To think that some elderly folk are actually quite rude?!

[M0naLisa]

Today I was out was long home from a friends, I slowed down towards the end of the street because an elderly lady on a mobility scooter was crossing the top of the street, so as not to push in front slowing her down or to both end up at path at same time. About 7 terrace house down she stops in the middle of the path outside the local Londis then starts reversing.

I stop to let her 'park' up outside the shop, she got off the scooter and went in the shop, seeing I was behind her, she didn't open keep open the door for me, even though I had 11 mth old DS3 with me in the pushchair. No bother though, it's an easy door so I didn't have to struggle.

In the shop I went straight to the counter as was buying cigs, lady walks towards the back of the shop shouting at owner if he had any xxxx. Owner walks out from behind counter and goes to get xxxx.

Owner walks back towards the counter and lady starts following, she gets near the counter and says oh I also need yyyy and goes to get some. Owner returns to the till to serve me.

Whilst serving me she says 'oh she may go first if she's in a hurry'

So I just said 'yes I am'
I wasn't I just wasn't going to stand back and say 'oh go on you go first'

Would any one else have found that rude?

Well grannynet dint find it patronising.

"Interested to know what you all think about the concept of families 'adopting' a Granny. There are loads of parents and children out there without grandparents (for many reaons) and lots of older women (and men) who have a lot to offer a family, but perhaps don't have one of their own. It could be a mutually beneficial arrangement of sharing care (physically and emotionally) depending on what each parties needs were"

I have a 70 odd year old man who shouts "hello slapper" when he comes into my shop

Some I think "If you spoke to me like this outside and I wasn't in my white coat I'd rip you a new one"
But I have to keep quiet. And proffessional. And seethe.

Yeah, sorry about that. My dad is in hospital at the moment. I know he's a pain and bloody obnoxious. But will you look after him anyway. We're sort of attached to him, annoying though he is. I'll buy you a box of chocs and a bottle of wine for your trouble . But I feel your pain. It must be hard. I struggle to put up with him!

Yes littlenoona- thats a mutual arrangement between people who are gaining something from the arrangement and have put themselves forward for it. Not one person talking about another person who has no knowledge that they are being perceived as 'for sale' for another person's entertainment.

Brian I know relitives can be mmmm a challenge as much as the patient but I appreciate that ( I have parents and DC so sometime I'm the annoying relative myself )

One incident that I was at was a lady ranting because my department had sent round a HealthCare Professional of colour (not the phrase she used) because we knew she was registered blind.
And he was dirty.

I knew the person she meant and they were many things but never less than impeccably turned out.
The thought of the office sorting out the visits "Oh yes we'll send XYZ , they won't know, the patient is blind" just beggars belief.

There was no arguing here, the patient was not for reasoning with .
I don't think age here, probably always like that.

Ouch. Thats rude. Very frustrating that she wouldn't be reasoned with. But no doubt that is who she is. It didn't suddenly happen with age.

Brian feel free to buy me chocolates (but I don't drink so I'll let you keep the wine)

Win:Win

YoureBeingASillyBilly - so is is the use of the word "cantankerous" or "adopt" that's rattled your cage?

I think it's clear what I meant - if you want to take it differently that's up to you and I couldn't care less.

I've explained what I meant, if you disagree, tough.

And by the way to adopt = "to take or receive into any kind of new relationship" , relationships being a mutual thing, not "to be used for ones "entertainment"

I served lots of polite elderly people at work yesterday.

And one woman who was one of the rudest people I have met in a long time..she was in her 40s.

Its not an age thing, it's a manners thing.

Little Noona- you weren't rude. I thought your post was lovely.

YANBU. Also many people think that old people who are lonely are lonely through no fault of their own when actually some of them are just horrible and may have done terrible things to their families.

But there are also lovely and funny old people. I was taking a long time getting a lot of stuff at the butcher in front of an old lady who wanted to buy one small pie. I apologised for taking so long and she just said, "Don't worry, dear, I'll just talk about you when you've left the shop." Cracked me up.

Little noona i am well aware of what the word adopt means. I didnt say it meant to be used for ones entertainment. I meant that would be the reason YOU want to adopt that elserly person. For your entertainment.

Adopt an elderly person for your entertainment!

My mil is incredibly rude, deliberately offensive, she wants to upset people. She is in very poor health and her behaviour towards the people who care for her, whatever the institution, is breathtaking. Quite frankly I don't know how some of them stop themselves from smothering her.

She's not rude because she's old she is a very rude woman who has reached old age.

The usual ageist nonsense.
Yes some people are rude.
Some of them are old, some of them are young, some of them have pushchairs.....

some elderly people think they can say what they like

Some!

Aegist tripe - yet again.

I know some very rude 'elderly' people.

I also know some very rude kids, teenagers & middleaged people.

I also know plent of people, of all ages, with good manners.

Elderly people are just people who are old.

so yes, some of them are rude.

I do agree- tho it isn't something one says out loud......

Personally, I went right off the lot of them after working in a residential unit for children with severe disabilities. You would not believe the shite we used to get off of the sweet old dears for daring to take "their" seats on the bus.

Ah man some oaps are awesome especially for queue jumping. I swear in all my lives I saw this frail woman with a stick float at speed in superdrug once In front of me.

I fully intend on being a sod when I reach my twilight years.

In general, rude old people used to be rude young people.

I suspect as people get older they get more impatient and care less about what people think about them. I know I am in this frame of mind sometimes - but always polite nevertheless.

I can think of more teenagers , young adults who are ruder than a good few elderly people . A grumpy elderly person probably knows manners and just doesn't want to use them . Many teenagers just don't know what they are ....