To want the visitor in maternity ICU to stfu?

[Ginwitch]

She firstly has a cold and has been blowing her nose everywhere, she then stuck her head in my cubicle to have a look I presume as the midwife left the curtain open and has been talking non stop since 4.30 the horrible woman. She is a visitor!!! She woke me up with her disturbing nonsense several times too. This is a high dependency area for really ill ante/postnatal women and I have enough to deal with without her inconsiderate self stressing me out. Stupid woman and her disgusting germs! She has now taken my partners chair! Omfg I'm about to kill her. Even if she would stop talking for five minutes I wouldn't be too pissed off about the chair! Please tell me I'm being unreasonable in my intense hatred for this ridiculous person!

Aw Ginwitch, really hope the baby's ok.

Gin, birds was helpfully trying to give you reasons as to why the visitors are there, eg the woman needs a level of support not immediately obvious. Also, it could be allergies causing the sneezing. I think birds was trying to be comforting but also practical about your situation.

Sounds like things are tough at the moment but please take the support/sympathy/advice about the situation and don't see negativity where there is none.

I hope you all get some rest soon

Oh god here we go. Deleting Mumsnet app now. Thanks everyone else.

Lost all sympathy now. Someone offers an alternate opinion to yours so you fuck off? Jesus.

Ginwitch, sorry things are so rough. Are you improving? Can you see a time when you might be out of maternity ICU? How's your baby doing?

Take it an hour a day at a time.

Having an ill baby is no excuse for rudeness.

Some people give sympathy, some give constructive advice on how to try and accept things you can't change, to give you peace of mind. Both are well meant and I was just trying to point out that nobody is giving you a hard time on top of what you are already dealing with. I hope your baby recovers soon and that you have the support you need if you no longer get it here.

Dear god.Sorry you are having such an awful time Ginwitch but if this is how you react to someone saying the slightest thing you dont like- with NO malice intended it probably is best if you delete MN until you are feeling better. Good luck x

OP you are clearly unwell and under stress. Don't start snapping at people on here who can help you through that time please. It won't improve your situation.

How is your baby today?

Actually I think having just given birth to an ill baby is one of those times when I'd be overlooking rudeness and simply giving a hand to hold.

OP wishing you and your baby all the best and I hope you're home soon.

I know, right! How very dare Ginwitch be a bit grumpy under the circumstances. Birds' comments were not at all patronising or unhelpful.

Chin up Ginwitch.

Birds' comments were not at all patronising or unhelpful.

No, they weren't.

YANBU to find everything irritating at this time.

Hope everything goes well and remember to look after yourself, as well.

Sorry but I have to agree that this is one if those times when you do overlook people's social faux pas

Post birth it is easy to feel under attack even when the person didn't mean it that way.

When your child is dangerously ill and opposed to has a sniffle it is understandable if you arent expressing yourself at your best or if you are less than patient of any perceived criticism.

Ginwitch is a regular poster (ie not a troll) and if she wants to bite someone's head off because she is helpless, angry and frightened for her baby's life better ours than her husbands or the staff/patients/visitors on the ward.
Personally I don't have a problem with that

Nicely said birds

I think this is probably one of those situations where the OP is allowed to offload regardless. x

I can't believe that a this is an environment where shared rooms are remotely appropriate. One person's need for support does not mean that the support has the right to impinge on the comfort, quiet and well being of any other patient. You can be there, be supportive and also STFU all at the same time. Also, an ill visitor who passes on germs can mean a new parent not being able to visit their child in the care ward for the risk of passing on an illness among young babies who can't handle those germs.

OP is long gone.

I hope she and her baby are okay.

the lack of empathy on here is astounding sometimes dear god.
gin I really hope you and your baby are doing ok.

Yes I'm sure right now tge op should be worried about whether she's pissed some off
op hope you baby is well very soon.

Gin, I hope you and baby are okay, it is a really frightening and stressful time and the midwives should have asked her to leave other patients alone.

Last Christmas I was extremely poorly with a prem baby on a transitional care ward and I was bugged too by people that knew my family and worked in the hospital. People do mean well but it is the last thing you need, when all you want is to take yourself and your baby home.

Hope you and baby are doing ok and will be home soon op.

That woman was being ridiculous, ywnbu.

If youre feeling up to it, maybe you could tell the midwives how you felt and ask them to ensure that it doesnt happen again with someone else. Its a tough balancing act trying tomeet everyones needs but they should ensure one person isnt catered for at the expense of anothers feelings.

I would be steaming about this, too. Hope your baby does very, very well and you are both speedily back in your own home.

Hope you get you and baby home soon gin.

My ds is 15 days old and if he were poorly then everyone and anyone could fuck right off.