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To think its disgusting TRIGGER WARNING: Possibly distressing content [[edited by MNHQ]]

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vicki2010 · 15/01/2014 13:37

Just logged on facebook( I know I know I should just remove myself/friend!)
There was a photo of a baby born at 19weeks, obviously not living, My 'friend' says she wants to draw attention to 'young girls' who think at 19 weeks it's just a clump of cells.
I have commented saying I think she's being extremely insensitive and shouldn't be posting those kinds of pictures online. She doesn't know who's been through what and I feel so sorry for anyone who has lost a baby at this stage or had no choice but to terminate, each to their own and all that.
I felt sick, am I over reacting?

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gamerchick · 15/01/2014 13:53

well the reason it was posted wouldn't bother me.. just like meat is murder bollocks you get. some people like to shock for whatever cause they feel strongly about. (it doesn't work).

But no..I don't really want to see pictures of dead babies in my newsfeed and would probably hide that person.

AbbeyBartlet · 15/01/2014 13:53

I saw that too - one friend had tagged another friend asking if she was still okay about abortions. I hid the post tbh.

HelpMyHair · 15/01/2014 14:03

Oh god that's awful! Does she have no thought for those who have lost their babies around that stage through no fault of their own?! I can't stand stuff like that, if a woman did abort at 19 weeks then I'm sure that decision wasn't made lightly. And what a way to group all young girls together!!

kreecherlivesupstairs · 15/01/2014 14:07

Stupid friend stupid FB.
FWIW, I agree with Helpmyhair. Nobody has a TOP lightly, certainly not one at 19 weeks.
Stupid friend.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 15/01/2014 14:12

Yes its disgusting. I'd defriend someone who posted a dead body on fb. I dont want to see that, under any circumstances.

And your "friend" is incredibly ignorant if she thinks only "young girls" have abortions, nor does anyone make the decision to lightly. no one i know anyway.

Gileswithachainsaw · 15/01/2014 14:13

I came onto this thread expecting to say that yabu and that if someone had home through such a tragic time then we have no right to tell them how to grieve.

BUT... If she's using it to guilt people out of abortions then she's sick in the head!! Drs don't perform abortions for no reason. To have one so late there must have been fear for the mum or the baby.

What a nasty nasty nasty thing to do!!

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 15/01/2014 14:13

Report it to FB.

nennypops · 15/01/2014 14:16

Please humour the pedants and get MN to correct your spelling of "disgusting"?

Only1scoop · 15/01/2014 14:17

So glad I'm not on fb....Hmm

BuzzardBird · 15/01/2014 14:19

Yes, please get MN to alter your spelling of 'disgusting' as I clicked on this thread thinking it was going to be funny and it was actually very distressing :(

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vicki2010 · 15/01/2014 14:39

Oops how do edit the title?

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Original poster
vicki2010 · 15/01/2014 14:40

For goodness sake I can't even write properly!! Grrr

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maillotjaune · 15/01/2014 14:42

YANBU that's completely insensitive.

Think you need to report your OP to Mnhq to ask them to edit.

ohhifruit · 15/01/2014 14:43

Who does the picture belong to?

MoominsYonisAreScary · 15/01/2014 14:46

If its not her picture then she shouldnt be posting it, thays someones baby ffs

If it is hers then it is up to her if she wants to show people

pookamoo · 15/01/2014 14:46

I doubt FB would remove the photo, they have a very limited range of things they will take down.

CosyTeaBags · 15/01/2014 14:46

That's awful. A friend of mine had to terminate a pregnancy at a late stage due to developmental defects. If she saw that on FB she would be utterly devastated. I hope it doesn't do the rounds in my circles.

If you're editing the title, perhaps ask MNHQ to warn of distressing content as well? Dont want to upset anyone.

CosyTeaBags · 15/01/2014 14:48

I imagine it has been shared from god knows where, long since removed from the original owner of the photo.

ouryve · 15/01/2014 14:53

It's an extremely insensitive thing to do, both to parents who have lost babies and those mothers who need to make some tough decisions about their own pregnancies and it's also rather contradictory. Sharing this picture isn't exactly showing any respect for the baby concerned.

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vicki2010 · 15/01/2014 14:53

It's a story that was published in a newspaper that the article is from, all seems like a genuine persons story and there are many photos with the family and their other children holding the baby, it's just the fact that when she posted it on fb the first thing you see is the baby in someone's hand, naked and obviously passed away. I just don't agree with forcing it in peoples faces, I know that's the way fb goes but I just couldn't believe it!

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Floggingmolly · 15/01/2014 14:55

What "young girls" is she targeting it at, exactly? Confused

ExcuseTypos · 15/01/2014 14:57

Report your post to MNHQ and ask them to change the title- with a warning in it about distressing content.

ViviPru · 15/01/2014 14:59

See if this was 6 months ago, this would have been a thread about most irksome misspellings on facebook. AIBU, You've changed Sad

yourusername123456789 · 15/01/2014 15:42

You wouldn't show a picture of a dead adult so why is it ok to show this?

AbbeyBartlet · 15/01/2014 15:52

I read the wording and it WAS a baby whose mother had unfortunately miscarried. The group used the pic to prove that foetuses of that age look like babies, not just a clump of cells.

It was seriously sick shit and is anti-abortion propaganda.

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