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to give up ANOTHER degree

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Objection · 13/01/2014 22:33

background: I went straight from sixth form to a volunteering position in Africa and then went on to work in various office jobs.

In 2011 I took a part time job in an office at a University and started a full time degree at another university nearby in Media & Sociology. After 2 weeks the hour commute between work and lectures was killing me (i worked a half day, every day) so I switched to attend the University I was working at studying BA Sociology instead (I wanted to do Psychology but it was full).

I despised both the course and my job and then got hit by a car (as you do) and had to take some time out. This gave me chance to have a think and shortly afterwards I quit both.

Taking another job at the University, this one being Full Time and in a much nicer department, I enrolled on a Psychology degree with the Open University (my OH is also studying with them and we both rated them highly). I much prefer the subject and also means I can progress onto Clinical Psychology which is what I wanted in the 1st place.

I felt pretty stupid though as this was now the 3rd university I had been to.

However, I now work in a very stressful office job full time (a high level role but not management) and work in London as a weekend Nanny most weekends.

My motivation skills are poor (and clearly my attention span is too) and I am battling with an ever increasing depression and anxiety disorder as I struggle to fit study around 60+ working hours a week.

I have worked out that by quitting my office job and starting yet another degree at a brick and mortar university I could bring home £370 a week at least by studying the degree full time, working most weekends and fitting in the odd temp nanny job during the holidays.

This would give me 5 days a week extra to study and the contact time with the university would most likely increase my motivation.

I'm also confident I will be allowed to start in year 2 as I have already completed a lot of credits. so I would finish the degree a year earlier.

but I would be accumulating a lot (£25000) of student debt and would be hugely embarrassed to be changing routes AGAIN

AIBU to change universities for Blush the 4th time?

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DontmindifIdo · 14/01/2014 15:42

Can I also ask another question that you don't have to answer, if you are struggling with your own mental health issues, are you sure that a career working with other people with mental health problems day in and out will be the best for you?

Objection · 14/01/2014 16:04

I've just spoken to two of the local universities and neither would be able to enter me in on the 2nd year (regardless of what i had completely before).
So i would have to "go back" to do 1st year over again. This is a massive factor, both financially and for my own sanity.

I'm going to check with the other universities in my area but tbh I'm getting the impression that Psychology is a special case for this kind of thing.

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Objection · 14/01/2014 16:05

dontmindifido Its something im really interested in and naturally inclined towards. Plus i think that my experiences with MH will give me a level of empathy which would be massively beneficial.

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