what do i do with my neighbour

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He is an oldish man. Lovely and everything, although some would say he isnt.

I havent lived here all that long, so i have only seen him be nice, friendly and caring.

His gf has not long been sectioned and so he is having a hard time atm.
He has recently just found out about me now being on my own.
He has given me cigarettes, more cigarettes and now money.

I really dont want them. I fought him saying i really dont want it and also told him i will post them back. I have told him its making me feel bad and uncomfortable, but he still insists.
Pushing the money into my pockets and placing the cigarettes in the house when i refused to take them!

What can i do about this? I feel really bad, even though i didnt want, nor need them in the first place.

My mam has warned me to be careful and finds it all a bit strange.
I dont know what to do.

I dont know if he is crying out for help.
I have far too much to deal with myself atm, and as much as id like to help. I honestly dont have the time or the energy.

But surely the OP is justified in taking massive offence from his behaviour. I just think it doesn't matter whether he is trying to be a nuisance or not, he doesn't behave respectfully and the OP is better off staying away from him.

Your neighbour would give me the creeps I think.

What is it with people who because we are single think that we are automatically on the look out for a male to latch on to - no we are NOT!

I do hope you can get him to leave you alone.

I don't wish to worry you but I would recommend you start making a log of days/times/things that happen. Hopefully the problem will go soon on its own though!

Inform the police??? Maybe I'm being unreasonable, but better safe than sorry Or just ignore him??
Also, how did he get into the house?

I dont fancy sending no letters to hospitals. I have too much on my own plate to concern myself into other peoples business.

He does give me the creeps,as nice as he is - my mind always drifts to the stories he and his mrs has told me. It makes me feel he cant be as nice as he is portraying.

I wont bother with the police at the minute as he could very well just be being nice.
But anymore after today and i will tell him if he doesnt stop then i will inform the police.

In the meantime, a log wouldnt come in wrong.
He had got into the house as i had opened the door. He stepped in.

the signs of getting comfortable in my suspicious mind

I remember your previous post. I think because you were there and came into his home when the stuff with gf happened you are ‘part’ of it and his life, now in his mind, and normal barriers went that night.
You need to get them back and pull rank.

Ex shared house I lived in, they a lot higher educated than me, so when there was screaming one day from a couple’s room downstairs and everyone was outside listening, I was stunned, and went into their room when it was clear she was being hit and put a stop to it. I took her to my room. She went off to friend/mum that day.

He then kept coming to, and trying to come into, my room, and expecting me to be his ‘new friend’ and wanting to share things with me. (when I expected him to want to avoid me.)

Rest of the house acted like I should really expect this, which mystified me. They explained that when I intervened and she came into my room, I and it became part of the ‘how’ she was away, so of course he’d expect to now be able to be around me, especially as I was lesser status (LP and educationally) than him, in his mind.

I thought they were mad but they were well educated and one worked in mental health, and these days I see why they found it unsurprising. (though still think they were arses over it all!)