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WIBU to ask after school to not have permanent markers

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 18:48

ds is 5 and as part of his uniform he has white shirts and white tshirts. I pay for him to go to after school place while I work. they get something to eat and then play/do homework.

he is a warm kid and from running around takes off this jumper. I already have a lot of tomato based stains to wash out. don't mind that as most of them come out with a stain spray. but 3 times I have had a white shirt/tshirt had blue permanent marker stains on them. no amount of soaking or sprays or special whitening/stain removal lotions and potions remove them. they are fit for the bin.

wibu to ask them to please not have a permanent marker lying about. I know it is for the whiteboard I often see them writing on when I pull up to collect him.

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wombat31 · 18/01/2014 18:52

Tell your child not the after school club, make him responsible for his property. Tell the after school club that you have already told him not to play with them and could they please support your decision.

ilovesooty · 18/01/2014 18:52

Surely it can't be for the white board if it's permanent?

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 18:54

i cant imagine telling him not to play with it and watch everyone else play with them but i guess its not fair on other kids to ask to have them banned. suppose i just have to tell him and hope he doesn't have anymore accidents.

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 18:55

ilovesooty i see what you mean but its a white board they use it on but if its not permanent it sure is permanent on clothes!!

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 18:56

just fuckin annoying as have to keep buying new shirts/tshirts.

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TheNightIsDark · 18/01/2014 18:56

Dry wipe marker. Complete pain! Ask them to give him an apron or send him with an old shirt to cover him.

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 18:59

yeah suppose could ask them to do that but know he wont go for it doesn't want to stand out from others. everyone there is in their uniforms from same school. im surely not the only mum who has this problem but don't want to rock the boat as i love this after school. they are brilliant. just sick of buying new tops. its not like i can still use them as he always takes his jumper off and wouldn't dream of sending him in with a stained top.

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WooWooOwl · 18/01/2014 19:02

White board pen stains are a pain in the arse, but you can't ask the club to completely remove them if they are part of an activity. They often use these types of pen in KS1 and reception, so it could happen during school time as well.

You might be better off getting your child to make sure his jumper goes somewhere safe when he takes it off, as he's likely to have plenty of opportunities to get it mucky with things other than marker pens over the next few years.

RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 19:04

dry wipe markers are a total pain. I have managed to get marks all over my tops with them and they don't totally wash out but all schools have them for children to use so I guess you just have to grin and bear it unless he can responsible for putting on an old top every time he wants to pick up the dry marker pen. I wouldn't raise the issue with the after school club, they will have plenty things to deal with without trying to monitor who is using what pen.

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 19:06

they are very good in there make sure their jumpers go into their school bags and i am prepared for dirty mucky uniforms he is a 5yr old boy after all.

guess will grin and bear it. thanks folks.

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RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 19:06

P.s I think you also have to get used to sending your son in to school with pen stained/paint splodged clothes like the rest of us do. No teacher will think anything of it. Things will ease up by year 1.

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 19:07

very true RussianBlu he will be attending there for next 8 years. i don't want to be the pain in d arse marker mum!

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 19:08

RussianBlu I sure I will ease up ...but blue marker on white would probably be seen from space and I wouldn't send him in like that.

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RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 19:08

Exactly. Raise the issue and they will spend the time in after school club drawing pictures on the whiteboard of you with a sad boo hoo face with dry wipe pens for the rest of the year :)))

DirtieBertie · 18/01/2014 19:11

If it is definitely happening at after school club rather than in lessons, can you send him with a cheap dark t-shirt to change into?

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 19:14

ha ha RussianBlu i can imagine alright. no its definitely in after school. might try getting him to change but with the button shirt and tie they might not appreciate me adding more work for them as ds cant handle them yet (even though i don't open all the buttons and teach him to do it over his head he is like Houdini trying to get out of a straight jacket when he does it himself and runs around banging into walls - nutter).

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Snozwanger · 18/01/2014 19:33

This might work on the stains:

www.dr-beckmann.co.uk/products/stain-removers/stain-devils-ink-stain-remover/

Longtalljosie · 18/01/2014 19:38

Wash the clothes. If the pen stains remain - well that is what school uniform is there for. You're overthinking this.

littlewhitebag · 18/01/2014 19:45

Mine just wore paint/pen/food stained tops to school! The clothes are clean - just stained. All school kids have clothes like that as far as i am aware.

MissPryde · 18/01/2014 19:46

Those stain devils stain removers linked above are excellent. Rubbing alcohol also works well on marker.

I don't think it would be totally out of line to ask the supervisors if they could limit access to permanent markers, I would be annoyed as well, that's a bit much for five year olds. But I agree not to worry too much about the stains, either. Don't keep buying new shirts.

ShoeWhore · 18/01/2014 19:49

The children use markers and mini whiteboards in phonics and other carpet sessions at our school. Are you sure it's not happening at school?

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 20:21

ShoeWhore I'm positive its not happening in school. I've seen his classroom many times. there isn't a white board. maybe i will ease up as the years go by but its annoying for now. and i still will be sending him to school without stains until i get fucked up of it i suppose but tbh if i saw a stained uniform on another kid i would think it wasn't right. would YOU wear stained clothes to work? just my opinion but will probably be proved wrong and not worry about it in years to come.

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Mikkii · 18/01/2014 20:28

Soaking in milk is supposed to remove ink.

Our after school club are happy for the kids to change. I don't bother as then I would have 2 sets of filthy clothes instead of one.

I don't think it gets much better, DD2 (year 2) has marker stains on her white shirts and the only reason DS doesn't at the moment is that he has grown so has new shirts!

You will come yo terms with it, making sure he wears uh stained for trios and photos.

Mikkii · 18/01/2014 20:28

That was meant to be unstained for trips and photos.

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spongebob13 · 18/01/2014 20:29

milk? really? never heard that one. worth a try thank you.

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