To have shouted at my DH?

[Whoopiepie]

And actually think he's bloody stupid? I'm pretty sure I'm not...

He's making a rice crispie treats house with the DC (instead of a gingerbread house, one of the DC doesn't like gingerbread and I saw the kit in the supermarket). I've just popped into the kitchen and found him using a saucepan on the hob with my two year old stood on a chair right in front of it, within arms reach. I panicked a bit (a lot, I have a huge scar on my leg from a childhood burn) and shouted at him to move her away. Her hand went dangerously near the burner twice in the time it took him to argue with me that she was fine FFS!!!

He won't admit he's wrong and says its fine as 'he was watching her'. I have apologised for the actual shouting, but he still doesn't think he's done anything stupid/wrong.

I hate it when 'Im watching him/her' comes out.

IMO that was not a clever thing to do. Id have gone ape shit.

Well, I think yanbu. But then, you will no doubt be shouted down for the shouting, and I'm sure someone will spout the ' its his child , his choice' line. But vtech agrees, so its ok.

I'm sure someone will spout the ' its his child , his choice' line.

Why is this spouting?

If you were shouting at him, you were distracting him from looking after your DD. Not the wisest of tactics.

Nope, that was not safe.

(what he did I mean, not your shouting)

I'd have probably just lifted her away myself first to save time arguing about it....

Then I might have shouted afterwards - YANBU

yanbu he was maybe watching her but jeez really a 2 year old next to a hot cooker , saying that shouting probably didnt help i know you got into a tizz but it just blew everything out of proportion

complex I mean they will say its up to him to risk his kids safety as he has equal say in how to raise them. Like when non resident dads want to take three week old ebf babies away for days at a time as its his baby too. There is no solidarity on here.

So she was standing on a chair beside him watching while he stirred something on the hob- isn't that quite normal? Doesn't everyone do that?

YABU

You shouldn't have shouted at him

There's nothing wrong with little ones watching you cook on the hob. Even at two years old they know it's hot and they are learning all the time. You just have to have eagle eyes.

I understand your fear Whoopiepie. But I think YAB a teeny bit U.

Like when non resident dads want to take three week old ebf babies away for days at a time as its his baby too. There is no solidarity on here.

I'm sorry vetch, I don't think it is 'like' that at all:

NR Dad: No
Three week old ebf: No
Taken away for days at a time: No

So in what ways is this like the scenario you have painted.

And what's with the solidarity bit? Mum's always right? Dad's always wrong?

I'm sure that's not what you mean at all.

Seriously- do most people not do this?

Complex, you questioned my bit about 'his child, his choice' and I elaborated with an example. What's so hard to understand??

Well nobody would find you guilty of murder would they? It's almost required....

But shouting didn't help his concentration did it so...

Six n six

I let my young niece stand on a chair over the hob when I'm cooking. She loves to watch and help stir I thought this was just normal??

I am the parent who is more relaxed about things like this. My DC do 'help' me cook and DD has enjoyed chopping veg and stirring at the stove for a couple of years now.

Two year old though!

I don't think I would like that very much myself. They have even less awareness of keeping themselves safe than a 6 year old (which was when I started introducing DD in to this kind of thing).

I thought I was watching my ds the day he stood next to me at the cooker (I was at the cooker, he was next cupboard along) when he managed to burn his whole hand on the hob.

No matter how much you think you're watching, believe me it takes the splitest of split seconds to touch any part of the hot hob and by God did it make me go cold. He burnt three of his fingers. I've never seen somebody writhe (sp?) in pain line that before

He was 2 and baking Krispy cakes was a treat whilst 2 week old dd was asleep.

I don't even use the front burners any more, unless ds is in bed. I only use the back ones so there's no chance of him touching it.

Please please always do things like this at a table!

I let dd do this, she's 3. I think it's ok if you are constantly watching and guiding, point pan handles away, etc. I would only worry if I thought the person doing it was a bit slapdash to begin with iyswim.

My exdp did this, I was alerted by the scream which was dd (then2) touching her fingers on the hot surface and a trip to casualty to treat the partial thickness burns. Exdp was 'watching her' too.

But I just x-posted with Newton who also has a pont...

Point!

I honesty thought it "wouldn't happen to me"

And I'm attentive. I am. Now it's table or nothing. And out of the kitchen if you're not "helping"

YANBU.

DD really, really wanted to stir the porridge when she was 4yo.

So DH turned off the gas and let her stir, holding the pan. She somehow managed to lean on the spoon handle so it flipped over, landing on her leg. Hot porridge on a 4yo's leg burns.

I watched the whole thing - this is our 3rd DC and we are both very sensible people.

Again, YANBU.