I think uks very different place from even when I grew up 80,s child.
Read few threads on mumsnet
*I went private but could never afford send my kids private.
*high earning professionals 50-100k bracket cant afford to buy a house
*majority people see live away from family so have no choice but to pay childcare.
*many professionals here opt private as betetr wrap around schol care so many state schools still have no after school clubs.
Our parents generation
houses were affordble
grammer schools existed all over was labout who initially scrapped the grammers then thatcher killed some more.
uni education was free
cost living reckons less than now look how much tax we pay non income
council tax, vat, petrol, price fags ect
its seems mad high earning professionals have shittier lifestyle than their parents who perhaps only 1parent worked and they had bog standard lower salary jobs.
I know a few self employed people with accountants as freind with 3kids always baffled how much her husband earns as god does she love to spend has not lost her cb yet and said accountant will write off as much as can keep them under thershold they were renting a house 1400 a year and just managed to buy property as think had some inherited money.
It does seem current tax scheme favours 2earners hence why weird anomoly of 2earners keeping cb and the next barking proposal take childcare of partimers and students and pay 1200per chiild to couples both working and earning upto 300k.
The high earner with one sahm parent is already taxed disproportionatly as it is.
Also old childcare went upto 12 new one age 5 a 5-12 can clearly fend for themselves.
its important ote their are good private schools and bad ones.
nearest private primary is £1400 term same price day nursery so affordable with 1 maybe but not any more but not heard good things all image no substance.
The majority here are 2.5-3k per term at infants/juniors.
10-11k seniors bristol, bath, south wales.
bristol has highest proportion independents outside london as state can be very bad and short on places.
my ex went private through assisted places as did many of his mates it evened the social mix and think was good thing.
Lots of the privates good ones do at least have scholarships and bursaries.
sometimes think if private schools could maybe have sliding fees depending on income be fairer and give good mix however not sure be financially viable as a business and would lose its appeal exclusivity.
I do sometimes wonder in rl and mumsnet if sometimes people be better off paying private than mortgaging themselves to hilt on shoe box close to school or old mumsnet fave renting house near new school as perhaps they landlord as well.
It does seem like good state schools can push up houses in shitty streets or crap houses theres one near me naaice middle class pushy juniors who parents seem smug their child got in , made the times list other day.
we looking to move house came up within that area overpriced and that school is not on my list for dd2 as know most of parents there would do my head in.
I have tried pick schools for dd2 that have a even social mix and not middle class ghettos.one is lottery so guess fair but cost me fortune in uniform and just to get there.
Also keen to note dont think state education as cheap as when im a kid.
*the extortionate school trips especially secondry
*The extortionate uniforms especially academys seem to pick ie one supplier, trying copy private schools gone are days where nana could knit v neck in relevent colour.Primary uniform some ways come down as supermarket sell but many insist on expensive logo tops not the supermarket cardies or jumpers for £3. some chosse really freaky colours like brown, purple turqoise and green inpossible get on cheap.
*breckfast clubs, school dinners,afterschool care, afterschool clubs all add up.
*charity/fundraising sometimes feel like being fleeced for money and school xmas fair can easily cost me 20quid.
- travel and admissions means many do 2schools so forced pay childcare for least one as cant be 2places at same time, could get schools miles away so cost getting there.
*seniors the flipping school bus £60 per month here ad councils removed paying for faith too think they stillpay special education but its devolved so upto each council and many trying wriggle out of lots comitments.
*expensive house to get good school
I just dont think money go fars these days.
regionally be unfair as already postcoe lottery as very few areas have option of grammers and london schools done better due to teach first.
I have 3dcs, sahm, husband earns 40-45k we not fflush far from it.
we rent private which is extortionate.
we have hardly any savings
no private pensions
not been abroad in 8years dident even manage uk one last year.
we pay prescriptions and dental.
we couldent afford private.
There does seem to be roud here that some acdemys free schools are cheaper private schools or sort of hybrid and some schools have rather dubious admissions policies.
Couple good idnependent seniors went state and now very oversubscribed.
Couple private preps went bust last few years.
I think with downturn theres more wanting be in state sector unless they guradian journo or labour politicain think
polly toynbee, tony blair, diane abbot to name a few do the balls kids go state? think they have 3.
I know daves kids go state coe
npt sure about nicks think hes just got well sought after state senirs in london
both of them attended private schools, both have money to go private but they dont .
not sure where eds will go he makes sing and dance about going comp but comp with tiny very expensive leafy catchment area is not same as comp in inner bristol.
iprotant to note not evenyone in leafy catchemnts rich they probably mortaged upt hilt just to buy near school in 1st place.
our council has consulation on admissions.
they now want to exclude nearby residents from other county we close to border and next postcode along less affluent from accessing schools within our postcode by creating a very large area of prime responsability and calls its localism reducing traffic, reducing transport costs but some live in blackholes for schools as it is.
also worth nothing faith schools really do complicate things inmany other countries all faith schools are private .
in ireland they pay for lots things not sure education but they pay see gp.