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To be sad I didn't get any Christmas presents ?

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Timetogetup0630 · 02/01/2014 00:01

DD made me something cute, but no one else got me anything. Sad

I' m not a materialistic person, but a nice box of expensive chocks would have gone down well.

OP posts:
gordyslovesheep · 02/01/2014 00:04

you need to do what I do ( as a lone parent) buy your own!

Caboodle · 02/01/2014 00:05

No, YANBU - I'd be sad too. Get thyself to the shops.

CrispyHedgeHogmanay · 02/01/2014 00:06

I didn't either OP :(

Nagoo · 02/01/2014 00:07

I bought myself some nice slippers, a jumper and a light that goes on when I go in the cupboard so I can see in the freezer. And I wrapped them up :o

Original poster
Timetogetup0630 · 02/01/2014 00:08

So I am not alone then crispy ?

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gordyslovesheep · 02/01/2014 00:08

I got 2 pairs of kick ass boots, Dr Who DVD's, hair stuff and books Grin I wrapped them and put them under the tree

Bodypopper · 02/01/2014 00:09

Ah love, yes go on and treat yourself. Your dd sounds lovely.

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Timetogetup0630 · 02/01/2014 00:10

Nagoo did you go through the pretence of unwrapping them in front of the family and going "ooooh, lovely " ?

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neunundneunzigluftballons · 02/01/2014 00:10

Nope nothing here we are broke so we decided to save the cash for a wedding later in the year. Such is life.

WaffilyVersatile · 02/01/2014 00:11

I did this year!! I am only commenting because usually I don't. Last year however I bit the bullet and when we went into town as a family I told DH straight out that I would be upset if I awoke xmas morning to no pressies so he had better pull his finger out.

Romantic? no. But I had presents! (pretty decent ones too) The fact is that I can hope all I like but DH needs to be told otherwise he just wouldn't have thought about it (to be fair every year I feign nonchalance about presents as I am really not materialistic)

Nagoo · 02/01/2014 16:23

Too right, it was only me and the DC, I didn't want them
Thinking I was on the naughty list :o

furlinedsheepskinjacket · 02/01/2014 16:25

yy to buying whatever takes your fancy for yourself esp if you are buing gifts for others

furlinedsheepskinjacket · 02/01/2014 16:27

its the only way to get what you want :)

runningonwillpower · 02/01/2014 16:31

Timetogetup - why didn't you get a gift?

If it's because time's are hard - fair enough.

If it's because no-one bothered (apart from DD) - not fair enough.

Who do you think let you down?

THECliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 02/01/2014 16:31

My kids are old enough to go to the shops now so I got some chocs and candles off them.

My dh went into town and got me some Poison perfume which he had gift wrapped, but whilst buying other gifts for his parents and the kids, he must have put the bag down somewhere and left it. He only discovered this on Christmas Eve when he realised that my gift wasn't with the others.

I put out a call on Facebook and phoned all the shops he went into. Some nasty joker pretended to have found it and tried flogging it for a tenner. Turns out they had seen my post and thought it would be hugely funny to upset me further.

So I didn't get anything from dh and he was devastated to say the least. After the breakdown of both our cars and the boiler (still not fixed and I have no car) it was the icing on the cake and really put a dampner on our Christmas.

It wasn't so much the loss of an expensive gift but the fact that someone tried to make fun out of it and also that someone has obviously found it and decided to keep it.

Anyway, your little girl made you a gift, which shows thought and effort went into it Smile. Treasure the gift and your dd because they grow up way too soon. Focus instead on the memories you have and treat those as precious gifts. Make a Christmas scrapbook which you can add to every year that will document your dd growing up. You can make a note of family traditions and you never know, that scrapbook might just become another tradition in your dd's family Smile

Hope the New Year brings happiness and opportunities your way.

THECliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 02/01/2014 16:33

(and for next year, sign up to MN Secret Santa. I'll happily nominate you so this year would be the last year you have to go without a gift.)

roses2 · 02/01/2014 16:34

Is it better to get none or to buy yourself something on the premise MIL will reimburse you but never did? (my MIL)

timidviper · 02/01/2014 16:39

My friend is a single parent of a young child and said something in a conversation a while ago about not getting presents. It really made me think as it had never crossed my mind before so this Xmas I sent her a little gift, not expensive but just a little surprise to open

Marmotte3 · 02/01/2014 16:51

The only present I got was from my MIL, she bought me a Kenzo perfume set which I genuinely love, it suits me. I bought all the presents for our 2 little boys and family, including a cologne for DP. In the previous few years I bought myself a small present for under the tree but just did not want to create the pretense this year. DP bought nothing, same as previous years, not even a chocolate snowman. We're not short of a few quid so it still makes me sad that he couldn't be bothered to make any kind of effort.

nomorecrumbs · 02/01/2014 16:51

Oh Thanks to all those who didn't get gifts this year.

What I do to make things obvious for DH and DC is set up separate lists of things I would like. Because I would be far more upset than you, OP, if I didn't receive anything - Christmas is a big deal for me Blush

I usually write on my list for DC's to get me for Christmas small things that they would enjoy and that don't cost much, e.g. making a family calendar, inventing a Christmas game, making something for Christmas Day family meal for everyone, etc. - small touches that would be appreciated on the day. DH gets me exactly what I've been banging on about obviously for months - I knew I would unwrap a slow-cooker last week and I did!

Scrapbook mentioned above is an awesome idea. I cannot emphasise enough how lovely photos of events like this are to look back upon.

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage · 02/01/2014 17:13

Marmotte£ don't buy your P anything next year!

QueenStromba · 02/01/2014 18:19

Did you ask the local police station THECliff? That's where I'd bring something obviously expensive I'd found. Or if he took public transport that day have you tried their lost property?

THECliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 02/01/2014 21:46

Yeah QueenStromba we filed a lost report with the police and asked everywhere we could think of. He drove there. We've looked all over the car he used but it's not there. He thinks that whilst he was browsing for other gifts, he must have put the carrier bags down and simply not picked that one up.

Whoever found it must have realised it was a Christmas gift. It was in the bag from the shop, with the receipt and was gift wrapped. They have decided to keep it anyway and probably haven't spared one thought for who it actually belonged to or the upset it would cause. Dh just put his head in his hands on Christmas Eve and looked pretty crushed. Things hadn't been going right for us at all, he is having a shit time at work being asked to do more and more and it was just all too much.

Moral of the tale is; if you ever find anything in the street, do hand it over.

LaGuardia · 02/01/2014 21:53

Moral of the tale is; if you ever find anything in the street, do hand it over.

No it isn't. The moral of your story well done for hijacking the op is not to put bags down in the street and to actually take your purchases home.

formerbabe · 02/01/2014 21:56

I never get presents...we only do gifts for kids in our family.

I couldn't care less...if I want something badly, I will just get it for myself. I find it a little childish to be honest.

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