To be disappointed with friend for buying a dog as a Christmas present?

[RandyRudolf]

I'm so disappointed with my friend. She's bought her daughter a puppy for Christmas. Not only am I disappointed but extremely annoyed with her, I think she's being bloody selfish. I think at some point if she mentions the gift to me I am going to have to speak my mind.

The reason I feel as I do is that she has form for buying pets and then getting rid of them a few months later. Last year she got a kitten and within months she discarded it, locked it out of the house until it stopped hanging around trying to get back in. She didn't even have the decency to take the poor thing to a cats home.

She works full time practically so I have no idea how she expects to care for this puppy in the early days. She's always complaining she's skint and I wonder has she taken into account the costs of looking after a dog, not to mention the time commitment considering a dog's lifespan.

Arrghh, I just needed to vent, I really dislike people who have this attitude to animal welfare. This also makes me question my friendship with her if I'm honest.

Yes stay fb friends so you can make sure she is looking after the puppy properly and at least make sure it goes to a good home if she does get rid of it.

can you report her to someone?
probably not, unfortunately.
But they should have something like social services for animals! This is so upsetting because we have a new puppy, we got him 10 days ago, and the thought of him being treated like this is unbearable.

YANBU, if someone I knew abandoned an animal like that then our friendship would go to live on a farm with other friendships.

I don't think I could be friends with such a cruel cunt.

I've known people like this, who just get animals as novelties. Just get the child a fucking Furby - that will do the trick and batteries eventually run out, so no harm done.

Ex SIL was forever getting cats, then locking them out of the house until they wandered off, getting German Shepherds from the dogs home (ones that had already been abandoned/mistreated) then not walking them/kicking them. The woman should never have been allowed near animals - yet she'd tell me all about how the poor dogs had previously not been loved . Strangely, her ex-husband (my exes brother) is now living with a woman how rescues abandoned pets (mostly cats) and re-homes them for a living! They have about eleventy million cats living with them - all homeless waifs and strays, all now very much loved.

DD had a friend at school who had a hamster for her 10th birthday. She let it out of the cage at home and neither her nor her Mum seemed to give a shit about where it had gone. Her Mum confided to me that she hoped the 'thing' had died.

And I also know someone (on Facebook) through my sister who got a lab puppy, gave it a 'witty' name and spent weeks banging on about it on Facebook before she got bored. After that there was no mote mention of the dog. My sister told me later that the acquaintance got fed up of walking the dog and her son (who was 4) had got into the habit of kicking it! It soon went off to be re-homed. Woman said 'it turns out she's not a dog person'

People need slapping sometimes.

Depends - call her out on fb to all her other friends. Do you think she would react to being publicly shamed. Or would she/friends just not 'get' what the problem is? You sound like you wouldn't be too fussed if she unfriended you :-)

Or, play the long game and see how long she lasts with the pup. Keep your eye on it.

Depressing - places like gum tree. The 9week old staffie pup bothers me. Getting rid/selling a pup. 'Good with kids' - how do you know - it's 9 weeks old ffs! Not sure why the pup more than any of the other poor dogs bothers me.

'My work has changed/landlord won't take pets/lovely teacup, x fashionable dog blah blah blah. Nice little earner. Funny how these ads ask for cash for the dog, rather than going to a rehoming centre. Hope you're all declaring your extra earnings!

www.gumtree.com/search?q=&category=dogs&search_location=Buckinghamshire&distance=0.0&current-distance=0.0&min_price=&max_price=