old age is not an excuse for bigotry and nastiness

[MountainHeights]

Dh's grandpa is 86, he is very healthy, active and intelligent. However he is a nasty, mean old man who I have real trouble tolerating and I'm fed up of being told, 'oh well, thats just grandpa'. In the past I've been told I'm an unsuitable wife/ mother as I work and don't obey my husband, I've listened to him be extremely racist, sexist and down right rude. However today took the biscuit. We were talking about big things which happened in the world when he interjected with the following about the terrorist attack on the twin towers, he said it made his day when that happened and shame they didn't kill more people, he didn't like americans and though he hates muslims as well he is glad a few of them died and thinks if they die whilst killing americans its killing two birds with one stone. He then laughed when I pointed out in shock that thousand of innocent people died, to which he said the planet is over populated and he hopes muslims have more success soon. Dh, mil and fil just say 'oh thats grandpa, I wouldn't pay any attention', however he really thinks everyone believes as he does as no one ever challenges him. Today I challenged him and dh just hushed me! I get the views of different generations etc, b6t it makes me furious that these comments and attitudes are supposed to go unchallenged, especially when my children are present. What sort of lesson does that teach them? Aibu?

I dont agree rabbitlady you have missed the point spectacularly!
don't think so. maybe your point wasn't clearly made?

I mean the point of this whole post.

It's not the view of a different generation. It's such an extreme opinion it sounds like he's enjoying winding you up.

I'm with your DH and his parents. You shouldn't pay him any attention.

This sounds really nasty but at that age they don't do so much, aren't as busy so small talk is very limited. It's
all the past, people they have hated over the years, people who are no longer with us and stuff to just cause a stir
and get a reaction. I too face this on a daily basis with elderly parents. Surprised I have a tongue left I've bitten it so many times ....

Age is no excuse at all. My grandma, currently waiting out her last days in the room next door, has never in forty years - the limit of my personal memory of her, and I doubt she was different before - said an unkind word about anyone that hadn't thoroughly earned it, and refused to tolerate racism at all after having been victim of it most of her life. And growing up hard isn't an excuse either, she left school at 9 and left home to emigrate to this country at 14: that was also the year she owned her first pair of shoes.

theres still disability discrimination around. and that's not just from old people. sometimes the young able bodied are the worst.

All of you are WRONG. Stop abusing old people or i'll report you. This old man has a point. Spaghetti monster you need to learn respect. You silly boos won't drown him out. THE GUNS OF WW2 took his hearing. Anyway all you girls have been corrected and put in your places. Now you won't abuse the elderly again. Just doing my bit for men.

RespectYourElders Did you spend a lot of time looking for a zombie thread just to be rude to us "girls" and "put us in our place"?

Also, kindly FOTTFSOFAWYGTFOSM

This isn't really a Red Pill kind of forum. Clue's in the name.

...I'm in the US and not familiar with UK school schedules. Can I take that post to mean it's half-term break?

This reminds me of my then 88 year old great Aunt telling us that black people were shitting out their windows in Rotterdam. Apparently it was completely true because someone random who I've never met told her daughter.

Really I think you just roll your eyes and move on.

I hope that my kids and other younger people let me know, as I age, if I am sounding out of step. I want to keep growing until I die, and staying current is part of that.

I certainly challenge older relatives if they say bigoted things-I don't put much store in politeness when someone is being unpleasant.

Although I do not possess the graciousness or restraint (both of which I admire greatly) of the typical British person, I think.

It sounds like he's having a laugh being a goady fucker. And if not it's his views.

My mum says things now that would never have passed her lips when she was younger. Don't know if it's due to aging and the degenerative effect on the brain or she just doesn't care anymore (due to aging health etc). Either way she is an elderly woman and I will give her the benefit of the doubt.

YADNBU. I hate this 'but they're old' bollocks to excuse foul behaviour. He is a cunt, pure and simple. And I wouldn't want my kids around it.