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to go downstairs and tell PIL to leave

48 replies

namechanger1979 · 12/01/2014 17:20

24 hours ago I was giving birth to a baby (not first child). I am knackered look like shit and generally in pain.

FIL rang immediately and spoke to DH wanting to come and visit asap. I wasnt happy but arranged to come for a "flying visit" this pm. I told Dh that i didnt feel up to visitors so Id stay in bed.

Well an hour and a half later Im lying HIDING in bed whilst they are still here.

I fancy something to eat... Or maybe wven a cuddle with the baby but i really dont feel up to gping downstairs.

Should I just go down and tell them to leave?????

OP posts:
Pancakeflipper · 12/01/2014 17:32

text your DH and tell him to get rid.

LucyLasticBand · 12/01/2014 17:32

have a sleep op.

IneedAsockamnesty · 12/01/2014 17:32

And fwiw I would do this to any guest who was there longer than 20 minutes within the first week no matter who they were or were not related to

stardustoddity · 12/01/2014 17:32

YANBU
Ring the home phone!

Bigbrassband · 12/01/2014 17:33

Phone the landline!

cees · 12/01/2014 17:34

They have had a visit, now it's time they left so you can all rest. Ask them to go and be as blunt as you like.

liger · 12/01/2014 17:34

Hope you've got him in your arms again now

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namechanger1979 · 12/01/2014 17:34

I hadnt thought about landline Will do that

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SecretNutellaFix · 12/01/2014 17:35

It's more than time for them to sod off home.

You and the baby need rest.

MoominsYonisAreScary · 12/01/2014 17:37

I like socks idea, im a bit of a wimp though so would have to get dp to do it for me Grin

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namechanger1979 · 12/01/2014 17:39

OK landline worked. Dh is making excuses now.... Will be gone in afew minutes. Just to make it clear thqt when dh agreed they could come they knew id be in bed.

Thing is in a few days ill probaly be up and about and fine with visitors bit for now i dont feel up to it.

Im going down in a moment hooray!

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Birdsgottafly · 12/01/2014 17:41

In defense, they may have thought you were asleep.

It depends on their reaction when you go downstairs.

I would want to check face to face with my female relative if they needed anything, in any way, depending on how reliable their DP was.

waltermittymissus · 12/01/2014 17:41

Enjoy your evening with your baby.

24 hours! You mus tbe exhausted.

SauvignonBlanche · 12/01/2014 17:44

Grin Flowers

liger · 12/01/2014 17:44

Enjoy

CaptainSweatPants · 12/01/2014 17:45

Aw congratulations!

fryingpantoface · 12/01/2014 19:41

That happened to me with ds1. When ds2 was born on Wednesday i made clear mil could come around but only for 30 mins. I think because i made it so clear they abided by the 30 mins. It helps that dh was onside too

ilovemywestie · 12/01/2014 20:44

24 hours after having my 2nd baby my PIL visited and I ended up cooking lunch for them all while they sat and cuddle the baby and chatted! The next day I had mastitis Sad I'm still fuming 18 years later! Tell them its time to go home and then have something nice to eat and rest if you can. Many congratulations by the way on your lovely new baby Thanks

AndHarry · 12/01/2014 20:46

Have you got the baby back yet?!

Congratulations :)

WhoNickedMyName · 12/01/2014 20:53

I can understand they're probably desperate to meet their new grandchild and I'd like to think that when DS has his first child I'd be able to meet him/her for a cuddle ASAP.

However, I'd turn up with a lasagne and some cake to leave for the new parents for their tea, stay 30 minutes max and then be gone. I'd certainly take the hint if my DIL didn't even come downstairs.

Hope you're all curled up together and in laws are long gone.

jenwa · 12/01/2014 20:57

Mine came over when my c section scar for infected a week later. (They had already seen the baby) they told
DH they WERE coming over when DH meant to be popping to work so would have just been me and baby and I said r wasn't good as dr and MW due to see me and they still turned up with me trying to say that the dr on way out (wouldn't look good having home visit from dr as I was in agony and also having visitors hers) but they took no units and said they would stay and just leave the room when dr arrived. Told my DH to go to work and they would stay. I wanted DH here with me for appt then he could go and me and DS would go to bed. Didn't want anyone here as felt rubbish. They stayed and DH made me lunch which they refused but then kept telling me my food looked food and ended up eating some. I left the room and went upstairs as knew dr would be here soon. When I had DD1 MIL sat next to me when MW came out and was asking about my stitches. She never got up except for DDs heel prick and said she could not bear to be in the same room for that!! Listened to all my personal stuff touch whilst i was trying to get DH attention to get her to leave the room! This time I managed to escape with DS upstairs and DR and MW came up to me. Told DH to get rid of PIL as didn't want them in house whilst he was at work as was so tired needed rest. I know they want to see the baby but it
Annoyed me they had all weekend and chose not to come over!

jenwa · 12/01/2014 20:58

Sorry! Bad typos!! Currently BF Blush.

jenwa · 12/01/2014 20:59

Oh and they live 10 mins away so wasn't as if they had travelled far!

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