to want hubby to get rid of facebook?

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I have had a facebook account myself so i know how addicitive it is and how it sucks hours and hours away from your life without you even realising it.

i don't mind it in principle, my family all live far away so it can be useful, and he has groups linked to his hobbies to arrange meetings and matches and stuff but...

260 'friends' the majority of which are people he has had no actual contact with in years (about 20 years in some cases).
Yes i know he worked with them once upon a time but so what? Why does he now need to know where they've been on holiday or what a cute cat they've got!??!!

And don't get me started on ex girlfriends... i haven't clapped eyes on any one of my ex boyfriends and have no interest in their lives at all so why does he need to see what a lovely time his exes are having at the zoo with their kids and husbands? It's just weird and although it has always grated on me a little bit it now pisses me off big time. The more i think about it the more it irritates me...

or am i just being controlling? Should i be able to say who he has contact with and who he doesn't?

Facebook just causes trouble. I used it to keep in touch with old colleagues and family who live far away then I thought I have their phone numbers so deleted it :)

CuChullain, nope. Why assume that? I've never met anyone IRL that's comfortable with it. If you are cool beans. I'm not, and I know my DP wouldn't be either - and that's how we feel about it, not because we're insecure. We just personally find it unnecessary. Not sure why I need to grow up? All it boils down to is what works for you doesn't for me. No need to be so mean really is there.

Arf at "we agreed on no hubby."

Sounds very insecure. There is no way I would agree if I was your dh

Keep seeing 'hubby' and pics of erect penises (peni?)

I think there are too separate issues here, It is a bit wrong that your DH has a lot of his ex's on fb tbh, its a bit disrespectful to you tbh.

i think telling him to get rid is unreasonable, you may risk socially isolating him and he'll resent you for it.

I think I can see your insecurities because he cheated - it's natural to feel insecure and paranoid if someone you love has done that to you. But his ex's have moved on - they have families and children and lives that your DH isn't really part of anymore. It's natural to want to keep in touch with people from your past, and if your relationships ended amicably, those people can be ex's. It doesn't mean he's upto no good (again).

But, you can't tell him to shut it down. If you don't trust him, then you need to reconsider the entire relationship. Him getting rid of Facebook won't make you trust him. If someone is going to cheat, Facebook won't make any difference - they'll do it anyway.