Can't even stretch to a "d" !
The stairgate at the top of the stairs broke just now. A bit of it has snapped and can't be fixed.Ii told h and he grumbled about putting in a new one as the kids "don't need it" ds1 is four so he's fine, ds2 is 2 and ok ish on stairs, but often wakes in the night and wanders out of the room with his eyes half shut or totally shut and a bit wobbly on his legs. Their room door is right next to the stairs, literally one half step.
H says he can't be bothered to fix it. i said it would be safer to have it as ds2 is still quite small, he called me a stupid helicopter parent and said I was a nightmare to live with as I made them wash their hands before dinner and wanted a Stair Gate at the top of the stairs. He said he went along with it for a quiet life life but hated it. I told him it was quite normal to have a gate when your youngest is 2 but again he called me a moron.
He has made me feel like shit about myself and my parenting, he's made it clear he thinks I'm a nutcase so,
Aibu to want a stair gate with a 2 year old
Who stumbles around at night?
Aibu to be really hurt at his attitude (yet again)?
He's told me he's angry with me because of my attitude and how I say things yet won't tell me what I'm saying wrong. Apparantly I'm an awful person for saying "I think most people still use stair gates at this age." 
and then because I didn't let it drop when he told me to shut up as I was annoying him. I didn't let it drop because the kids being safe is pretty bloody important to me so I wanted to know that if he wasn't going to help me I'd have to find the time and spanners to do it myself. And pretty bloody furious that a conversion that should be simple has ended in a massive fight with me having my parenting and attitude criticised. Argh!