to be a bit upset this this commuter?

[Wombat79]

I commute from the surrey/london border into London daily and I am currently 35 weeks pregnant.
On the commute home I never get a seat and we are all jammed in. No one has offered me a seat yet but I'm ok with that. Despite swollen hands and feet and the normal niggles of pregnancy I am doing ok. I am sure there are many others in more need.
I am an outpatient physio so on my feet all day with patients every 30 mins. By the end of the day I am shattered now and a bit more wobbly on my legs so I do like something to at least hold on to/lean on.
Today I was holding on to the bar by the train door and slightly in the exit. In my defence, I had no where else to go as the train was busy. However, by no means was I blocking the exit.
A commuter got of at Norbiton and tutted loudly and pushed me forward into the edge of the door, mumbling that I am in the way of his exit.
Maybe I am just tired and hormonal but I have never asked anyone to give up their seat and just try and get on as normal. I suppose that in 35 weeks the fact that no one has offered a seat up is a bit disappointing (especially on days when my legs/pelvis/back are throbbing and I am over tired) but I really wasn't deliberately blocking this mans exit (maybe I think my bump is smaller than it actually is) and did not feel he should have felt angry enough with me to push me.
Hmmm on writing this maybe IABU and just feel tired and looking forward to not have to fight for a hand hold on my journey (roll on mat leave).
Some commuters are so rude and unpleasant, whatever happened to old fashioned British chivalry?

Get a life? I definitely have nice one and feel privileged and lucky to have such a good one. I don't mean to sound like I am moaning (if I do) just had a bit of a shock. Thank you for your opinion though passwordprotected

I always just asked for a seat. No one ever said no. If they had I'd have either passed out or thrown up (I wasn't at all well in pregnancy) which would have been much worse for everyone.

poster PasswordProtected Get a life, you are not ill and are working.
Reserve a seat if you are that sensitive, it surely can be done?

You'll be posting instructions on how to do so, obviously.

Yeah password. Fascinated to see how a pregnant woman books a seat on a rush hour train. Stupid, ignorant comment

Password, did you mean to be so rude?

Password protected ODFOD

You've got to ask for a seat. Most people are focusing on their newspapers and iPods, but if you ask for a seat then you will get one.

Password - it has been so lovely quiet around here without you. Where have you been and can you go back?

Password is that you Katie Hopkins?

The man was rude.

I dont think i would approach someone who i thought looked pregnant as they may not be. I know of two people who have what look like third trimester baby bumps but they arent pregnant.
However if someone asked me for my seat i wouldnt hesitate in giving them it.

passwordprotected you do appear to be a complete ***. It sounds as though you have never commuted before.

I had similar experiences on the tube when I was pregnant with DD1. I think that the only time I actually got a seat was after she was born.

When DD1 was about 6 months old she really took against being in the pram, so we would often end up carrying her and pushing the pram separately for when we got too tired to carry her any more.

Anyway, one time we were going onto the tube - long story as to why we weren't driving - and there were no seats in the carriage. So I was holding dd for a while until she got too heavy for me and then I gave her to my dh to hold. At this point, somebody actually got up and offered their seat for me to sit down while holding dd.

I thought to myself, yes we Brits do care about each other. But, I was wrong. The couple that had actually got up so that I could sit down holding DD were a German couple who were here on holiday. All the Brits in the carriage were carefully avoiding making eye contact.

Peeing myself at the idea of booking a seat on the strawberry hill loop train at rush hour, password you are hilarious!

It is bad that no-one will offer their seat to a heavily pregnant woman. I had the same thing when I was 8 months pregnant, very obviously. I got onto a long distance train and all seats were full. Children were sitting down next to where I was standing, and both they and their parents were quite happy with that. I then literally had to race a young man for the one seat which freed up. Dog eat dog.

Yanbu. He was a dick.

Please do ask for a seat another day. If your balance is off by this late stage then you could fall and hurt yourself and potentially others.

You can always make up for it by giving up your seat when you are back at work after baby.

Passwordprotected are you volunteering to pay for pregnant women to go on maternity leave from the outset? Women have to work nowadays. Pregnant women clearly experience more discomfort standing than most people. Therefore it is only normal human kindness to offer them a seat - same for the elderly, that bloke on crutches (who may have broken his leg during a hobby that no one forced him to do, but are you actually saying he should stand) etc. it's just been considerate of others imo

OP I feel for you - I caught that train for years and it is genuinely horrible in rush hour, I can imagine it's hell on earth pregnant. I resorted to moving my hours so I wasn't on it in the height of the rush while I was still living there (mercifully move now to a better commute), I don't know if you can do something similar? I found the trains out of Waterloo after 6 were a bit less packed.

And definitely ask for a seat, the commuters on that train are bastards, they won't offer you one! I saw someone have an epileptic seizure on it once and most of the carriage tried to ignore it for a while until that was no longer possible.

OP he was a dick - I don't know what it is about the London commute that makes (some?) people lose all humanity.

Just asked dh who does the London commute, and he says this is a regular topic of conversation in his office amongst the the pregnant women. They all say they have to ask for a seat - nicely and with a smile. People don't offer - but they always give up their seat when asked (in his experience anyway).