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AIBU?

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Original poster

To get a teeny tiny bit incensed when people don't actually read all of the thread?

26 replies

Salmotrutta · 24/12/2013 23:10

Before they post their contribution?

Yes, I know I have probably repeated/missed things BUT generally it's a more general "Do you think my DH is unreasonable to pick his toenails"

If it's a very serious or worrisome problem I do try to read everything before I post.

Writing it all down has been cathartic and may stop me being horrible on a thread so I'll leave it at that.

Merry Christmas one and all! X

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 24/12/2013 23:11

FFS if he wants to pick his toenails then let him....

Xmas Wink
Original poster
Salmotrutta · 24/12/2013 23:18

Well quite Grin

Bu honestly, on two or three threads today there were self righteous posters jumping in who clearly hadn't RTFT.

If you catch my drift.

OP posts:
VonHerrBurton · 24/12/2013 23:21

So you see a post you feel strongly about, or have a solution for the OP, or just want to be supportive.....but there's 22 pages of thread. Would you honestly read every single post? Really?

I wouldn't. I would try the first few pages to get a feeling for it but I haven't got the time, patience or inclination to read page after page of advice just to offer you my gem of advice about his toenails.

FluffyJumper · 24/12/2013 23:24

YABU

AnuvvaMuvva · 24/12/2013 23:28

Can you be a tiny bit incensed? Isn't that like being a tiny bit pregnant..?

YetAnotherFucker · 24/12/2013 23:30

YANBU, if they can't read the whole thread then at least the OP and OP's comments.

sykadelic15 · 24/12/2013 23:35

What I do is open it to show all msgs and then Ctrl+F for the OP's replies if it's a huge thread. Then I get a good idea of what's been going on.

revivingsnowshower · 24/12/2013 23:35

Lolanuvvamuvva Xmas Grin

Original poster
Salmotrutta · 24/12/2013 23:39

Well, as has been pointed out, it's not so hard to at least highlight the OPs posts and read them?

And do you really imagine that after 20 odd pages you are going to provide a shining beacon of an insight that hasn't already been mentioned?

Sorry to appear rude, but I have read at least 2/3 threads today when people have jumped in all full of self-righteousness/outrage/whatever, only to discover they should have RTFT.

OP posts:
Original poster
Salmotrutta · 24/12/2013 23:42

Oh yes.

Lol Annuva

Is incensed (what with it being an emotion) yes/no state?

I think emotions show degrees?

Unlike pregnancy...

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 24/12/2013 23:46

I know what you mean Salmotrutta

I'm buggered if I'm going to read 100s of posts before bestowing my wisdom upon a thread...but at least I read the highlighted OP's offerings Grin

WorraLiberty · 24/12/2013 23:48

Could you piss on an incense stick?

Nanny0gg · 24/12/2013 23:50

I can live without them reading the whole thread, but at least read the OP's posts!

They are somewhat relevant!

Original poster
Salmotrutta · 24/12/2013 23:50

Thank you Worra. Grin

I am tired, grumpy and in the mood for a bunfight.

OP posts:
Lweji · 24/12/2013 23:54

And do you really imagine that after 20 odd pages you are going to provide a shining beacon of an insight that hasn't already been mentioned?
Well, it depends on how the thread went. Which really makes it necessary to RTFT, yes.

puntasticusername · 25/12/2013 00:02

I haven't read the whole thread, but I just wanted to say I think YANBU. I mean, is it really likely that 20 pages in, someone is going to provide a marvellous insight that hasn't already been mentioned?

(too soon?)

Smile
Original poster
Salmotrutta · 25/12/2013 00:04

Yes and yes.

OP posts:
NurseRoscoe · 25/12/2013 00:13

sykadelic15 I like that idea! I'm guilty of getting wound up and posting before I've read the whole thing as I get agitated reading the same reply slightly reworded 15 times over

TheBigJessie · 25/12/2013 00:17

This annoys me too. You have to have a very intelligent, incisive mind to make a relevant, helpful point purely based on an OP, that was not made in the previous 10 pages. And if you had one of those, you'd be reading the OP's subsequent posts in the thread before you posted! Ctrl +F or using Mumsnet's "highlight thread-starter's posts" option both work well.

monicalewinski · 25/12/2013 00:33

I generally do read as much as I can be arsed with (if it's run to LOADS of pages), and always the OP's posts - but sometimes I get so cross I do end up re-hashing what's more than likely already been said because I just have to say something.

Ps SANTA'S BEEN!!!!! Xmas GrinXmas Grin

EmpressOfTheWellOfLostPlots · 25/12/2013 00:37

It's not just about repeating points either.

Threads move on. Things change. And posters who give advice based on only the first few pages can look like right twits.

Upcycled · 25/12/2013 00:48

My problem is with people who don't read the OP properly and dont reply accordingly.

TotallyBursarforHogswatch · 25/12/2013 03:22

Well frankly it's up to him if he picks his toenails. Rules about communal areas, fine, rules about not picking in privacy? Pfft, not in my democratic, one man one vote country.
Anyway, it could be worse, he could be chewing them off. Yabu.
So, so very U. Toenail Stalin.

TotallyBursarforHogswatch · 25/12/2013 03:25

Yanbu, skim op's post and the last few at least. More often than not you'll find pertinent info on the long and more serious or argumentative threads.

Merry Christmas everyone - have a lovely day.

DoubleLifeIsALifeOfSorts · 25/12/2013 03:37

Yes I think it's rubbish, especially when people leap in with their 'look at me I'm so clever' remarks and hmm faces... Completely ignoring the OP and being really shitty just to work off some angst themselves. It's not big, it's not clever, and it's often really destructive.