWhiskersTail · 20/01/2014 12:46

What have they said to you since?
Unbelievable, I wouldn't go out with them again.

HeeHiles · 20/01/2014 12:46

YANBU - It was a really nice gesture on your part - I'm shocked your friends couldn't see that!

formerbabe · 20/01/2014 12:47

How rude!

Onesleeptillwembley · 20/01/2014 12:49

I can sort of see your point, but telling people how much to tip very probably got their backs up.

Lemongrab · 20/01/2014 12:49

I would definitely be more than happy to pay £20 after the owner had so generously paid the bill!
Your friends really are scrooges.

OldDaddy · 20/01/2014 12:50

We are not all local so probably wont see some of the moaners for a while thankfully. Mr 15% called place poncey and joked about him choosing the venue next year. I told him to choose McDonalds as they don't expect tips.

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squoosh · 20/01/2014 12:50

Scrooges of the highest order!

Cannot stand that kind of meanness, you've just been given a free meal, show some bloody gratitude.

MistressDeeCee · 20/01/2014 12:57

How mean! After they knew this man was kind enough to cover their bill too, and that he'd done so as a friend of yours. I wouldnt even get into the nitty gritty of it all, your 'friends' are tight-fisted in the extreme, theyve no shame. Id be hard-pushed to go anywhere with them again, I cant stand mean people.

Only1scoop · 20/01/2014 13:01

UGhhhh how ugly....can't bare the tightness.
If it ever happens again....keep it quiet.... take their full wack of bill (including tip) and give percentage to charity of your choice Wink

LaurieFairyCake · 20/01/2014 13:01

I wouldn't go out with them again

And I've have said something like 'you've just saved 50 quid you tight git' when he was 'joking'

OldDaddy · 20/01/2014 13:02

Fab idea 1Scoop!

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 20/01/2014 13:02

Scrooges.
My DH family are like that. If we go out for a lovely meal and the staff have been excellent they still won't pay a tip, not even £5 a couple, nothing at all. It's embarrassing.

puntasticusername · 20/01/2014 13:04

Unbelievably cheeky to try and order more wine once they thought it'd be free! How very rude.

Bowlersarm · 20/01/2014 13:08

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating?

I don't have any friends who would be that tight.

Assuming you aren't exaggerating, Scrooge is the kindest word I can think of for them.

OldDaddy · 20/01/2014 13:19

Not exaggerating Bowlersarm - wish I was - I was literally gobsmacked. I thought the dissenters were doing a Joe Pesci Goodfellas style wind up.

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Bowlersarm · 20/01/2014 13:22
Grin

Let them sort out restauranr arrangements in the future, and not rely on the generosity of your contacts. The tight arses.

Juno77 · 20/01/2014 13:40

They got a free meal and then wouldn't tip £20?!

I wouldn't be friends with them anymore. Seriously. That's disgusting behaviour.

Sunflower49 · 20/01/2014 13:44

I think that's really tight, too. Lovely gesture from your friend!

ZingSweetApple · 20/01/2014 13:45

Shock That is shameful behaviour.
They certainly didn't deserve a great gesture.

tell them the MN ruling is that they are fuckwits and grabby, ungrateful bastards.

Crowler · 20/01/2014 13:46

I wouldn't spend time with them. Taking advantage of someone's generosity is not the mark of a good person.

Juno77 · 20/01/2014 14:01

Did they really think that because the owner decided to gift them free meals, the service staff should not get tips?

Unbelievable. Utter bastards.

As an aside, where do you meet friends that will pay for dinner and drinks for a group of 8 people they aren't even in, and don't even know! You should stick in with this owner friend.

MistressDeeCee · 20/01/2014 15:51

Mind you - £70 each for a pre-xmas meal at a 'mid-range' venueShock

They're still tightazzes tho- they knew the price before they went. I just think £500+ for a meal for 8 is a lot of money. Nothing to do with the post at all. I'm just having a "wow" momentSmile