To check my 12 year olds phone from time to time ?

[Nittyb]

She is aware I do, & obviously she thinks I am ! I do understand she feels I'm invading her privacy, and I'm not entirely comfortable with that either, I just feel I need to be aware of anything inappropriate ?
Does anyone else do this or just me ?

I would check... The people saying the kids will just delete things if they are lucky enough to have iPhones nothing is ever really deleted and everytime they plug into the computer a back up will be saved a simple down load of a certain type of program will let you view every text/email/website/whatsapp/photo/phone call/contact list/note pad etc..

I've used said program when my phone messed up and was surprised just how much was put back onto my phone.

Every text my child receives also goes to his dad's phone - they can't just delete messages.

No the pervert doesn't groom you at midnight on your phone, but every day at school.

OK today, I suspect the teacher who befriended me couldn't have been so blatant and our 'friendship' never did become anything more. Had he intended it to, he'd have realised I wasn't interested.

Would he have like it to have, I don't know. I do know he went on to have a second wife was only a couple of years older than me.

Sexual abuse and bullying are not new and certainly don't need technology.

My older DD avoids social media like the plague, but still gets all sorts of shit that DD2 who chatters away in all manner of sites will never get.

My daughter has had one since she was 9. Her dad is a feckless idiot who had his landline cut off. He's also diabetic so she needed a way to contact me if anything happened when she was at his for a night or two.
I check it regularly and she's fine with that. She has instagram (she's 11 now) but has strict rules about what she can post. I have all passwords.
Perhaps when she's older she can have a balance that allows her more privacy but as a teacher I've seen how wide spread and damaging online bullying can be so I'll carry on checking her texts and instagram for now.