To not think it's ok when dd/ds interrupts adults conversation?

[yellowrose2728]

Please be honest with me

Visiting a friend that I haven't seen in a while, so obviously there was lots of news to chat about. Her DD was off school because she had woken up feeling ill so was camped on the sofa in the living room.
Me and friend took ourself off to the dining room to have some adult time and a natter. DD comes in every five minutes for a drink/food/toilet etc. ..nothing wrong with that, I understand how some children want to have a little nose at what's going on. BUT then she kept interrupting our conversation. ..not for anything in particular, just everytime we would start talking would start talking over her Mum. The reason I found this even ruder was her mum would stop the conversation that we were having to answer her questions. Examples being; why are you talking about babies? When are we going on holiday? Why did we buy a pink laptop? As you can see, nothing life changing This went on for the full hour and a half that I was there.

Now my DS is the same age (11) and if he did this, would be told in no uncertain terms that it's rude to interrupt a conversation unless necessary. When I was later discussing this with my mum (not in a nasty way, just asking her opinion) she made it clear that I was being very unfair to a little girl who wasn't very well and wanted to spend time with her mum So mumsnet jury, am I totally unreasonable to think that DF should have said something to her DD or am I just a very bitchy person??

Oh I'm so glad a lot of other people think this is rude! My DS is 9 and a dreadful interrupter, even though I don't indulge him and tell him to shut up when necessary. His dad (who is equally firm with him about waiting his turn) says he will grow out of it but it's constant and he talks such drivel as well...

I'm trying to teach mine not to interrupt as I think it's rude. It's a life skill really - listening to others and working out the right time to pitch in.

YANBU, my 5 YO does this all the time and it drives me crazy. He is told off every time but still does it. At 11 it is totally unacceptable.

YouTheCat - I wish more teachers would do this sort of thing, so many children have terrible manners. My DS has got in trouble for the same thing at school (when in YR) and I was really glad as we were desperately trying to get him to understand at home.

YANBU - I have been trying to teach my dcs this skill for bloody years, they still need reminding. Sil will do the same as your friend and mil told me off for telling the dcs not to interrupt - apparently that's up to the teachers to pass on that skill.

It's really weird - I find people fall into two camps on this. I know people who will stop and listen to their child no matter what and will look quite disgusted if the adult tries to continue the conversation. I also know other adults who hate being interrupted.

I find it hard when they have just come out of school and want to talk to you for the first time in six hours, but there are adults to talk to too.

Not at all unreasonable - on the other hand, my cousin's daughter does this sort of thing all the time and while it's annoying it's also almost painful to see because it's so obviously a cry for attention from a (shit) mother who shows no interest in her at all. As someone pointed out earlier, many parents ignore their child's requests during a conversation, even if politely phrased, so how does the child ever learn what's appropriate? It's not the child at fault but you'll have the last laugh, OP, as the mother's making a rod for her own back there.

I have this problem with both of mine, despite the age gap DS (4) and DD (11) both compete for the airwaves and are very vocal. I find it frustrating, so god knows what other people think. When I'm talking to DP one of them tends to interrupt and cut the conversation short. They are regularly corrected but it just does not sink in. I don't think it is necessarily restricted to children, I've experienced many adults who do this. I'm unsure of what the solution is.

YANBU. DD is 4 and I tell her off for it. At 11 it's just ridiculous.

At last! How often do you want to say to the little pests - go away, you're boring. why do people raise children to think theyre the complete centre of everyones universe. I've had children criticise my own child to me and wait for me to agree - with their adoring parents looking on proudly. I dread these kids growing up and passing on their own brand of childcare and manners.