"Give us a smile love!" AIBU?!?

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Is it just me? Or is it my hometown?

Every time I visit my home town I have this said to me at least once a week!

Why?!?

I think I'm quite a happy person generally. Clearly not!

AIBU?

This bothers me too, a lot, it's presumptuous and can be rather annoying if you have good reason to not be smiling. BUT I always (pardon the pun) grin and bear it, since I think it's from a kind place.

Haha! I get this! I usually have my thinking face on (I think) or my 'what have I forgotten to do' face.

I wouldn't dream of saying it to someone. I can't decide whether it's better or worse than "show us your tits love". Lol.

YANBU !! I HATE when people say things like that! Or "It might never happen..." Grrr!!

I have chronic bitchface so I get this a lot. People presume I am miserable because I refuse to walk around with an inane grin all day long.

I don't get it often, despite my miserable resting face.

It doesn't really bother when I do though. It doesn't really register. Maybe people say it more often than I think

ditto.

Bitchy resting face?

Last time someone said this to me I was on my way to a funeral.

Shut them up when they got told that......

I hate this. So presumptious that women should just be smiling serenely to be decorative and attractive. Some builder working on a house near mine said it to me - the first time I left the house after a death in the family. I just shouted to him that someone I loved had died and I didn't feel like smiling just to please him. He just stared back and didn't say a word.

Men say it to women, generally. It's rude and idiotic.

YANBU. You are not a performing animal

Oooh. I wasn't actually thinking of it as a comment made by men, in my area it's commonly used by elderly persons. That does seem much creepier and less kindly when I imagine a younger man saying it.

I think it's a sort of crappy "greeting" and isn't meant to annoy...it's ignorant though as someone could have just been bereaved or anything!

Why don't you say "My dog just got run over....I can never smile again."

And stare at them with a flat expression?

It is such an intrusion.
"Go fuck yourself" usually pops out of my pretty mouth*

• I know it's pretty because an electrician once told me

Give them a hard stare, say 'I only smile when I find my next victim' then flash them a creepy smile.

The thing with this particular statement is I find it's men of a certain age who don't mean anything by it really. It's just a thing they say.

I'd take "smile love it might never happen", even if "it" may well have happened over "I'd smash her back doors in no problem" every time.

I'd be inclined to reply with 'Don't be such a prat' (Does prat have one t or two?) accompanied by a massive glare. But I am not particularly friendly or patient, so there may be better ways of responding!

Maybe your face doesn't really look very happy.

Gawd this one AGAIN?

Where the blazes is the harm in someone saying "Give us a smile"?

At least they didn;t say "Get yer tits out"

My face in repose is set to miserable.

I could however, raise a huge smile by punching any bloke that says this to me. As this might not be acceptable, I just have to imagine doing it whilst scowling at the twat that says it.

So what coffee? Are people required to look happy?

At least they didn;t say "Get yer tits out

So because they could say something more twatty than what they said we should be grateful?

I find it very sad that women accept this sort of shit because "at least they didn't say something worse." How about aiming for a culture where women go abour their businesd with perhaps the odd friendly "hello"? Just because women are normal treated like total crap doesn't mean they should be glad when they're "only" treated a bit like crap.

Has anyone actually ever smiled in response to this kind of comment? My face goes from naturally-sulky to death-stare in seconds in the face of such dickheadedness.