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to ask for some positive dog relationships please..

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Youcanringmybell · 07/01/2014 21:43

I would like to hear about some positive dog stories please.

I have read so much recently about how people get dogs and then get bored of them, the dog becomes aggressive because the owner cannot care for them properly or that not many people cope. I have also read about on irresponsible people buying puppies..not about all the puppies that are bought with love and only the best intentions.

I have recently got a new puppy and took a long while to consider it and was over the moon with the puppy. But since getting her I have been told by different people that her breed will turn nasty, will destroy my home and I will soon get 'bored' of her or she will try me Angry
People are so negative about it all and are making me feel like I made a huge mistake.

So have any of you get a puppy, and keep it all their life and actually enjoy it? I had a puppy from 6mths to 17 years some time ago and he was lovely and barely any trouble once out of puppy hood.

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ddubsgirl · 07/01/2014 23:57

After our collie was pts my mum said no more pets 1 day my eldest brother brought a collie round he was nearly 1 yr old and had been abused mum finally gave in and we kept him he died aged 16 yrs old, I have had my staffie cross from 11 weeks old and hes now 5 and yes puppies are hard work no different to babies toodlers etc then need love training and patience my dog is my baby and wouldnt be without even when he was chewing all my shoes and underwear!

Goldmandra · 08/01/2014 00:02

Just came up to bed to find that someone has let a very muddy dog roll around on my white bed cover. Whoever it was clearly shut to door again and forgot to mention it to me.

Feeling slightly less positive about having said pooches now!

WaftyCrank · 08/01/2014 00:05

We have a German Shepherd cross Bull Mastiff. She's a monster, built like a tank, terrified of her own shadow, barks at everything, goes out of her way to steal food and pencil crayons and hates other dogs. But I love the bones of her. People cross the road when they see her coming yet I've never met a softer dog. She thinks she's a lap dog and DP regularly comes home to find me trapped under a 40kg dog.
She adores the Dc, can sense dodgy or drunk people and instantly protects them. (Not in an aggressive way) We're regularly told that she'll turn aggressive and hurt the DC but for now she's perfect with them and they're never left alone. Although that's mainly for her safety, DS2 keeps trying to ride her! Enjoy your pup.

Adeleh · 08/01/2014 00:06

We got our rescue mongrel when she was 3 months, and she was all wriggle and squirm and excitement. She was a lot of work - she's very exuberant, but I wouldn't change a thing. She comes and lays her head on our knees just to be affectionate. She's gorgeous, and really good fun. Love her to bits.

Adeleh · 08/01/2014 00:08

Oh, and though I've never had a JRT, I think they're lovely. So clever and lively and affectionate. One of my friends got one to help her daughter's phobia of dogs, and it did wonders for her. They're a great breed.

Ludoole · 08/01/2014 00:12

I have a 5lb Yorkshire terrier. When children say hes cute, so many adults have said that he'll bite their ankles really hard Angry.

My dog has never bitten anyone and the worst thing he will do is lick you to death....

I hate generalisations about any breeds!

KurriKurri · 08/01/2014 00:14

Haven't had time to read all the posts - but I spotted you have a Jack Russell.

My JRT is nearly seventeen now - I adore her, she is such a little character and is a dearly loved member of our family (I can't bear to think about the fact that she is an old lady now and we may not have her much longer) She has given us joy every day of her life, she makes us laugh and up until recently when she's slowed down somewhat, has always been very playful and daft.
She has never been yappy or snappy or any of the things people say about Jack Russells, she is sweet tempered and adorable, and is the lovliest pet I have ever had (and I'm old!!). She was easy to train, and very quick to learn. If I ever get another dog in the future I will definitely get another JRT.
I wish you many years of fun with your pup Smile

ShadowsCollideWithPeople · 08/01/2014 00:38

We got our first dog when I was a teenager. He was a rescue, had clearly been beaten, but was so loved and became such a part of the family. My grandparents lived about a minute away, so my grandad (much sprightlier back then) looked after him every day when my folks were at work and we were at school. They became bedt buddies, it was very sweet. They were famous around town, the white haired man with the white haired dog Grin. When he died, it was awful for all of us.

It took about 3 years for my parents to feel able to have another dog. They brought home a 9 week Weimy a few months back. Now, it's just my parents at home, but DP and I live only minutes away and look after their puppy a lot. He is definitely a family dog, even though we don't all live there. He has been a handful - just 6 months now so still hard work. But he is amazing. He is gorgeous, cuddly, and just wonderful.

At 6 months he's already 21 kg, but is a big gentle cuddle monster. We often bring him to the beach and he just runs along with a big happy head on him. He loves bouncing on the couch, fighting with his reflection, and hopping through puddles. Last week he ran upstairs to the spare room where my sister was staying over Christmas. He hopped on the bed, put his head on the pillow, and actually tugged the duvet up under his chin. He makes us all smile, he makes us all so happy.

Congratulations on your new puppy, OP. There is nothing better than having a dog around the house Grin

sykadelic15 · 08/01/2014 01:50

I have 2 Jack Russell x Pomeranian's and they are our furry children :)

Both were rescues as puppies. They are 3 and 2 now. Chewing stage when they were little resulted in a little bit of damage but now neither chews anything. One is VERY good at finding and destroying the squeaker in any toy. I also find the stuffingless toys are best or you'll spend a lot of time picking up stuff, as well as Kongs as they're the strongest I've found.

I get people who meet them for the first time thinking they're SUPER hyper. They just like meeting people!! Once they've decided you're uninteresting (about 5 mins or so) they'll lie back down and cuddle.

Also the "very active" doesn't apply to my children. They can be (chasing each other around) but they don't destroy the house because of inactivity. It's too cold to take them out now (-30C with windchill) and they're quite happy to sit on the couch :)

They're also very smart. The eldest can sit, stay, jump through a hoop, sit pretty (with her feet up), roll over... just to name a few. She's a bit of a bird killer. The youngest is a mouser. Scared of heights, crap at jumping but can talk (well growl like she's possessed :P), and sit. The youngest also has impeccable manners. When i want to get up she doesn't respond to down, she responds to "excuse me" and jumps off :) My husband didn't believe me at first. Should have seen his face when he said down about 10 times and got nothing, but said "excuse me" and she jumped down :D

I've always had dogs. We had a dog when I was a child until she died of old age. We got another one not long after who had a heart condition so only lived to about 4/5. And now my mum has 2. As an adult my 2 are the first "my" dogs. Love them to bits and they make us very happy (and us them I'm sure :D).

I know people don't like comparing dogs and kids and they are of course different, but in many ways my dogs have helped me see what sort of dad my husband would be. The way he treats them, buys them treats when out and about. Once at a burger place he tore of 2 tiny pieces of bun to give to them... only to realise they were at home, 45 mins away! They also taught me to be less selfish and think about someone/thing innocent and in need of me. We will leave the air con or heater on for them. If we're going to be out late we'll organise someone to come let them out (rarely) or leave because we have to get home and let them out.

Dogs are wonderful. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise :)

Mrscaindingle · 08/01/2014 02:12

Oh this thread hasn't half cheered me up.

I have a 10 week old border terrier, I'm a new dog owner but have been thinking about it for 4 years now so it wasn't on a whim.

Sunday night I was thinking I'd made a terrible mistake, mainly because he'd been continually nipping the DC who were fed up with him after only a week and had diarrhoea all day. We were stuck indoors and I wanted to cry really.

However once the Dc were back at school and it's just me and him I have been able to be more constant with the training without the distraction and hinderance of DC.

We had some lovely moments today with him snuggling into my neck and now I just luff him

splasheeny · 08/01/2014 02:18

I have a beautiful mixed breed. As a puppy she was very chewy, but that has calmed down and she is the most gorgeous dog ever. Very sociable with people and dogs. Loves children and cuddles. We love her to bits.

I think people focus on the few negative dog stories, when the vast majority are positive. Of course these stories don't get attention in the pres! 'Family gets dog, dog is lovely' doesnt sell papers.

I personally think children learn a lot from dogs and benefit from growing up with them.

moreyear · 08/01/2014 02:53

We are lucky to share our lives with two westies. They have given me more love and joy than I could ever hope to repay. They have gone from being our two very spoilt, always loved only children to being part of our much more chaotic family now we have a one and 3 year old. They have done this with nothing but good grace and love.

They don't get as much time and personal attention as they once did but their place in my heart has never altered and I feel so privileged to be have them with me.

I had the most terrible hypermesis when pregnant and my little girl westie used to hop into the shower with me and lick my forehead when I could only lay on the floor vomiting uncontrollably. I will never forget her kindness and how worried she was for me.

I always loved the Edith Wharton lines-
My little old dog:
A heart-beat
At my feet.

Youcanringmybell · 08/01/2014 07:02

Wow - the response to this thread proves what wonderful members of the family dogs can be. I am so grateful for these lovely stories. I honestly feel so much better and am looking forward to the future with her more than ever.
I have read every single post, I cannot reply to the all, although they have each had a very special message. What lovely, clever dogs you all have!

I am much happier - phew. The doom and gloom had passed Grin Thanks

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CrohnicallySick · 08/01/2014 07:16

My mum has a slightly unusual breed of dog. Her first was bought through the paper as an older puppy. The owners had originally wanted her as a show dog but one of their other dogs developed an illness and the puppy was too much for the older dog to cope with. One had to go, so the owners sold the puppy.

One day while out walking her dog, a passerby stopped my mum to admire the breed, comment on its unusualness, and happened to say 'mind you I saw another one at the local dog rescue.' Well my mum had to go and investigate, dog in tow, and sure enough there was an almost unrecognisable specimen, sad, skinny, matted fur, and scared of his own shadow. Except he made a beeline for mum's existing dog and then refused to leave her side. The workers at the rescue let mum take him then and there (usually they want to perform checks but they said that mum's dog was a testament to how well she could look after a new one, and it would be unfair to split the dogs even temporarily when the rescue dog had found a friend!)

They got him home, and he did nothing but cower in the corner. Out on walks he would cling so closely that the two dogs looked like one. And he barked at anything that moved, just in case it decided to attack him. He could only have been a few months old when he was adopted (still had puppy teeth) but we're pretty sure he was beaten by a man, possibly with a stick or other object, as he was particularly frightened of men and walking sticks.

Years later, he is a changed dog. He is still very nervous and prone to barking, but he can be walked (on a lead) in public and he knows some basic commands.

I'd like to take this opportunity though to remind people of the yellow dog scheme. The rescue dog wears a yellow ribbon to alert people to the fact that he is still nervous. He shows his nervousness by barking at people who talk to him or attempt to stroke him. My mum does her best to warn people not to do either of the above. But some people do ignore the warnings and attempt to stroke him and then are surprised when he barks (and a few have said they'll report him for being aggressive, which he isn't at all, he barks to defend himself from a perceived attack).

Please, if you see a dog with a yellow ribbon (or any dog for that matter) don't approach without the owner's permission, and of course teach your children not to either.

HaveToWearHeels · 08/01/2014 10:00

CrohnicallySick good post about the yellow dog scheme. I am aware of the scheme and it needs a lot of publicizing. Our biggest issue we have id that DD is so used to our big soppy boxer that she has no fear what so ever of dogs (or any animal), we are trying to teach her that all dogs are like him, some are scared, so don't like little people and that we have to ask before touching any dog. She not gets that but sometimes doesn't wait for a reply lol

KitchenDiscoDancer · 08/01/2014 10:36

We have had our little dog for a year now, and while in the first few weeks it was hard work and I had moments of 'what havewe done???' It has been a brilliant decision. He has added a whole new dimension to our lives, we are made to exercise everyday, the kids play with him and have really enjoyed training him and I love the fact that in the evening he snuggles up next to my feet.

He is totally part of our family and if I'd listened to the nay-sayers I'd really have missed out. Enjoy your dog and only listen to people who are constructive not the doom and gloomers!

youmakemydreams · 08/01/2014 10:54

I have a 20 month old dalmatian. I'm her 2nd home not through her fault or the family that had hers fault it was a serious family illness that forced rehoming.

I get lots of awww cute, I'd love one. And if I'm honest I do tell most people they don't. She is very cute but has more energy than the Duracell bunny. She fits right in here Grin we are an outdoor lot. Do a lot of walking, cycling and running. I did a lot of thinking because I was more than aware of what I was taking on at the time I was a lone parent. I've had dalmatians in my family all my life so knew how destructive they get if they are bored.

She was still young when I got her but had good training started just poorly socialised and lack of exercise towards her re-homing and it has been blood sweat and a few tears but she is very much one of our family now. She is old enough to do longer runs now. And despite her propensity for doing daft things her carriage dog breeding comes out when she runs with dp cycling up the woods like she's always done it.

She is loving and affectionate. Fantastic company and when the dc are unwell she barely leaves their side and comes to wake me in the night if one gets up ill.
She is full of character and loves her training. She is much better with other dogs now as well.

The dc adore her. Although young they are totally onboard with walking her and picking up her poop. And she teaches us as much as we teach her.

ElleMcFearsome · 08/01/2014 11:09

My parents (early 60s, recently retired) bought a puppy (one of those decried 'fashionable' crosses) 2 years ago and have recently taken in a rescue collie. Both dogs are GORGEOUS.

The puppy took a lot of training and is still scatty at times, with not good recall but my DPs are very aware of this and manage her appropriately and safely. She's the dearest thing (and I'm so not a dog person). The rescue had clearly been badly treated and, 9 months on, is still quite nervous, needs her own 'patch' (an old chair in the kitchen that she can retreat too is she is feeling tired or stressed) and needs treating quietly and gently. But she too, is lovely, with classic collie eyes and will happily sit in her chair for HOURS while you stroke her head.

Both my parents adore them (they really do call them their fur babies) and it's made their retirement for them (had been wanting a dog for 20-odd years since their beloved collie died) but were both working so couldn't take one on. They both take so much more exercise now, as the dogs are walked twice a day and this had made a huge difference to the health of my DF (diabetic) as well as giving my DPs a common interest that they didn't have before.

Whilst I have no desire for a dog of my own, I love my furry 'sisters' and I love how they have changed my DPs life and marriage for the better.

fanoftheinvisibleman · 08/01/2014 11:22

Another terrier owner here though mine is a Border.

Our dog is the 4th member of our family and we all love him. In fact he is pretty much at the centre of everything we do! We love our long muddy walks.

You'll find I think that terriers are a marmite dog. I love them and could never own another breed. They are loving, energetic, playful, adventure seeking, independant naughty little things half the time. But life is never dull!

Enjoy your dog and ignore the comments, just smile and ignore knowing how much richer your life is for having your dog in it! I can honestly say I prefer my dogs company to some of the people I meet anyway. There are huge numbers of people I wouldn't spend 2 hours in a rainy field with Grin

Skinheadmermaid · 08/01/2014 11:25

I've had my dog since he was 8 weeks old and hes now just over 4 years old. He is a staffordshire bull terrier, a PROPER one, 14 inches high and muscled like a mr universe contestant and absolutely perfect.
I talk about him a lot and everyone understands why when they meet him. Smile
He is so well behaved that i used to be allowed to bring him into my office.
He completely ignores small dogs, is friendly with bigger dogs and tries to be friends with squirrels, mice, birds, any person... He walks to heel and won't go up to anyone without checking with me first.
Once i came home after all day at work to find my front door wide open and my dog sitting vigilantly on the door step, someone hadn't shut the door properly that morning and he'd spent all day from 7.30am to 7pm sitting guarding the door. Smile

CustardOmlet · 08/01/2014 11:29

Iv not read the whole thread, but a lot of love out there! We have had our Boxer from 8wks, he's nearly 6yrs. He is my first dog, so a lot of thought and research went into picking a bread and then him, and I wouldn't give him up for the world! As a puppy he liked digging up the garden, chewing phone chargers and eating cow pats. We had to replace carpets due to his sensitive digestive system! Now we have two cats and a toddler and he's wonderful and gentle to all of them, even when he's being bitten and tugged around. Sadly he doesn't get the walks he used to, but he has never become destructive or aggressive, we just ensure he gets constant affection. Only down side is he gets too excited when we have visitors (he love a good hug!)

higgle · 08/01/2014 11:37

I have owned 5 dogs over the last 30 years and each has been a delight in a different way. My First dog, a Collie Cross was followed by a Dachshund, a Petit Baset Griffon Vendeen and two Staffies. Both my Staffies were older rescue dogs. The first Staffie - Porridge - was living rough on the streets, the second had been put in kennels because his owners wife didn't like him, he had been there, living in a tiny space with few walks for 2 years.

Both my Staffies were house trained from day 1, kind, friendly and had far better manners than the 3 dogs I'd trained myself. It makes me weep to think how many of these much maligned dogs are PTS each year.

DuchessofKirkcaldy · 08/01/2014 11:37

My dog is sat beside me at the moment. She is 12 years old and my best friend (my 13 year old cat may argue that though!)
She came to us when she was 8weeks old and promptly destroyed the house Grin
The puppy phase is hard......thats why they make them soooooooo cute.
Over the years she has enriched my life in so many ways that I really believe life would be much sadder without her. She has grown to be the kind of dog you can take anywhere she loves the pub.
She gets me outdoors, improves my health and fitness and is always there for a cuddle.

pinkbraces · 08/01/2014 11:38

We got our first family dog 4 years ago, DD was 15 and had been asking for a dog since she could talk.

I cant even begin to explain how much we love her, she is just an integral part of our family, it even made DD's move to Uni last year that little bit easier, and she is the reason DD comes home quite regularly. She misses the dog so much.

Gingersstuff · 08/01/2014 12:02

We currently have 3 monsters here - yellow lab (female), golden retriever (male) and their daughter (very retriever-like and still very young at 17 months). Our previous dog, our first baby, was also a goldie and my family dogs growing up were labs. I'm 43 now and couldn't imagine life without them; I'm with all the people who say a house isn't a home without a dog, even though it can get frustrating at times when they're tracking mud through the house or stealing ham from the worktop Grin. Our dogs have been through thick and thin with us, they are absolutely integral to our family, the DCs love them to bits and there have been times when I don't know what I would have done without a big furry ruff to cry into or those beautiful velvet ears to stroke. They are an incredibly calming and therapeutic presence.
I think people are either doggy folk or they aren't. It also depends on people's perception of the different breeds; again I think that there are no aggressive breeds, it is people that make them aggressive but non-dog owners (and some dog owners) don't understand that. We've never encountered RL negativity from other people over our dogs but then I think partly that's due to the fact that our breeds are perceived to be very friendly, approachable, calm laid-back dogs; and in all fairness our three are fantastic ambassadors for dogs. People are being extraordinarily rude if they are being negative to you and your pup and as others have said, please don't let that ruin your confidence with him. The puppy stage is very hard work but if you put in the time and effort you'll be rewarded with a relationship which will give both of you unconditional love and huge joy. In no time at all you won't be able to imagine life without your dog.