WIBU to ask after school to not have permanent markers

[spongebob13]

ds is 5 and as part of his uniform he has white shirts and white tshirts. I pay for him to go to after school place while I work. they get something to eat and then play/do homework.

he is a warm kid and from running around takes off this jumper. I already have a lot of tomato based stains to wash out. don't mind that as most of them come out with a stain spray. but 3 times I have had a white shirt/tshirt had blue permanent marker stains on them. no amount of soaking or sprays or special whitening/stain removal lotions and potions remove them. they are fit for the bin.

wibu to ask them to please not have a permanent marker lying about. I know it is for the whiteboard I often see them writing on when I pull up to collect him.

Bleach?

It would be very unusual for a primary classroom to not use whiteboard and pens ime. Every one I've been in over past recent years have lots of mini boards and pens for pupil use at carpet time and during classes at tables too, especially phonics and numeracy. They are not always out at all times but most classrooms have a box of them.

As said we use whiteboard pens pretty much daily from eyfs.

Really for worry about sending your child in with marked clothing. No one cares. Teachers and staff can tell the difference between a marked top and a dirty top. They really won't judge your child or you as a parent at all.

Nothing shifts white board pen. I gave up, the DDs just wore checked summer dresses with random steaks of black, blue and one with orange smugges.

Fortunately, the hateful stuff didn't show on their navy jumpers.

I am another slattern who sends her children in with clean but stained tops, fact if life and they don't get any better mine are 9 and the sauce, pen, paint stains have been added to with dirt and grass stains.

Maybe you need to judge others less so your child can enjoy school without fear of you getting stressed due to stained clothes, not to mention the expense!

I keep 2 tops back for assembly and School
Photo days, they where also supposed to be for trips out but the school never inform us about trips out so that is moot now.

Hulababy I'm in Ireland ... i don't even know what carpet time is!!

as for judging others? just my opinion and as i said maybe with time i'll lighten up but at the moment i don't like ds wearing stained clothes to school and i wouldn't send him in stained clothes.

would be afraid that bleach would just rot them as the material is quite thin.

Bleach is absolutely fine, in my experience. Anyway, what do you have to lose if the clothes are destined for the bin regardless?

true ToysRLuv will go soak them now actually cheers

YANBU, 5 year olds shouldn't have access to pens that don't come off clothes in the wash. Could you get the after school club/ teacher to share the problem? Go in with the shirt and ask if they were using a permanent marker by mistake as you can't get it out?
It's very easy to have the wrong pen in circulation, after all.

Can you get one of those little bleach gel pens to use just on the spot? That's what I used when my boys had white uniform shirts. Thankfully, they've changed to maroon. Who chooses white uniform shirts for elementary school children?! Honestly!

Carpet time is just that. Time spent by children sat on the carpet in front if the teacher and the interactive whiteboard. Often the learning part of a lesson where the teacher is imparting information - what they are learning. Generally first and last part of any lesson. Can also be for a whole lesson eg phonics.

I must be on another planet, but I really don't care about stains on school uniform.

MrsDeVere who was that aimed at?

FortyDoors you really are from another planet who replies to a thread they have no interest in?

Who would seriously either ask for a ban or stop a child using a pen which is very good for learning for the sake of a few blobs on ink on a shirt.

What's more important his education or his clothing.

Although as I say I gave up on white board pen on summer dresses as they used little boards for maths, I did get very fed up with paint at preschool.

They had aprons, they just couldn't be arsed to use them.

Could you buy some different whiteboard pens for the after-school club to use? It is possible to buy waterbased ones that come out of clothes. The downside of them is that water/pen remover to clean the whiteboards.

Spongebob - your child will definitely be using a whiteboard pen and board during school hours in the classroom. Every class in every school has them.

My Ds in particular always gets grubby at school with pen marks etc. I sometimes bleach ours if they get bad, or he wears marked ones under a jumper if we get desperate

Agree with rubbing milk into the ink stain.

YABU - whiteboards are regularly used in ALL classes to ensure every pupil participates. Vanish the shirts & they will fade although not come out completely. As someone else remarked,ingrained dirt & stains are very different, teachers really do not expect kids to be pristine!