To be offended?

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I was just watching millionaire matchmaker. One of the blokes took his lady up in a helicopter for their first date, I asked dp if he would take me in a helicopter for a first date. "if you looked like that" he said, pointing to the woman on screen. I felt pretty deflated to be honest, even if I was a "joke". AIBU?

You joked about his lack of money. How high a pedestal do you think he wants to put you on?

Me and DP have the kind of relationship where that would have been a joke, and I'd have replied with something jokey like 'if I looked like her if only be after you money anyway' or similar. However I know DP thinks I'm hot, and I like the way I look, so having a joke wouldn't hurt my feelings because I'm secure about that and he tells me enough that I look good. So I think it's all in context, lie you say OP you don't really feel like he puts you on a pedestal so I can see why you got upset.

Yes line runner, context everything. That sounds a bit like us.... Dp has complimented me about 1time in 7 years. He thinks. Need to loose weight. I think I'm fine (a size 14 but 5 ft 8, with long legs)..... I think he has said I'm pretty, but I'd like more of that passionate stuff..... Not cold analysis of my appearance, strengths and weaknesses! He's 11 years old than me and not a spring chicken anymore either!

Whois it must be so empowering and nice to know your dh thinks you're hot. I don't have that. In fact I'm more an irritation to him, it seems....

Are you really getting a whole lot out of this relationship, OP?

I have an OH now who isn't exactly gushing, but when we're alone will tell me I'm beautiful and very gently touch my face and smile. It is just ... great. [wanky emotion emoticon]

Wow line runner. That's what I want. I'm not getting much out of it at all tbh. But I have a young ds. That keeps me there.

Maybe you could post a differently framed thread on Relationships? If your needs are just not being met, it is hard, I know that.

I stuck it out with my ExH because we had young DCs, so I do know where you are coming from. However ...

(He left us in the end for yet another OW. I was an utter fool.)

I get it OP.

If it was my EA esH who did a comment like this would be upset too because this wouldn't be one isolated case of him belittling me. The fact that you were asking such a question shows that you are feeling insecure in this relationship anyway.

However with my current dH this situation would be a joke and this is how it should be.

I think you need to think carefully about your relationship and take steps to improve it if this is what you want.

I would not be offended. My husband and I make horrible jokes to each other all the time.

Up cycled
Programme was on last night again..... 4 music channel I think, with he kardashians straight after.

Yes to be honest I think about getting out of the relationship a lot. But always seem thwarted when I make plans to go....... I'm 40 in a couple of years, and would like to see a changed, more empowered me