To be annoyed and possibly over reacting

[McPie]

Db and sil have just came back from a holiday in the US and whilst they managed to be in a warm part they hit a flu epidemic.
She felt the need to come over and say hello while sniffing in the corner full of whatever bugs she picked up over there, most likely flu as she looked like death warmed up and could hardly walk in a straight line!
I am pretty sure my face said it all and the fact I stayed as far away as possible must have made it clear that I was not overly happy that she chose to possibly infect us all.
As soon as she left all the windows were opened to air the room, it's bloody frozen out there too, and I have already copped a couple of vit c in the hope I can escape catching her flu as I have 3 dc to deal with and really don't want to be ill at all.
AIBU to think that if you feel crappy in the way she did then you don't bloody go and visit others and spread it around?

[Geckos48]

I'm just repeating what my doctor told me, that flu's come in various strengths and affect people in various ways, so what seems like a bad cold to some will be full blown flu in the elderly or the very young.

[BrickorCleat]

as I normally keep my illnesses to myself rather than spread the misery around

That made me laugh!

I can't lose the picture of the OP as that long-faced aunt in the Giles cartoons.

She (and you) would have known if she'd actually had flu. That was a (nasty?) cold.

[highho1]

If it was flu yanbu but if a cold yabu.
Do you keep your dc off school or paygroup when they have a cold op to avoid germs?
Also think you are rude to say sil had nothing important to say.

[IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKaleesi]

I don't think you're being unreasonable

Even if it was just a nasty cold, why spread it around more than neccesery? Of course you can't avoid everyone and everything but if I or the dc are ill I do try and to avoid spreading it as much as possible

[StayAwayFromDeliriumDive]

I would suggest that your doctor dumbed down the information for you. Flu and colds are different types of virus and have different strains rather than strengths.

Flu is a risk to everyone - particularly those with long term conditions- COPD, asthma, diabetes, heart, liver and kidney disease, compromised immune system and pregnancy.

I would agree that most people with flu (regardless of strain) would struggle to lift their head off the pillow.

[IamInvisible]

That is absolute shit about flu being in some people and a bad cold in another because it is a different virus for a start!

Flu does affect different people differently, but it can make even healthy people very, very ill and people die from 'flu. Granted, they usually have an underlying medical condition or are very old, but not always.

[Lifeisaboxofchocs]

I suspect she has jet lag, the sniffles and a generous dollop of hypochondri.

Don't stress it. Flu knocks you sideways. You certainly don't fancy unnecessarily visiting people for a chat.

[Writerwannabe83]

I honestly can't believe how precious some people are about germs. It really makes me when I see posts like this!

[McPie]

I just took it as being flu from what she said on facebook on the 7th, she said they both felt really sick and were too weak to do anything and that everyone around them has flu and they had just joined the long list of sufferers. Oh well only time will tell now!

[gamerchick]

Well take heart.. If you do get it...it'll come out of nowhere and knock you down... then you can plot about how you're going to lick her eyeballs next time you have a lurgy.

I probably wouldn't worry though unless she unleashed a sneeze.

[GrumpyInYorkshire]

YABU and slightly unhinged.

[FanFuckingTastic]

I would expect most of my friends to realise that I have a compromised immune system and stay away from me, so yes I would be annoyed in your situation, but perhaps not if I was healthy, that might be being slightly OTT. I respected everyone when I had shingles that may have given them or their DCs chicken pox and stayed in bed.

I flew to and from the US when I was very ill and on morphine for kidney stones, so I don't think they stop you from travelling unless you have contagious illnesses.

[RevoltingPeasant]

OP you went into a panic because an ill person came to your house? Really?

Sorry but you sound really ott, and nasty about your sil. Not once have you expressed any concern for her although she is actually ill, just concern for yourself in the frankly unlikely event that you get ill from having spoken to her for a few minutes.

[McPie]

I did actually say I was worried about her having to drive home alone in my 2nd post she was not able to walk in a straight line at the time and was unsure about doing so herself, I told her she should have stayed in bed and not left the house if she felt so bad still.
I am honestly not nasty, unhinged or precious it just threw me into an unreasonable panic at the time that she was still so ill and out visiting when she should have been in bed. She was here for at least 25 mins and kept herself to the doorway "just in case I infect you all".

[highho1]

Sounds like she took precautions than. You are unlikely to catch anything.

[SoonToBeSix]

I doubt it was flu or she wouldn't have had the energy to leave her bed. Coughs and colds are everywhere this time of year I think you are overreacting a bit.

[dunsborough]

Yanbu and she is selfish.

[Fakebook]

I've had flu twice in my life. I've been in bed with severe backache, leg ache and shivers both times for a week at least. Eurgh. It's a horrible illness and I doubt your sil had it if she managed to leave her house.

There was no point in airing your house after she left, as any virus droplets would have been inhaled whilst she was there anyway.

I think you're being a bit ott.

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

I've had flu twice in my life, once when I was 19 and two years ago when I was 43.

I could not get out of bed through sheer pain in my joints, stomach cramps and alternating between sweat pouring off me and shivering through the chills.

That theory about not being able to pick up a £50 note in the garden if really suffering from flu was true to me.

Your sil wasn't that ill if she was walking around.

Relax OP.