to go downstairs and tell PIL to leave

[namechanger1979]

24 hours ago I was giving birth to a baby (not first child). I am knackered look like shit and generally in pain.

FIL rang immediately and spoke to DH wanting to come and visit asap. I wasnt happy but arranged to come for a "flying visit" this pm. I told Dh that i didnt feel up to visitors so Id stay in bed.

Well an hour and a half later Im lying HIDING in bed whilst they are still here.

I fancy something to eat... Or maybe wven a cuddle with the baby but i really dont feel up to gping downstairs.

Should I just go down and tell them to leave?????

Yes or ask dh to do it, congrats by the way.

Yes, tell them to get out now! They sound like they have no boundaries

Aren't they waiting for you and the baby to go down? They'll probably go then.

Can you text your husband from bed? And get him to bring you the baby, a cup of tea, and a snack! At least then the PILs might get the hint.

How have you not snapped already?! Tell your DH to tell them it's time to go. I know grandparents are just as excited about the new arrival as you guys are but enough is enough and they have definitely overstayed their welcome.

Congratulations too :)

Absolutely. A 'thank you for coming but I think it's best you go now' whilst gathering up baby and heading straight back upstairs.

Congratulations - do lots of gazing and cuddling

Tell your dh to ask them to leave. An hour and half is much too long.

Slate - I read it as the baby being downstairs and namechanger is upstairs.

Yes I think you should, or at least your DH should ask them to leave.
You need time to bond with baby and to rest. An hour and a half is long enough for a visit to meet baby.

Congratulations on your new baby!

They have baby down with them. I have texted DH already but his phone is up here.

Ahh this was my in laws on my first except it was in hospital. I was practically at the stage of offering them the bed they stayed so long, every evening, for 5 evenings. FIL used to call in on his own when I was trying to bf drove me batshit. Still they were excited, I get that but some people do need to be told. When they started calling around to the house I got dh to have a word. They were great after that.

Shout him upstairs now and tell him straight!

Thanks for the congratulations.

Are they waiting to see you?

Maybe a twenty minute sit down with them and tell DH to tell them to leave straight after?

Congratulations! :)

Call your DH from the top of the stairs in your best tired voice

I'd just shout down to DH that you need him, then tell him.

Go downstairs and get your baby. Ignore any protests!

Probably in the minority here but unless you had a really horrendous birth would it not be ok to allow them to see their new grandchild, even for quarter of a hour or so? Is there a backstory here and you don't like them?

I'd be inclined to go down, let them hold the baby whilst you have a cup of tea and say that you're off back to bed.

Congratulations. Just shout to dh that you need him, then tell him to get rid of them!

Lovely they have had baby with them downstairs for an hour and a half. I think that's fair.

I think they've been there a while lovely.

Sorry, just saw they have the baby. In that case, if you really can't bear to see them, text your husband and place your order.

He might be pleased to see them?

yabu, let your dh have some time with his dad and your new born.
congrats. btw.
have a rest.

When will your baby need a feed?
Won't your DH bring baby up to you?

I would shout oi bring my baby back and fuck off, down the stairs but then I'm not exactly known for my tact.

The baby is 24 hours old, the PIL have been downstairs with the baby for 1.5 hours, they've had plenty of time!