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To pull someone up on lying?

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Wintersunsets · 28/12/2013 23:21

Bit weird, this.

I have two friends with the same name. They don't know one another and it's just a common first name and surname (think Claire smith, only that isn't their name!) One is a childhood friend, the other a friend of a friend.

My brother just joined Facebook. He mistakenly thought 'Claire smith' was the one we both knew from childhood and sent her a friend request. She replied asking who he was: they eventually established it was a misunderstanding and all was fine.

Then there was a status update - 'OMG, I just had a creepy message from someone asking if I went to XX High School and I said no and got torrents of abuse!'

Brother has sent me a screen shot of their conversation. No torrents of abuse whatsoever Hmm just a polite conversation both ways!

U to post a pic of it??

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AgentZigzag · 28/12/2013 23:23

In that case I might be tempted to wade in, it is a bit weird, she must know you'd see her status.

Are you sure she was talking about your brother?

justtoomessy · 28/12/2013 23:24

I'd post the pic of the screen shot as she is clearly a drama queen and taking the piss

iwasyoungonce · 28/12/2013 23:24

Isn't there a chance she received a different message from someone else, and she isn't referring to your brother's message?

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Wintersunsets · 28/12/2013 23:26

She definitely means my brother (she's named him!)

I don't think she realises he is my brother, as we have a common surname and I don't actually have my surname on there; I go by my first name and my middle name for anonymity :)

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waltermittymissus · 28/12/2013 23:26

Does she definitely mean your brother?

Stay out of it! She hasn't named him. Don't feed the drama llama.

Steph3141 · 28/12/2013 23:26

I would post it, but you may lose her friendship I suppose. I hate lying though and people shouldn't get away with it.

waltermittymissus · 28/12/2013 23:27

Oh dear x post!

In that case I'd message her saying you have the screen shot and ask nicely why she's talking bullshit about your little brother!

ashtrayheart · 28/12/2013 23:27

I would post 'do you mean my brother Hmm'

TheNightIsDark · 28/12/2013 23:28

Post it. She obviously wants attention so see how she deals with this type.

Pancakeflipper · 28/12/2013 23:29

I would speak to her and say think you are exaggerating.

musicismylife · 28/12/2013 23:29

Had anyone replied to her post, op?

AgentZigzag · 28/12/2013 23:30

Ahh, if she doesn't know he's your brother then call her on it.

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Wintersunsets · 28/12/2013 23:31

I've commented Shock i hate confrontation really but I feel miffed on his behalf that he is being painted as someone who randomly hurls abuse at women when he is completely harmless!

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Iamsparklyknickers · 28/12/2013 23:31

If she's named him then I think I would - Almost certainly the end of your friendship but given the circumstances is that a bad thing?

waltermittymissus · 28/12/2013 23:31

Ooh what did you say?!

cerealqueen · 28/12/2013 23:32

If she has publicly named your brother as abusing her on Facebook, call her on it, tell Facebook and block her, life is too short for that type of 'friend'.

AlmostMrsRobinson · 28/12/2013 23:32

Very strange, I wonder what goes through peoples minds sometimes!

I second ashtray, 'do you mean my brother?'

Tinkertaylor1 · 28/12/2013 23:32

Yes I would say ' do you mean my brother??" And put a screen shot on

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Wintersunsets · 28/12/2013 23:33

I said 'that is my brother, whatever did he say to upset you so much? It doesn't sound like him at all, I wonder if someone's hacked his account?' I'll give her a chance to admit she exaggerated (just a bit!) before posting my evidence! (Apart from anything else I am horrified by brothers bad spelling Grin)

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musicismylife · 28/12/2013 23:33

At least you know that she is an unreliable source of info.

DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 28/12/2013 23:33

I would have commented to, I have no clue why people do this and it can cause such trouble for people! She has no comeback really, if you've got the screenshots. She'll be making a fool out of herself.

Let us know what she says OP

Lilacroses · 28/12/2013 23:35

I would have to challenge that in some way if if were me. I think I'd either post the screen shot and ask her why she lied or message her, tell her it's your brother and that he's shown you what was actually said in the message. She will no doubt be very embarrassed or should be.

cerealqueen · 28/12/2013 23:35

You were too nice.

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Wintersunsets · 28/12/2013 23:37

Hm, she's claimed he made her uncomfortable by asking questions!

I have said I understand her discomfort but there is a difference between this and 'torrents of abuse' which implies someone swearing or calling you names or similar - doesn't it? Confused

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Iamsparklyknickers · 28/12/2013 23:38

Actually I wouldn't be banking on her being ashamed at been caught.

Drama Lamas/Liars will brazen out anything rather than admit it. She'll claim that the screen shot has been tampered with rather than lose face.

Probably wouldn't convince half the people who've read it, but there'll be some taken in by it.