to not want to have to go and pick DD up late tonight.

[bigTillyMintspie]

DH neither.

What time would you say was the latest reasonable to tell DD that one of us will pick her up?
She is 14 and has gone to her lovely friends where they are having a small family party.

Depends how far it is? Midnight?? Or somewhere between 11 and 12 perhaps.

Can she stay over? I'd be saying 11pm.

We pick dd up by our bedtime - which is 10.

No exceptions, we have to get up early. She's 15.

It's not far - 5-10mins in the car. They often do sleepover at each others, but I'm not sure there's space tonight if family are staying.

We don't have to get up early tomorrow, but we are knackered after last night

10pm is totally reasonable.

No judgement but this makes me feel so grateful for my mum.

I pic kid up DS1 (16) from a party last night, half an hour away, at 3.30am.

Am i a mug?

You're not a mug, 15 years later your DS1 will sit there and think how lucky he is.

Should be 'picked' sorry.

I think 10.00 is quite early to leave a party. We socialise quite a hit with other familes with children (ages 7-17), and we often don't sit down to eat til nearly 10.00.

We are all night owls though ...

If I had to get up for work then I would say by midnight, otherwise I would pick her up whenever the party finished.

No, you are very kind. I am not feeling kind

About ten. What about leaving straight after Sherlock finishes?

I'd say 11 as the latest I'd want to get to bed is 11.30 - particularly after staying up for NY last night. Alternatively if you know the family could she not stay over?

Thanks first! Public transport round here is useless and taxis an absolute fortune. I go to bed, he rings me when he needs a lift, I go and pick him up, go back to bed.

It's only once in a blue moon....and he's is a good kid, no trouble at all (these days...he used to be a terror!).

BigTilly...has she earned it? A late lift as a treat? Or can she repay you in other ways.

If you aren't feeling kind cos she's been a cheeky madam all Christmas then that's different and totally justified!

Even I think 10 is too early for her to have to come home even though I would like to be in bed then

We have 3 extra teen boys in the house (thanks DS) so I am praying that they are quiet tonight!

My dad would only ever pick us up after 10.30 on very special occasions! Could she get a taxi just this once?

She was rather shouty when DH said he would only pick her up by 10.30 But I can see why - TBF, she is owed one really as she couldn't sleepover/have friends over twice this holiday due to it coinciding with us going to PIL's/see friends early the next day.

Shes only 14. Id have said 11 would be late enough.

She seems to have some sort of aversion to getting in a cab on her own, but was saying she would just get the bus. Not sure about that at after 11pm even though it is a quick route and no walking.

Realistically if you have 3 extra teen boys in the house you probably aren't going to have a quiet night! Might as well get all the pain over in one go.... Get her at 11 but only on understanding that she is super helpful tomorrow, extra chores etc, as you will be tired. But if she is shouty then lop 10 mins off. I don't mind being kind but I not expect to be shouted at!

Do you have a reliable cab firm you can order one for her?

As she has missed a couple of events I would pick her up, leave at around 11:30pm.

A tactic I am using with DS when I pick him up from his girlfriends, is to drive over in my pyjamas or onsie then text him when I get there asking if he wants me to ring the bell. It gets him out sharpish

Yes, we do MI, but she will just say she would rather get the bus. It is apparently very awkward to have to get in a cab on your own

I am thinking 11.30 is probably the earliest I could try