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To join in on MN even though my children are grown up?

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 16:26

Have been lurking for a while but wondering if you don't 'qualify' if you can have a full night's sleep, go on holiday without bothering what your children will eat and can send them to the off-licence if you have a friend round for coffee in the morning....and run out of wine before 4.00.

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Chottie · 29/12/2013 16:29

I've got grown up children and I joined to make sure I was up to date with current practice before DGS was born. I've learnt so much from MN. I just jumped in and posted away.

There are loads of really interesting conversations going on all the time about everything under the sun.

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 16:41

Oh good, I'm not alone! Just keep wanting to write 'they'll live, calm down'.

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SecretNutellaFix · 29/12/2013 16:43

There are plenty of us without any children either. Some by choice, others by nature being a total bitch.

lastnightIwenttoManderley · 29/12/2013 16:44

Heck, we don't even have any kids yet! That said, the advice and discussion here is always spot on and/or thought provoking at times

Birdsgottafly · 29/12/2013 16:50

My youngest is 16.

Life experience does count for something, you not only gave the benefit of hindsight, because of your own children, but their (and your) friends.

It is useful to have lived in a time before Child Tax Credit/ Disability Discrimination Act, and the rules that we now have to live with, around Discrimination, to understand why all these things were needed.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 29/12/2013 16:51

Yep, join in

Mine are 18 and 13, so no longer babies.

I rarely mention them on here, tbh. I come for grown up stuff, mainly.

lougle · 29/12/2013 16:55

Of course you aren't being unreasonable! Join in. There are all sorts here.

Salmotrutta · 29/12/2013 16:55

Mine are all grown up and we are onto grandchildren.

I also want to type "calm down, they'll live" quite a lot! Wink

koTinkaBell · 29/12/2013 16:57

definitely not u, get stuck in WinkSmile

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 16:58

I understand about discrimination and have drummed home to my boys a phrase from Middlemarch (did it for A level and it touched me) that everyone has 'an equal centre of being' ie think how you would feel. I know nothing about benefits etc as I have had my own business for the last 14 years and know that even if we were starving we probably wouldn't be eligible for anything! I do have life experience though! Two adult boys with a stillborn little girl in between. Four marriages, not good at them! Now coping with a husband 24 years older than me but gorgeous and a mother in her 80s.

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 17:00

How do I stop my iPad pinging when someone replies? OH is getting suspicious and I can't keep telling him it's bejewelled!

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LilacPeonies · 29/12/2013 17:00

I've only just joined and I don't have any children at all. Seems like good advice and conversation :)

koTinkaBell · 29/12/2013 17:02

dingle, turn off notifications in the iPad settings.

DramaAlpaca · 29/12/2013 17:07

You'll fit right in. Loads of us on here with older children/no children.

Mine are between 16 & 20. I quite like passing on the benefit of my out of date experience Grin

I find it interesting to hear about the things that bother new parents today. Before coming on here I had no idea that choosing a pushchair could be such an agonising decision & that they seem to have become status symbols!

Seriously though, there's something for everyone on MN. I tend to steer clear of contentious threads because I'm a wimp but I enjoy lurking. This place is such an amazing source of support, advice, information & entertainment. I love it.

JustSpeakSense · 29/12/2013 17:11

Mine are still young.....but I value advice from all those experienced mums who have done it before me (and all those who aren't parents, but have an interesting opinion too) loads on here that doesn't involve kids too!

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 17:49

Don't take any advice from me! They are alive but didn't follow my plan of ten a*' three A levels, gap year then uni! One has just qualified as a plumber and the other is an engineering apprentice!

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 17:53

Oh, it's not notifications, I am sent an email. Suppose I can turn that beep off. I hate things that bleep at me.

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rabbitlady · 29/12/2013 17:54

mine's 31. i'm so impressed. she's such a good baby. she's not sleeping through yet because she has so much to do when her husband and bf toddler are snoozing... but she can do all the things babies her age are supposed to do, and more...she's my pfb, my only child, my baby...and she won't even be surprised to read this. Xmas Grin

Caitlin17 · 29/12/2013 17:58

Mine is 23, no grandchildren and thankfully no imminent prospect of gc.

HappTeeNewYear · 29/12/2013 17:59

If you go to customize you can turn off email notification.

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Dingleinthevillage · 29/12/2013 18:11

I'll look for the customise, thank you. My eldest is 23 and has been with his gf for 3 years. No planned grandchildren at the moment but every now and then I think a slip up would be nice and I could swoop in as helpful and loving grandma. Wouldn't be for the best though!

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usualsuspect · 29/12/2013 18:13

All my children are grown up.

I like to stick my oar in give the young mums my expert child rearing advice.Wink

HappTeeNewYear · 29/12/2013 18:21

And encourage them to drink...

usualsuspect · 29/12/2013 18:23

They don't need any encouragement,Tee.

HappTeeNewYear · 29/12/2013 18:26

Okay, that's true.

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