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To feel like my pregnancy will never end

54 replies

Slh122 · 20/01/2014 01:05

Almost 39 weeks and I think I've been pregnant for at least a thousand years.
People keep telling me to enjoy my sleep now - well I haven't slept for more than 3 hours in a row for the last 2 months so no chance of that.
I know I only have 3 weeks maximum to go but it honestly seems like a lifetime away.
I want to roll over in bed without being in pain and I'd like to be able to put my shoes on by myself.
I'd also quite like to meet my baby Grin
I know this is a very 'woe me' thread and I should be grateful to be pregnant but I am exhausted and just cannot sleep, I feel sick and I need to wee every 30 minutes. Since I started my maternity leave I've turned into a woman possessed - checking my knickers every 30 seconds for any possible 'leakage' and dithering over whether it's just discharge or not. Someone please tell me it will end soon! AIBU to be so fed up or should I be enjoying the 'calm before the storm' as someone so nicely put it?!

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BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 20/01/2014 01:10

YANBU, I hated that stage, but rest assured - it will pass! As for "enjoying the calm before the storm" I never felt like it was a storm. Good luck OP, I hope all goes well (and soon!)

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Slh122 · 20/01/2014 01:11

Glad it's not just me! I've tried every trick in the book this week but it looks like it's true what they say - they only come when they're ready!

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trashcanjunkie · 20/01/2014 01:12

Please enjoy the calm before the storm. It will be fantastic when your baby arrives, but really, it's much more tiring and relentless than being pregnant. I know that sounds daft. Your body will still not be your own, and you then start to have other things to lug round, like car chairs, buggy's and nappy bag bollocks, or a baby in a sling. Don't get me wrong, it is lovely but you will look back on this bit and think - why the fuck was I wishing it away? Lol about, preen yourself, go swimming, totally please yourself, cos it is all about to change forever. There is no true rest when the baby comes, even if someone else offers to give you a break, you cannot really switch off. Grin

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 20/01/2014 01:21

Felt like that with DS. Found out a few days before my period was due so around 3.5 weeks. Then went 2 weeks over.

Did you find out early.

Good luck on the birth.

DaleyBump · 20/01/2014 01:29

I found being heavily pregnant much, much harder than having a newborn. Seriously.

pricklyPea · 20/01/2014 01:48

I found out really early that I was pregnant and it seemed to drag on and on and I spent a month wishing it would end and

pricklyPea · 20/01/2014 01:52

*try again

I found out really early that I was pregnant and it seemed to drag on and on and I spent a month wishing it would end and when it eventually did it was like swapping one lot of tired for another.
Agree with people who say you're body is still not your own, especially if you decide to breastfeed. I look back and laugh that I was so quick to want it to all be over.

Good luck.

thatstoast · 20/01/2014 02:28

I'm 40+11 right now so totally fed up with the whole thing. But I'm awake as I'm having pains which hopefully means the end is in sight.

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 20/01/2014 02:34

Oh, fingers crossed for you thatstoast

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 20/01/2014 02:35

I wish I had discovered mumsnet before I had my DCs, would have given me something to do while in labour!

puntasticusername · 20/01/2014 03:57

YANBU. I bloody hated being pregnant. I'm a month into life with my gorgeous, snuggly DS2 (currently snoring on my shoulder) and at every particularly hard moment, I ask myself the question "but is this worse than being pregnant?".

So far, nothing has even come close to the horror of being pregnant.

Good luck and enjoy your little bundle of love when it does get here!

YoniMitchell · 20/01/2014 04:15

I hear you! I'm 40+8 today and am utterly fed-up with being in constant discomfort! I know what you mean about being pg for an age, ours is following IVF, so the whole process has literally been all absorbing going on for years.

Hopefully my midwife will have a good poke around and sort me out with a sweep tomorrow. After 2 weeks of pre-labour signs I just want my baby out and in the 'real world' now!

steff13 · 20/01/2014 04:25

I always thought the lack of sleep in the last trimester was your body preparing for the newborn sleep schedule.

I actually loved being pregnant, but in the last couple of months I was ready to be done. With my first baby, especially, I was so excited to have the baby. I had all this baby stuff around, and no baby to use it. Of course, when it was over, I mourned the loss of the special bond that only I had with the baby. For all those months, the baby belongs only to you, then you give birth and have to share him or her with the world.

Good luck, it will be over before you know it.

MumofWombat · 20/01/2014 05:59

Recovery from a csection with an adventurous, determined, nap averse toddler as well as a scrumptious newborn is easier than being pregnant. I hope that you'll be cuddling a little one very soon!

Kandypane · 20/01/2014 07:58

Three years infertile so far. Perhaps that will never end for me. Hard to have any sympathy tbh.

Booboostoo · 20/01/2014 08:46

Six weeks pregnant and fed up already! I have to agree with you OP pregnancy was the worst bit and it was so much better when my DD arrived! I can't wait for DC2 to get here although it's a long wait yet!

Kandypane I am very sorry you have not been able to conceive yet and wish you better luck in the future, but that is a really inappropriate comment. Of course people have infertility problems (and some for a lot longer than 3 years) but that doesn't mean that others can't have a moan about pregnancy, sleepless nights, toddler tantrums, teenager antics, etc.

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Slh122 · 20/01/2014 08:59

kandypane I'm really sorry to hear that and I wish you all the best in the future. However I also feel inclined to agree with Booboos - this is a forum that is used predominantly by women who have children, are TTC and also who are pregnant so there's bound to be threads like this. I didn't mean to upset anybody when I wrote the thread.

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FantasticMax · 20/01/2014 09:24

Sorry, I found the first few weeks (months?!) of having a baby far harder than the latter stages of pregnancy, and I had a very crap pregnancy!

I used to think, even when I was pregnant and would wake 8 times in the night to pee and would lie awake for hours being unable to sleep, with a screaming baby there is no lying awake staring at the ceiling, waiting for sleep to overcome you - you have to do something and you can only get back to sleep if/when your baby deigns to sleep!

I remember reading somewhere that newborns sleep for something like 20 out of 24 hours a day, in my case baby was awake for 20 out of 24 hours! Horrendous, I have never been so exhausted. And I didn't feel like I got my body back until I stopped bf at 12 months, although obviously it's wonderful not to have a 2 stone beach ball attached to your stomach any more after baby comes!

I don't mean to sound so negative, just trying to implore you to enjoy the rest while it lasts! Your baby may be a dream and feed and sleep, feed and sleep, but it may not and you may find yourself wishing for those last weeks and that you'd rested more. I know I did.

Best of luck!

dustarr73 · 20/01/2014 11:27

Hated the last few weeks of pregnancy.You cant do anything other than sit on your arse .Everything is sore and you need help with everything.Sleep you are having a laugh i gotmore sleep afterwards even after a section than i did in the last few weeks of pregnancy.

StrawberryTeddybear · 20/01/2014 11:39

This made me chuckle, I could have written your post myself at 39 weeks!

I was convinced my boy would come early as I was so uncomfortable from about 34 weeks. I was a week overdue and it felt I'd be pregnant forever!

However my boy is now 8.5 months and my god has it flown, it felt like just a few months ago I was having those awful contractions!

Just enjoy doing nothing all day, stay in your pyjamas, watch rubbish tv and relax. It'll be non stop when baby arrives.

Good luck!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 21/01/2014 00:30

I wish I felt like this! Sad 32+ weeks here and the time is flying past. I'm not ready, I haven't packed a bag, the house is a shit pit and she may well come early.
I started mat leave today and I need to get my head out of my arse!
That said, I do understand, my other two were both 42 weeks. Time drags in the end. Hang in there, it'll happen. x

JoinYourPlayfellows · 21/01/2014 00:34

It will NEVER end! NEVER.

You'll just get bigger and bigger and more and more uncomfortable and have to drink more and more Gaviscon until eventually you have to start home schooling the enormous child inside you that will just never come out.

[it will end really, very soon :) ]

kaatieexox · 21/01/2014 00:37

I am in the same boat as you OP I had to double check it wasn't actually me who had posted this hehe. I am clutching at straws and every single thing that is different I think yay it's time. Hope you get to meet your baby soon and good luck Smile

MrsMook · 21/01/2014 01:48

Given a choice, I'll go for first month of motherhood over last month of pregnancy, and I've had two recovery heavy births. So much better gaving a hugable, detachable baby. At least it's possible to get comfortable and sleevpf when you get the chance. I'm happier with night feeds than insomnia.

Bogeyface · 21/01/2014 02:09

YANBU

I felt like this almost from the word go with all of mine! I am a naturally impatient person anyway, so 8 months of PG to go from the day I found out felt like forever! But I am not good at pregnancy. I get awful MS and in the last 4 got incapacitating PGP too, so I just saw PG as a means to an end, to be endured not enjoyed!

Newborns were a walk in the park compared to that! Fuck it, LABOUR was a walk in the park compared to PG too :o