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To feel like my pregnancy will never end

54 replies

Slh122 · 20/01/2014 01:05

Almost 39 weeks and I think I've been pregnant for at least a thousand years.
People keep telling me to enjoy my sleep now - well I haven't slept for more than 3 hours in a row for the last 2 months so no chance of that.
I know I only have 3 weeks maximum to go but it honestly seems like a lifetime away.
I want to roll over in bed without being in pain and I'd like to be able to put my shoes on by myself.
I'd also quite like to meet my baby Grin
I know this is a very 'woe me' thread and I should be grateful to be pregnant but I am exhausted and just cannot sleep, I feel sick and I need to wee every 30 minutes. Since I started my maternity leave I've turned into a woman possessed - checking my knickers every 30 seconds for any possible 'leakage' and dithering over whether it's just discharge or not. Someone please tell me it will end soon! AIBU to be so fed up or should I be enjoying the 'calm before the storm' as someone so nicely put it?!

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Catsize · 21/01/2014 04:37

OP, I kind if get where you are coming from (36wks and awake and posting due to pregnancy insomnia). However, I agree with the 'calm before the storm' approach.
I was bed and wheelchair-ridden for last eight weeks of last pregnancy but just enjoyed the enforced painful relaxation. Knitting and daytime telly! (Have a v. stressful job usually. People thought I was bonkers to enjoy that time).
Horrible three day induction at 14 days over and then son born almost 17 days over.
House turned into Piccadilly Station (tempting not to tell anyone of the birth for about a week this time!) and we routinely had breakfast mid-afternoon etc.
This time, no proper relaxation at all and certainly no daytime TV! Toddler takes precedence.
So really, enjoy the last bit of 'you' time. You will look back and think you were bonkers for trying to rush things.

Newmummee · 21/01/2014 06:01

Can't believe some people say newborns are easy!!! I'm a first time mum and motherhood has hit me like thunderbolt! The first month was so hard with breastfeeding on demand and no more than 2 hrs sleep at any time. I never knew how hard it would be! The only thing that gets you through is the amazing little person depending on you in your arms! Pregnancy was a piece of cake compared to first month of having a baby.... Now at 7 weeks old, we are sort of getting to grips with it all and DD can sleep for 5 hour stretches at night sometimes which is best it's been! Good luck and your baby will be here soon enough, enjoy all the 'me time' you can, you will never have it again!!
P.s. Being a mum is amazing that being said

SomethingkindaOod · 21/01/2014 09:26

I'm definitely in the last weeks of pregnancy is as hard as the first weeks of newborn camp! I had almost 24/7 heartburn which nothing sorted, couldn't get comfortable at nights and sweated buckets. It gets worse when people start to ring and text to ask if you've had the baby Wink.

Catsize · 21/01/2014 09:59

Ah yes. The irritating 'any news?' texts. At 14 days overdue, I had had a few of those... Smile

ilikebaking · 21/01/2014 10:13

I was induced at 40+19 and he was born 40+21. I was pregnant every month last year barr January, it was HORRIBLE!!
The first 4 weeks of having a newborn were as bad as the end of pregnancy because I was in so much pain following an EMCS, had I managed a natural birth, the newborn stage would have been massively preferable to the final 3 weeks of the pregnancy where I was the size of a house and barely mobile.
This will end soon, enjoy lazing around and eating hot meals.
xxxx

FlyAwayToMalibu · 21/01/2014 10:18

I found having a newborn harder than being pregnant personally.

I remember getting annoyed when people told me to sleep while I could abd saying that I couldn't sleep anyway. Not sleeping from being uncomfortable is alot easier imo than sleep deprivation from a baby. Its relentless. And the lugging things around, never being able to sit down. No one asking how you are anymore, if you're ill - tough.

Wouldn't trade motherhood for the world, but I found the hard work began when baby was born.

Catsize · 21/01/2014 10:22

Agree with baking. Hot cups of tea a luxury too. Thought my son was late at 17 days over, but 21 quite incredible! Mind you, I do wonder about the science of the dating scans. I know the due date, as we had treatment, and it is five dats later than the scan date. A bit troubling... Mind you, last time my BP had gone sky high and waters had disappeared at some point between 20 and 42 weeks, so was admitted. And there was me thinking we might get an extension for our dream homebirth! Perhaps we should move to a country that has 41/42 weeks as the length of pregnancy. Smile

whitepuddingsupper · 21/01/2014 10:23

I think mother nature makes the last few weeks of pregnancy so awful as a way to make sure we are actually pleased when the pains start and don't go straight into panic mode. I was so pleased my DD came a few days before her due date as I was so huge and uncomfortable and bored being stuck in the house as I couldn't fit behind the wheel of the car and still reach the pedals and couldn't walk far because of pelvic pain, sympathies to all who are overdue and I hope today is the day for things to start happening.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 21/01/2014 10:32

I actually quite liked being pregnant, through the heartburn and swollen feet at the end were not great. Only made it to 37 weeks though, so perhaps I would have changed my mind. I did find that the first few weeks of having a newborn were not that bad. I think it takes a good two weeks for the constant exhaustion/sleep deprivation to kick in and override the glowy 'stare in awe at the tiny person you just grew inside your body' feelings. Weeks 3 - 6 were the worst. Then it evened out a bit.

bouquetofpencils · 21/01/2014 10:38

Pluck your eyebrows. Dd is 24wks old and my eyebrows are a right state. Used to go have them waxed but i don't have time for that palaver now.
Sympathies. I felt exactly the same. I could only wear flip flops as my feet swelled so much. I didn't go out as nothing fit me. Lived in a baggy vest and huge shorts for last two weeks. I got to 40+6.
As soon as dd arrived, nine horrendous months were instantly forgotton. Good luck!

MummyPig24 · 21/01/2014 12:44

Yanbu! I've got 7 weeks left till dc3 should put in an appearance. I hate being pregnant. I can't wait till I am few of pain and heartburn, I know I will be up all night with a crying newborn but at least I will be able to move freely!

Chwaraeteg · 21/01/2014 18:08

No, ynbu AT ALL. I'm another one who finds it so much easier having a newborn than being pregnant.

People who tell you to enjoy your sleep now because you will get less when the baby is here really don't get how bad pregnancy insomnia can be. I suffered with Obstetric Cholestasis for a large part of my pregnancy and also had an unexpectedly large baby. Between the crazy itching and the heartburn, I went for months on only 2 to 4 hours sleep a night, never sleeping more than an hour and a half at a time.

It was such a relief to get the baby out. Straight away I felt like my old self and started getting a good 6 to 8 hours a night, in 2 to 3 hour chunks (once I finally got out of the hospital anyway). Heaven!

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that some of us really do understand how you feel. I am sending all my sympathy your way.

I seriously considered sterilisation when I was pregnant but the cliche really is true: as soon as you see that baby, it will feel like everything was worth it worth it (my lo is now 15 weeks old and I would have another right now if I could).

I hope it doesn't last to long for you now!

Good luck.

Original poster
Slh122 · 22/01/2014 00:55

Well my pregnancy did end Grin
I'm currently sat here cuddling my 5 hour old baby boy!

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EsmereldaBelle · 22/01/2014 01:09

A wwww congratulations!!!! ThanksThanksThanksThanksThanks

Bogeyface · 22/01/2014 01:42

YAAAY!!!!

Congratulations! Sniff him for me :o

CheshireDing · 22/01/2014 01:55

Congratulations on your brand new boy.
It is hard to believe pregnancy will ever end, I have Dc2 who is 7 weeks old and I hated the end where your tummy is so big and hard you can't move it out of the way ! Even worse when PFB wanted to be carried all t h e time too.
I give it a month before you are saying you want another though Grin

Bogeyface · 22/01/2014 02:02

I give it a month before you are saying you want another though

That long?

I say 2 days tops :o

Original poster
Slh122 · 22/01/2014 04:30

I don't bloody think so - extremely quick labour has left me with some lovely extensive damage to my lady area. The thought of DP ever going near that area ever again makes me want to cry!
Although DS is very cute and he has that lovely newborn smell Grin

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spritesoright · 22/01/2014 05:52

Aww, congratulations. I am reading this post with pregnancy insomnia, so wish I was cuddling a newborn (except I'm really not ready).
If it's any consolation I found my episiotomy healed really quickly after DD1 despite initially finding the pain and disfiguration excruciating.

MummyPig24 · 22/01/2014 06:37

Congratulations!

PorkPieandPickle · 22/01/2014 09:21

Congratulations!!!!!! Was reading through this ready to make a comment about a newborn being much better than pregnancy- and now you know for yourself!!

Enjoy every second!

puntasticusername · 22/01/2014 10:48

Woo hoooooooo! Congratulations on the birth of your son, that's great news Smile

bouquetofpencils · 22/01/2014 11:12

Awww! Congratulations! Ah newborns. As my cheeky five month old is currently blowing raspberries and gurning at me ( I think she is going to be bossy) that little tiny newborn seems so long ago already. Enjoy!

Booboostoo · 23/01/2014 08:27

Congratulations, wonderful news! I am very jealous!

MTBMummy · 23/01/2014 09:06

COngrats, I was just about to sympathize and now I'm jealous. Currently 31 weeks (feels like 10 years)

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